Nowadays, many elderly people are often ashamed to talk about "sex". When they encounter some practical problems in their sexual life, they are ashamed to talk about it because they don't want to be considered "old and immoral" by others, so this adds some troubles and troubles to many elderly couples. So, do older people need sex? The expert's answer is yes: people also need sex when they are old.

Case 1: An 80-year-old divorced couple

In early 2010, Nanning 120 Emergency Center received a case of syncope caused by a quarrel. It was one night at the beginning of the year. Nanning City 120 received a call that an old man had fainted in a unit on Huaxi Road, Nanning City because of a quarrel. Doctors rushed to the scene and found out that two nearly 80-year-old couples were arguing. The wife was so angry that she fainted.

After resuscitating the fainting wife, everyone learned the reason for the quarrel from the conversation between the old couple. The two old people actually quarreled because of their "extramarital affair" and they had already arrived. To the point of inseparability. "How do others think if you get divorced when you are old?" "We have no relationship anymore." "Don't you just like someone younger than me? And you still do that with her..." "It's not like you, who is 50 years old It’s not over.” “You are so immoral.” It turns out that the reason why the two old men wanted to divorce was because of sexual disharmony. Because of traditional concepts, the couple stopped having sex early, but in the past six months, the husband met an old man in his 60s while dancing, and the two became close. In order to pursue "sexual happiness", the husband resolutely filed for divorce. At the same time, he was opposed by all his family members, including his wife.

Case 2: The old man who bought “*”

In the Andrology Department of the First Affiliated Hospital of Guangxi Medical University, more and more elderly people come to consult on sexual problems. Recently, 70-year-old Mr. Liu came to ask a question. Old man Liu found that his sexual ability seemed to be getting worse and worse. He used to have sex three times a month, but now he can only have sex once or twice a month. He used to be able to last for 15 minutes before ejaculating, but now it seems that it only takes half the time, and he always has sex. It doesn't feel as strong as before. So, Old Man Liu asked, could eating chicken solve this problem?

After the doctor’s examination, he found that there was nothing wrong with Mr. Liu’s health. Not only was his complexion rosy, but his health was actually in better shape than that of older people of the same age. Although his sex life seemed to be failing, in fact it was just a result of aging body functions. Just a normal reaction. Therefore, the doctor suggested to Mr. Liu that he could continue to have sex, but if he wanted to last longer, he might as well try "*", which would have no impact on his health.

The elderly also have sexual needs

Do the elderly need sex or love? The answer is yes. Shi Hong, director of the Men's Department of the Ren'ai Branch of the First Affiliated Hospital of Guangxi University of Traditional Chinese Medicine, said that the sexual life of most elderly people can last until they are over 70 years old, and nearly half of them can maintain it until about 80 years old, and some still have sex even when they are 90 years old. There are sexual needs, and even the sexual needs of these elderly people are not weaker than those of young people. Liang Jihong, director of the Men's Department of the First Affiliated Hospital of Guangxi Medical University, said that according to surveys, even at the age of 90, men's testicles can still produce sperm.

Liang Jihong said that not only elderly men, but also elderly women also have sexual requirements. However, due to the influence of traditional concepts, they believe that it is improper for the elderly to have sex, which reduces the desire to enjoy sex. Chance. Liang Jihong reminded that sexual function will not terminate or be lost with age. The sexual ability of the elderly is largely affected by personal concepts, sexual experience and sexual knowledge, especially the influence of sexual psychology.

Will having sex for the elderly damage your yang energy? Can abstinence preserve semen and prolong life? Affected by these traditional concepts, many elderly people stop having sex when they reach their 60s. Shi Hong explained that in fact, the sexual life of the elderly will not damage the yang energy, because even in ancient China, it was still believed that sexual life can last a lifetime. On the one hand, it achieves the effect of nourishing yang.

In addition, sex also has anti-aging effects. Liang Jihong said that if abstinence destroys the body's balance, reduces the secretion of sex hormones, and suppresses people's sexual instinct, it will cause damage to people's mental and physical bodies. Research shows that the normal use of sexual organs can delay the decline of sexual function and maintain the normal secretion of sex hormones, especially male hormones. If not used for a long time, the sexual organs will decline, atrophy, and become useless. Therefore, sex is very important and beneficial to the health and even longevity of the elderly.

Really facing sexual needs

“I have needs, but my wife doesn’t, what should I do?” This is the biggest problem that many elderly people encounter. When people reach middle age and old age, one party's sexual needs will often decrease, resulting in an imbalance in the sexual requirements of both parties.

First of all, don’t put too much burden on the other party on sexual issues. After all, when people get old, they are still much worse than when they were young. The elderly need more communication and encouragement. For example, tell the other person, "What are my needs? What can I do for you? How can you improve?" etc.

Before having sex, both husband and wife must do enough foreplay. For example, you can watch love movies and TV shows to evoke memories of your youth, have a candlelight dinner, take a mandarin duck bath, etc. These can help middle-aged and elderly people get into the mood faster.

The elderly need sex, but they must not indulge in it, but must do so in moderation. According to experience, a 60-year-old man can have sex 2 to 4 times in a month; a 70-year-old man, a reasonable number of times is about 3 times in 2 months; an 80-year-old man, a reasonable number of times in a month 1 time is enough. Of course, this is not absolute and will vary from person to person.

In terms of sexual intercourse time, the elderly do not need to pursue the length and hardness of the erect penis excessively, because due to the influence of the body, the elderly are definitely not as good as when they were young. As long as you have sex and keep both parties happy during sex.