Can blind love stay fresh forever? Is there a reason to continue? Use the following criteria to test the man you are clinging to or any man you may fall in love with in the future to see if he is the right one for you. Lust? You know, it goes as fast as it comes, and it feels like a piano being dropped on your head. Love? It is a completely different feeling. It is a test of endurance and persistence. Beyond caring for each other and common hobbies (such as eating the same food and watching the same movies), the most important thing is the person who deserves it. The man you are devoted to makes you incredibly happy.

True love is a little bit secretive, so it is not easy to know whether your love relationship has super power. The clues are not clear, and only by discerning the details can you find out the door.

I am still the same person

With him, are you the "modified version" or the 100% "original version"? Sacrifice one's identity, beliefs and interests in order to cater to the other person, and change the past consistent style. This kind of love may be able to be maintained temporarily, but it may become a problem in the long run.

When you enter the world of two people, you can be affectionate and affectionate. In addition, you should also have a free sky to live a wonderful life: yoga, Latin, and women's gangs, all the same, with the enthusiasm for pursuing idols. No less than before. The new concepts and experiences gained from the free world will constantly inject vitality and motivation into your love relationship and complement each other. If you become his significant other and completely give up your own life, you will gradually lose yourself, and no matter how passionate your passion is, it will turn into a stagnant wave.

Case: After 26-year-old Guo Yi fell in love, she only had Wenfeng in her eyes. She would accompany him and have sex with him when she had time. The party animal who used to go to every party was no longer keen on socializing. Whenever there was a party, she would try her best to avoid it, and her identity became increasingly blurred. "Are people who fall in love blind? Are they all like me and can't help themselves? After the two of us stayed together for a few months, I suddenly found that I missed my old friend and the days before Wen Feng."

Voiceover: As long as you bravely step out of the small world of two people and expand your horizons, you will find that even if there is a quarrel or a rift in the relationship, you can still be free and detached. Love is not the whole meaning of life. Even if you have your own world, the end of the world will not come. There are more meaningful things worthy of your attention. When you were crazy about love, your friends were forgotten by you. Now it's not too late to get in touch with each other. At least once a week, you can also agree to date only yourself - sit in Starbucks and read the newspaper while sipping coffee; visit a convenience store and search for treasures; or set a goal for yourself to specialize in a certain sport or skill.

There is no winner in the War of the Roses

Both calm and noisy love will make people tired. Occasionally bickering and fighting will make the relationship between the two stronger. Two people who trust each other bring their conflicts to the table. Although they hold their own opinions and refuse to give in to each other, you and he have established a close and tacit understanding based on respect for each other. In the process, you stay true to yourself and admit the things you fear most about being hurt and the things you can’t stand.

Emotional boats often hit the rocks, which requires some clever tricks to resolve conflicts, avoid falling into depression, and avoid escalating hostility. At this time, positive guidance becomes particularly important. First of all, review your own argumentation methods, abide by fair game rules, discuss matters as they are, do not hurt the other party's self-esteem, and do not attack individuals.

Secondly, set aside enough time, put yourself in their shoes, and give the other person a chance to defend themselves; finally, don’t expect an apology or insist on a promise to “correct it next time!” Learn to look at problems from a new perspective. The purpose of solving emotional problems is not to think of yourself as a "winner" and look good on the surface. The relationship needs to be invested and carefully maintained.

I don’t have to compromise

When he flirts with other women, do you secretly bite your tongue and hide your expression, not wanting him to see that you are jealous? When you learned that he was unhappy in the company, would you deliberately try to please him? When you tell a joke to your friends, are you afraid that they will lose face?

It can be seen that you are trying to maintain a balance and hope that the two of you will get along well. Even with ten thousand precautions, it is impossible to guard against it, and those who should be stranded will still be stranded.

The key to emotional connection depends on whether you avoid the problem or actively face it and resolve it skillfully. No matter how embarrassed you are, you should be honest with him. No matter how shortcomings you have, this is your true side. No one is perfect. Sooner or later, he will understand your imperfect side. Perhaps, he will be hurt, angry, or even mad, but no matter what, you must have full confidence in yourself and him. In the process of running in, learn to To love the other half who has flaws but is real and complete.

Voiceover: In short, confidence is always the key when dealing with difficult issues in relationships. Look at the problem with an optimistic attitude - love is worthy of and can withstand the baptism of storms. If you are unsure, take a few deep breaths first to create a good atmosphere, make sure he is paying full attention and is ready to listen, and then go straight to the topic and show your sincerity.

The steps may not be consistent

He knows your dream of owning a romantic forest cabin; you know his desire to drive around the world - it doesn't matter whether the future trajectories of two people will definitely intersect. The important thing is that you can listen to each other, look forward to the future life together, and strengthen the foundation of love. Tolerance is strong, and rock-solid love can best embody the power of tolerance. Understand each other's values, outlook on life, and views on career, social and family relationships, seek common ground while reserving differences, and respect each other.

If you have never seriously discussed issues like this with him, you might as well find an opportunity to talk about it. There is no need to make a fuss, make it too serious or exaggerated, just mention it accidentally in a romantic environment and when you are relaxed, "What do you envision for your future life?" "What is your dream in life?"... Not only will you not think the answers are childish and ridiculous, you will also find that many of the differences between you are not problems at all (for example, he is a carnivore and you are a vegetarian), and can even complement each other very well.

Case: Meimei, 29 years old, “Yujie always wakes up at 6 o’clock every morning and never stays in bed. As long as I have nothing to do, I can sleep for a whole day. I don’t think different living habits will affect the two. Relationships between people are not fun at all - when I lazily got up, the milk was boiled, the eggs were fried, and the strong fragrance was accompanied by the sunshine. He was already on his way to the company. As for me, I was lucky that no one was there. He occupied the bathroom and couldn’t move for a long time!”

Voiceover: No matter how well-coordinated a couple is, they will always encounter some obstacles that are difficult to overcome (such as sexual disharmony). Don't be discouraged. You should stay optimistic about the development of the relationship between the two of you, dig out the problems in a timely manner, face them together, and work hard to find the best solution.

Release the most beautiful

People who are immersed in love are filled with joy, feel more satisfied with themselves than ever before, and find that they have become more interesting, smarter, kinder, and more perfect... All excellent qualities are revealed. You inspire each other, appreciate each other, and infect each other. A positive spirit permeates every aspect of life.

Case: However, for some people, when the relationship enters the substantive stage, the burning passion will make them "daunted", especially those who have been hurt by love. An, 28 years old, “When I first started dating Xiangmin, I was filled with doubts and extremely cautious. I hated myself for being like this, but there was nothing I could do about it. I had been cheated on by my ex before, and I was scared to think about the bruises all over my body. I would rather not have the most vivid love. I don’t want the tragedy to happen again. Xiangmin never cheated on my feelings, but in the end we parted ways because he couldn’t stand me, a woman who lives in nightmares all day long and has no sense of security!”

Old wounds are still aching. When faced with feelings again, you try your best to suppress yourself and hide your true feelings. This is easy to understand. After all, entrusting your sincerity to others is the biggest bet in life and requires courage. The more you worry about losing the other person, the easier it is to have fear.

Voiceover: It is normal to have a certain degree of psychological insecurity. You must learn to adapt gradually, but you cannot let this feeling affect your life. There is no 100% safety factor in life. Since fate has brought two people together, you have to give yourself a little confidence, relax and rekindle hope for a better future. Think of the joy of falling in love and finding your soul mate, the bet is worth the risk!

He is my rock

A perfect couple should also be a tacit understanding of the "duo": every move, every move, every eye contact, understanding, everything is there. That's right. Care for each other and be considerate of each other: when you are in trouble on the road of life, he will listen to you; when you are squeezed by others, he will come to your rescue like an airborne soldier; when you are not feeling well, he will bring you hot comforting chicken soup. ...It is such a spiritual confidant who will always be your strong backing when you need help and support the most.

Voiceover: It is good to get what you want, but if he fails to arrive as expected and you are disappointed, don't complain, jump to conclusions, and shoot him as a "cold-blooded animal". One of the most common mistakes women make is to be duplicitous, ambiguous, and go around in circles, leaving men to try their best to figure out what they mean, which results in many unnecessary misunderstandings and troubles. Instead of doing this, it is better to put away your reserve, be honest with your lover, and let the other person understand your thoughts clearly.

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