Mr. Chen and Mrs. Chen are a couple in their late 50s. They have been married for more than 20 years. The handsome Mr. Chen has turned into a fat middle-aged man, while the beautiful and slender Mrs. Chen has also begun to gain weight. Wrinkles have climbed to the tips of her eyebrows. Time has passed. It left traces on their bodies. However, every time he has sex, Mr. Chen always imagines Mrs. Chen as the fair lady of the past, which makes Mr. Chen very excited. Mrs. Chen is also infected by her husband's behavior. As a result, both parties are quite satisfied with their sexual life. Mrs. Chen is also surprised. Why do I still maintain the mentality of a young person?

The sex life of many couples seems monotonous after marriage. Few middle-aged couples can be like Mr. Chen and his wife. Even after living together for 20 years, the quality of their sex life has not declined. One reason for this is that sexual fantasies play a role.

To make a dull sex life more exciting, sexual fantasy is one of the simplest and most effective ways. Usually, both men and women can have sexual fantasies. The situations and sexual objects that appear in sexual fantasies generally reflect people's true inner needs, and fantasies are often inconsistent with reality. The beauty of it is that it can increase sexual excitement without being limited by time and space, help cultivate interest in making love, and promote the arrival of climax. According to research, women who have an active and happy sexual life often also have rich fantasy experiences.

Sexual medicine experts believe that sexual fantasies have a sexually stimulating effect on married women, especially those who have difficulty reaching orgasm. If you are not satisfied with your sexual partner, not only do you not have to suppress your sexual fantasies, but you can fantasize about some fresher and more peculiar plots, which will bring more inspiration to you in the process of pursuing physical pleasure. For example:

a. Fantasy about a lover. Every woman has an ideal lover in her heart, or it may be a celebrity she has admired for a long time, her first boyfriend, or even anyone she likes but is beyond her reach. He understands women's desires, body rhythms and dreams, allowing women to feel warm and comfortable both physically and mentally.

b. Certain professions are particularly easy to make people imagine, such as airplane pilots, doctors, soldiers... they can all make women excited.

c. Create a romantic plot. A handsome and gentle man picks you up in a sports car with a bouquet of flowers in his hand. He invites you to a candlelight dinner and orders champagne. He praises your beauty, holds you and kisses you deeply.

Women can imagine a handsome man, while middle-aged and elderly men can imagine young and beautiful women. These "favorites" are fictitious and do not refer to a specific person. Most of the objects of fantasy are temporary. , the fantasy object disappears after the sexual life is over, so it has no damaging effect on the relationship between husband and wife. If you keep thinking about your sexual fantasy object all day long, or even fantasize about your colleagues or friends, it may affect the normal relationship between husband and wife, which is contrary to the purpose of improving the quality of sexual life.

So, are there pathological forms of sexual fantasies? some. Zhou Xiaohong, a psychosexual disorder therapist at the Sun Yat-sen Third Hospital, believes that sexual fantasies may play an important role in some people with overly developed imaginations and poor self-control. They may sink people so deep that they interfere with normal study and work, and develop to the point of " Obsessive-compulsive sexual fantasies. Especially teenagers, who have active thinking and poor self-control, may deviate from the correct direction under strong sexual stimulation. For example, in college, the most popular movies are probably pornographic movies, and there is a rule for watching pornographic movies: freshmen and sophomores desperately want to watch them; juniors choose to watch them; seniors are too lazy to watch them and get tired of them after watching too much. They think that everyone can watch movies, become models and teachers, and teach themselves sex education classes. After reading it, some people will have sex-related dreams, or secretly masturbate, and some people will find a girlfriend to solve the problem.

There was once a college student who was addicted to porn movies. He felt that everything was wrong with him and was very distressed. Images from porn movies would appear in his mind all day long, and he couldn't get rid of them. He saw girls having sexual urges, but he didn't dare to try them. He masturbated frequently at night, causing chaos in his study and life. This is obviously compulsive and requires the help of a psychiatrist. There is also a more serious situation. If you often daydream and fantasize about male and female genitals without any special environment, accompanied by drooling, staring, etc., this is a psychosexual disorder and you need to seek help from a psychiatrist. .

Friendly reminder: The space for sexual fantasies is extremely private, and any fantasy may occur. Experts believe that everyone has sexual fantasies, some fantasize about movie stars, some fantasize about nude photos they have seen before, and some fantasize about their first love. Most people fantasize about things that once brought them strong sexual stimulation. As long as sexual fantasies do not lead to perversion or violent behavior, then these fantasies should be normal. But once sexual fantasies are made public, they become bombs. No one wants the person they love to be thinking about someone else when they are intimate with them. Even if it is understandable rationally, it is difficult to accept it emotionally. Therefore, in order to make the sex life of husband and wife harmonious and happy, never tell each other the content of your sexual fantasies. Remember that this is a forbidden area.

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