Compared with the familiar body temperature of your boyfriend, sometimes a casual word from a friend of the opposite sex will stir up ripples in your heart.

The closer the relationship and the deeper the relationship between people, the more real and direct their words and actions will be, and they will show the so-called "objective harshness". If you are in a good mood, you may listen to the advice with the thought that it may offend your ears. And if the nerves are highly tense, the situation may become difficult to deal with. Therefore, in the relationship between lovers, there are actually more dangerous factors hidden.

When you first fall in love, you may think that since you are in love, you should have no reservations and talk about anything. As the time we spend together increases and our understanding of each other deepens, we will gradually start to become picky, and we need to be more and more cautious when getting along. However, most men and women in love still use love as an excuse and hope that the other person will tolerate them unconditionally because of love. As everyone knows, this is actually the most thrilling arrogance.

There is no real "blue-faced confidant"

The situation with friends of the opposite sex is different. You don't have to worry about touching his nerves and choose the way you speak carefully, because you don't care about him to that extent yet. This sometimes makes it easier to communicate.

But it is here that the trap lies. The authenticity and naturalness you show in front of friends of the opposite sex may be teased by fate and turn into a triangle relationship because of the other person's good impression of you.

Women at this time are generally shaken. The longer you spend with your lover, the more trust your lover will have in you, and the more you will have the desire to test yourself. In other words, women in love sometimes can't help but wonder whether they are attractive to other men. This mentality has nothing to do with being morally correct or not. If you have to pursue it, it should be a matter of conscience. But so-called conscience does not precede instinct. Women whose boyfriends are serving in the military and men who have just fallen out of love are the most susceptible to temptation. This statement is by no means groundless.

And you? Have you ever longed for an unexpected new love? No need to worry about getting caught because you'll end up with your own fantasy. Or bet everything on your long-term lover? Although it can be a bit boring, it is still worth recommending since you don’t have to experience emotional turmoil. Indulging in a strange and new relationship for a while, or being committed to a rock-solid lover, neither of which will shake you on the surface, but will slowly eat away at you. No matter which choice you make, your life will change.

Don’t let yourself fall into a triangle relationship

When her boyfriend breaks an appointment, a girl in her early twenties will make at least ten phone calls and throw tantrums by pressing innocent phone buttons. A slightly more mature girl would not do such a stupid thing. She would remain calm and refrain from getting angry on the phone, but in her heart she was already stepping on the guillotine on the walls around the room.

At this time, if a friend of the opposite sex sends a text message,

"What are you doing? I happened to pass by your house and thought of you. The air outside is so nice."

The opposite sex who sends this kind of text message will usually have a slight affection for you, but even if you ignore this kind of affection, he will not feel hurt. This is just the right, ideal physical distance between men and women who know each other well.

Will the girl reply? Most do. why? Because she is a woman. Even if you are angry with your boyfriend, you still hope that you will still be attractive in the eyes of others. The reply content can be roughly divided into two types. One is very quick, 'I was going to go for a ride with my boyfriend, but this guy went drinking and couldn't be contacted, alas! ’ This is the type who talks about everything that should be said and shouldn’t be said. The other one is a little distant, "Oh, that's it, let's make a call... I'm bored too", and then sends a not too excessive emoticon. At this time, you must have a slightly intimate tone, so that you look cute. Neither response is too much. Because, every woman has a little flag in her heart, which can be blown by a little breeze. But if it’s not a typhoon or hurricane, it usually just blows by.

When love becomes a habit under the corrosion of time, you may be tired of the ordinary life with your boyfriend day after day. However, since you don't have the courage to kick him away, don't let your heart be shaken by the occasional breeze. You are delicate and sensitive, and you need to have the insight to see through the true intentions of friends of the opposite sex. Because many men around us who look glamorous on the outside only have a one-time consumption attitude toward love. Don't let yourself be deceived by such cheap love, because you can't afford to be hurt.

The one who loves more deeply gives more

J, Do you know what is the main reason why lovers over the age of 25 break up?

It's "get married". Just like you once were. Even if it is not a superficial reason like getting married or not, there are too many couples around us who break up because of getting married. Couples who constantly quarrel and reconcile, and their love gradually cools down, will use excuses such as "This kind of man can't be trusted with life", "Living with this kind of woman is too tiring", etc. to prepare a safe exit for themselves. Emphasize that the breakup was not your fault. It’s hard for me to understand such couples. Since they’re not getting married soon, why would they use marriage as an excuse to break up? Eventually, two people who once loved each other will break up gracefully on the grounds of "incompatible personalities."

After we broke up, you said to me, "Senior, I am free."

While your sense of freedom is what I'd hoped for, that doesn't seem to be the case. I didn't say anything, I just remained silent. Because the reason why you broke up with him was not noble. When you shouted for freedom, the heart of the man you forcibly pushed away was bleeding. But you always pretend not to know. He hopes to have a family, but you say "you are not suitable for marriage", gradually become cold towards him, and prepare to break up little by little.

Although you seem to be calm on the surface, I know you must be full of guilt in your heart. I still clearly remember that after sealing up the memories between the two of you, you looked nonchalant on the surface. Later, one day you said that you were afraid of such a life when you thought that after your love with him had become a habit, you would get married and live in a decent apartment, and then give birth to two children. You obviously love him, but you are still looking forward to the emergence of a better man, because the future you described with this man is so unbearable.

If you hadn't said these words, maybe I would have misunderstood you. Because I really despise women who are both despicable in love and have no ambition.

Choosing to face a clear future with a familiar lover or start a new start with a friend of the opposite sex is actually a major decision for all women, not just for you. Lovers are too familiar, but friends of the opposite sex have a sense of mystery. Having an affair with a friend of the opposite sex is fresh and exciting but not without danger, while continuing on the same old path with your lover is boring and long.

But, you know what? It is this balance and wavering of women that makes men. The man who has been ruthlessly trampled by you will use this broken love as nourishment and grow into a stronger child of love. In the end, love or a stable food chain will repeat itself until the moment of final choice, leaving you in conflict. The one who loves more deeply will give more, because you already know that the problem is how much you can give up.