When the word "break up" comes to mind, there must be big problems between the two of them. But feelings are like a seesaw. If you want to get out, the other person may be trapped in the game and unable to escape. As a new woman, how to maintain your own dignity when breaking up, but also save enough face for the other party, and break up neatly, elegantly and gorgeously, is really something that needs to be learned.

Here we give examples of the four major dilemmas that women are most likely to encounter when breaking up. It is a negative textbook. We hope that all girls can learn lessons and avoid detours.

The first sin: Gullibility

Case: His oath was too true

Ruth is a gentle and beautiful university lecturer, and her boyfriend Zi Chu is a teenager Famous writer.

Together, they are really talented and beautiful, and everyone admires them. But after dating for six months, Ruth felt increasingly lonely. Zichu left her at home almost every night, while he drank and sang outside in style, never returning home until he was drunk. One time, Ruth suddenly had appendicitis in the middle of the night and called Zi Chu, asking him to take her to the hospital. Unexpectedly, Zichu, who was dizzy after drinking, shouted into his mobile phone: "Drink, come on, let's have another drink!" After leaving the hospital, Ruth broke up with Zichu. But Zichu disagreed and swore: "As long as you don't leave me, I am willing to change everything for you!" To show his determination, he even posted a letter of guarantee on his blog.

Ruth believed it, and the two reconciled. It was fine at first, but after a while, Zichu returned to his old ways. Ruth was ready to leave decisively again, but Zichu tried hard to keep him... They separated and reunited several times, and Ruth was heartbroken.

Analysis: A country is easy to change, but its nature is hard to change

His many bad habits become relationship killers and make you intolerable. But you ask for a breakup, but he says he is willing to change for you. What should you do? You have to keep your footing. Now that you have decided to break up, don't look back easily. Men know that if a woman is soft-hearted, she will give up her principles and maintain the status quo without hesitation. At this time, he will actively transform himself and become the ideal person in your mind. However, you must not let flowers block your sight or lose your direction. The country is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change. The changes he made are only temporary. What you have to do is stop having any illusions and let go cleanly.

The second sin: being soft-hearted

Case: His tears wet my heart

Both Zisu and Jiang Jing were admitted to Beijing First School from Wuhan They went to the same university, and their relationship as fellow villagers brought them closer to each other and they became boyfriend and girlfriend. After graduation, Jiang Jing was admitted to graduate school and Zisu returned to Wuhan to work. As Zisu gradually matured, she felt that her relationship with Jiang Jing was more about friendship than true love, so she sent him an email and proposed breaking up. Unexpectedly, Jiang Jing rushed all the way back to Wuhan from Beijing after receiving her letter.

When Jiang Jing appeared in front of Zisu, it was during work hours, so she had to put him in the dormitory to rest. After get off work, Zisu found Jiang Jing asleep on the bed, with a pile of empty beer bottles staggered beside the bed. There is a piece of paper on the desk that says: I love you, please don't leave me! The handwriting was blurry, as if it had been wet with tears.

After Jiang Jing woke up, he hugged Zisu and murmured in her ear: "I love you so much that I could die for you. I don't want to go to school anymore, I want to stay with you." "His tears wetted Zisu's pretty face and her heart, and the two reconciled. But two years later, Jiang Jing told Zisu that he refused to let go, not because of love, but because of unwillingness. Since there is no love, then everyone can only be ordinary friends.

Analysis: Just give him tissues

It used to be said that men should not shed tears easily, but now in the new century, even Liu Tianwang is singing "Man, cry, it is not a sin..." Men not only learn to vent their emotions with tears at the right time, but also use tears Little by little, the light melts the ice in a woman's heart. Tears are really effective at touching women's emotions. Seeing a man cry, a woman's latent maternal nature is awakened. Maybe he didn't want to break up just to save face, and he didn't want to be abandoned by a woman, so he used tears to turn things around. So the correct thing to do is: if you really decide not to go on with him anymore, face his tears and just give him the tissue paper.

The Third Sin: Regret

Case: Unable to recover from guilt and repentance

Ling Yue and Yanfeng were originally a loving couple. people. But by chance, Ling Yue bumped into him holding hands with another woman in front of Yanfeng's unit. Ling Yue became angry with embarrassment and rushed up to slap Yan Feng. Such a commotion attracted a large number of people to watch. Yan Feng, who had always been gentle and elegant, turned pale with embarrassment and walked away.

In this way, a pair of lovers turned into two enemies in an instant. Ling Yue was resentful of Yanfeng's betrayal and often exposed his shortcomings in front of his relatives and friends. After a few months, Ling Yue gradually calmed down and regretted more and more, feeling that he was not as bad as she originally said.

I want to turn back, but my retreat has been cut off by my own hands. Ling Yue increasingly felt that breaking up with Yan Feng was her own fault. She fell into the mire of self-blame and guilt and was unable to extricate herself from it, nor was she interested in accepting new relationships.

Analysis: First determine your weight in his heart

At the beginning of the breakup, you will have a period of emotional fluctuations and your judgment will be disturbed, so you'd better not rush to get along with him. He got back together. You can find a place to calm down and let yourself think more about whether the idea of ​​getting back together is really because the old relationship is unforgettable or because you are not used to it. It is best not to have any contact with each other for a period of time. After all, even if you want to get back together, you must first know how much weight you have in his heart. During this period of time away from him, let him understand how uncomfortable it is to be without you. If we are reunited by fate, he will definitely cherish you more, so this journey of separation and reunion is not in vain.

The fourth sin: comparison

Case: There is no best, only better

After graduating from college, Yiyi and many people with sweet dreams went to Shenzhen together. With her fluent English and pretty appearance, Yiyi quickly found a job as a translator. But many computer majors hit a wall for three months before they found a warehouse management job in a Taiwan-funded company. The salary was not high, and their subsequent development was much worse than that of Yiyi. Their quarrels developed into a cold war, and finally Yiyi took the initiative Suggest to break up.

Although they broke up, Yiyi is still very dependent on her psychologically. When she encounters troubles in life, she is the first thing that comes to mind. She calls him many times every day and calls him on QQ when she has something to do. Many of them followed Yiyi at first, but later they got a new girlfriend and deliberately alienated her. But Yiyi often sends him text messages, which makes her very embarrassed and his girlfriend is not happy either. In fact, Yiyi has also met many outstanding men, but although these men are richer than many, they are not as gentle and considerate as them. Comparing each other, Yiyi became a "leftover girl".

Analysis: Put your ex-lover into the museum of the soul

Think about it, if you don’t use your ex-boyfriend as a reference when looking for a husband, why would you let him go so easily in the first place? Women are nostalgic animals, and the most common mistake they make is to use the strengths of their former lover to compare with the weaknesses of the person in front of them. If you compare like this, what else can you do besides regret? Instead of wasting time, it is better to put him in the museum of the soul for collection, and then go on his own way freely.

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