It is inevitable to make mistakes in life. He was once caught by the police and put in an iron cage in a detention center. Later, fear, regret, and worry were intertwined, and he almost collapsed. For this kind of person who seems to have special depression, letting him shout enough and venting it out is the first step in treatment.

"Crazy, crazy! I'm going crazy!" Mao Zhenghua, with red and swollen eyes, walked into the consulting room and shouted endlessly while grabbing his hair. People who like to talk like this are rare in my consulting career. Many people need repeated inspiration before they can say something.

It turned out that the night before, he was watching the news and eating when he suddenly heard a piercing siren outside, and his roommate said loudly: "Hey! Amao, the police are here to arrest you." He was petrified at that time. , my legs were shaking constantly, my neck was stiff, I had difficulty swallowing, and my eyes seemed to be unable to move. I could only see my roommate’s mouth constantly moving and his face constantly distorting. Most people will be more or less nervous when they hear a police siren, but hearing someone's prank makes him on the verge of madness, which shows that his psychology is relatively fragile and that an unexpected incident has stimulated him.

Mao Zhenghua was born in a remote rural area in the north. His parents were honest and simple farmers. Before college, he was the teacher's favorite student. However, after he was admitted to a prestigious university in Beijing, he felt very painful. He was thin, lived in poverty, and was not popular among his classmates. , the teacher pays attention. After six years of hard work day and night after graduation, he finally reached the position of development manager on the occasion of his graduation. After saying this, he relaxed a little and crossed his legs. This is something that almost every slightly successful farm boy has experienced, but why he was so frightened by sirens and policemen, I think this is the key to questioning. Based on experience, I surmised that he had trauma that was unique to him.

Sure enough, when I tried it, he hesitated and told me about a relationship he had two years ago, when his girlfriend dumped him and went with a technical secondary school student from the bank. A top student from a prestigious university was defeated by a technical secondary school student. He felt that he had been devalued. But a 30-year-old man must have an outlet for his desires. With a fragile mentality like his growing up, his need for affection will be stronger.

I feel like he may have gone awry in seeking to vent his feelings. Why? In response to such a question, he remained silent for 15 minutes before he raised his head and looked at me and said, "Do you look down on me?" I didn't answer but just looked at him sincerely.

It turned out that last year he went to the south on a business trip. One night he felt bored and went to the shampoo room to wash his hair. A girl of seventeen or eighteen years old, wearing gaudy clothes, came over and said, "Brother, do you want to play with me?" He agreed, and from then on, he frequently visited various pornographic places.

Finally, he was caught by the local police and detained in a detention center for soliciting prostitution. Fear, regret, and worry were intertwined, and he almost collapsed. He knelt down without dignity, swore, cried bitterly, and begged the police not to notify his work unit. In the end, he was fined 10,000 yuan.

This was his heartache. After Mao Zhenghua entered university, his self-evaluation gradually declined in the process of striving for higher places. Extreme events such as being imprisoned made his self-evaluation drop to the bottom. The more he tried to forget his humiliation into his subconscious, the more he couldn't cover it up. He is disconcerted by irrelevant things, such as the sound of a police siren. Compared with most help seekers, Mao Zhenghua needs to improve his self-evaluation and strengthen his psychological solidity.

First of all, we need to help him eliminate the tension left by whoring, and systematic desensitization is the best choice.

This method mainly induces the patient seeking treatment to be exposed to situations that cause neurotic anxiety again and again. If the anxiety or fear caused by the stimulation is within the range that the patient seeking treatment can tolerate, after repeated presentations many times, the patient seeking treatment will no longer be able to seek treatment. The patient himself will no longer feel anxious and fearful of the stimulus.

Desensitization means asking him to retell every aspect from being captured to being released, especially the details that made him frightened and humiliated. After six or seven times, he seemed to be telling someone else's story, and he also realized during the continuous telling. own responsibility. So, I struck while the iron was hot and made him realize that it was not his roommate who drove him crazy, but that he was the one who repeatedly extracted the original extreme panic and frightened himself, and he was the culprit.

The methods of desensitization and realization worked well for him. Later, when he heard police cars roaring past on the street again, Mao Zhenghua couldn't help laughing when he thought of his own experience. He can even take the initiative to tell his stories to others as a joke, something that many people who have recovered from illness cannot do. I know that he has passed a hurdle in his life.