Surveys show that more than half of women between the ages of 40 and 50 suffer from sexual dysfunction. Experts point out that "among the patients who visit men's departments, many of the reasons for disharmony in the lives of couples are closely related to their wives." Gender experts say. In addition, after individual male patients came to the men's department for treatment, it was found that the problem was mainly with their spouses, not with the men. Experts point out that sufficient attention should also be paid to female sexual dysfunction.

According to the center's survey on the sexual function of the spouses of more than 1,000 patients with sexual dysfunction, about 10% of the spouses of patients under 30 years old also have sexual dysfunction; among patients aged 30-40, 20.6% have sexual dysfunction; 40 -Among 50-year-old patients, more than 50% of their spouses have sexual dysfunction.

"The problems that men have in sexual intercourse also exist in women, and they correspond to each other." Therefore, experts call that when either spouse has sexual dysfunction, the other spouse should also actively cooperate and adjust the treatment. Physiological diseases are important causes of sexual dysfunction in women. First of all, women’s endocrine function is an important factor affecting their sexual function. Disturbance of endocrine function can lead to problems such as vaginal dryness and affect sexual intercourse.

In addition to physiological causes, female sexual dysfunction is also closely related to psychological factors. For example, previous disharmonious experiences related to sex, as well as inaccurate understandings of sex, etc., may affect women's attitude towards sexual intercourse at a psychological level.

Experts also pointed out that if the wife has no endocrine problems or external genital inflammation, if she still has sexual arousal and other dysfunctions during intercourse, she can use some drugs for the treatment of male erectile dysfunction under the guidance of a doctor to help treat it. The main job of these drugs is to help widen blood vessels and blood flow.

Female sexual interest and sexual desire disorder: lack or decrease of sexual interest or sexual desire.

Subjective Sexual Arousal Disorder: Absence or markedly reduced sensation of sexual arousal (excitement and pleasure) from all types. But other signs of the body's reaction still appear.

Sexual aversion: Extreme anxiety or revulsion in anticipation or attempt of sexual activity.

Don’t be too clingy between men and women, marriages will last longer

A perfect and long-lasting marriage should be a warm pot of essential oil. The keynote is mellow and rich love, which blends respect, understanding, and tolerance, and is dotted with countless tender feelings, making it overflowing with fragrance.

Huang Weiren, a professor at Northwestern University School of Medicine, is known as the "Doctor of Love." In his book "The Secret of Living in Love", he pointed out that the two sexes have different understandings of marriage, which in turn leads to different levels of satisfaction with marriage. Often when the husband rates the satisfaction of his marriage as a 7, the wife only rates it a 2. This is called the "temperature difference" in marriage. "People who are determined to maintain their marriage need to have a more objective understanding of the current marital status. Testing the temperature of the marriage is a good way."

Just like human body temperature, the ideal marriage temperature should be constant at around 37 degrees Celsius. Huang Weiren pointed out that such couples treat each other as guests, respect and love each other, laugh on weekdays, and quarrel when they have different opinions, but they can always find ways to understand each other and resolve conflicts in a reasonable way.

Everyone hopes that love will be vigorous and vigorous. If a marriage is like this and the temperature continues to be high, it will be easy to "fever" and burn each other. Huang Weiren believes that some couples always confront each other head-on. Both of them are very opinionated and say whatever they want. When they quarrel, they are even more emotional and loud. When emotions arise, people will inevitably say angry words. If there is no timely explanation and communication afterwards, it will easily hurt the self-esteem of the partner.

Some wives are too clingy and regard their husbands as "private property". They wish they could be together every day and demand to control each other's every move, so that the temperature of the marriage is always at a high point. This kind of dependent psychology just shows that the wife's soul is empty or immature. They hope that the other party can accept them unconditionally anytime, anywhere and put themselves first. But in the adult world, it doesn't work to force the other person in any form to satisfy one's own psychological needs.

And sometimes, the temperature of marriage will drop to freezing point. In such a marriage, the couple will avoid conflicts for a long time, fail to communicate when things happen, and the grudge in their hearts will become deeper and deeper, and finally they will become like "meetings are like ice". There is an old saying in China, "More sorrow is greater than death." Couples avoid conflicts because conflicts will bring pain to both parties. But in the long run, it will take a lot of effort to heal the marriage.

Therefore, in order to maintain a perfect marriage temperature, it is most important to learn and be good at communication. Huang Weiren believes that communication is to express one's own thoughts and learn the other party's thoughts, and cannot be denial or personal attack. For example, if the husband wants to go out for socializing, and the wife is not happy about it, she can complain: "You have been out a lot recently, and we haven't had dinner together for a long time. I feel lonely." This is a complaint, and the wife plainly expresses the trouble caused by her husband's going out.

But if the wife angrily says, "You are always like this, just go out and play by yourself." That becomes an accusation. To change your partner's overly sticky state, on the one hand, you must truthfully tell the other person that you need independent space and social activities. An understanding partner will generally accept this. On the other hand, you might as well encourage them to develop their own hobbies and social circles.

In addition, a study by John Gutmann, a professor of psychology at the University of Washington, found that men who help their wives wash the dishes and express their feelings have happier marriages and live longer. Although the reason for this study cannot be explained more scientifically at present, one thing can be confirmed. As long as the husband can do this and speak boldly, it will be helpful to the marriage.