The new study involved 32 healthy married couples, with an average age of 32. The researchers recorded the subjects' sleep quality each night for 10 consecutive nights. And the quality of their marital life was evaluated. It was found that the better the wife slept, the more harmonious the relationship between the couple was.

Wendy M. Troxell, the leader of the new study, said that a wife's poor sleep meant that the couple's interactions the next day were more negative. In contrast, the husband's sleep quality did not affect communication between the two parties.

Researchers say the findings show sleep problems such as insomnia can have a negative impact on marital relationships. Therefore, in order to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife, the wife should pay more attention to sleep.

A little jealousy can bring you closer

Everyone will feel uncomfortable when they see their lover chatting intimately with a non-relative of the opposite sex. This uncomfortable feeling is jealousy. Most cases of jealousy are due to the appearance of a "third party" that breaks the balance between the two people, causing one of them to become uncomfortable.

Jealousy is a normal psychological state and a normal reaction to protect one's love from being violated. Therefore, jealousy can be said to be an expression of love, and a little vinegar can be the spice of love.

On the contrary, those who have no emotional reaction when they meet a "third party" are abnormal and may mean that they do not deeply love their significant other.

How you behave when you are jealous varies from person to person. Some people are very jealous and will fully express their anger and dissatisfaction, while some people will suppress themselves and don't seem to be jealous at all.

Although as a kind of jealousy, jealousy itself is understandable, but too much "jealousy" will not only not be the seasoning of love, but also become the killer of love.

Psychologists have found that a person who is jealous will generally have two emotions:

Lack of confidence in the relationship between myself and my lover

"They seem to be a good match." "That man's appearance and family background are much better than mine. Why would she choose me?" "Compared with her, I feel terrible."... This kind of feeling towards myself and myself A lover's lack of emotional confidence soon makes him jealous. In order to prevent this "third party" from "tempting" his lover, he quickly brings his lover back to him. Staying away from the "third party" is the first priority for many people. choose.

Many times, a breakup will severely damage a person's self-confidence. There are also reasons for this, because in love, many people will feel that they are not attractive enough, and a breakup just confirms their suspicions, leading to strong inferiority and frustration. feel.

Possessiveness towards your lover

Some girls hate their boyfriends looking at other girls and will often lose their temper and even pinch their boyfriends as punishment.

This behavior is understandable, but if this possessiveness is too strong, the jealous party will keep a close eye on their lover, and even do not want their lover to have normal interactions with other people of the opposite sex. As a result, the lover is likely to suffer from the loss. Be free to break up.

For the first situation, as long as you improve your self-confidence, you can prevent the jealousy from being too great. Of course, this kind of jealousy can also be easily eliminated. As long as your lover "flatters" you well and makes this "jealous person" feel confident in the relationship. .

It is worth noting that most people of this type will hide themselves when they are jealous, because they do not want their lover to feel that they are not confident. If their lover is an emotionally insensitive person and cannot discover it in time, over time, these " Jealousy people" will feel that they are being left out and think that their lover does not really love them, so they will break up. At this time, the "slow" lover may still find this "jealous jar" inexplicable.

The second situation is relatively troublesome. Because it is difficult to change a person's possessiveness, no matter what tricks the lover uses to "win over" the "jealous person", it will not have any effect.

And people who are excessively jealous for this reason will torture their lover even more, hoping that their lover will always be by their side, so that they can feel at ease. This kind of jealousy is easy to detect, but difficult to change.

If the "jealous" lover can give up love for freedom, then this love will soon end with a breakup. On the contrary, if the "jealous" lover will give up his freedom because of love, then this love should be It's perfect.

No matter what, whether it's because of distrust or desire for possession, you can't be too jealous. Spending all day snooping into your lover's privacy by any means necessary because you are suspicious of your lover will quickly bring about the collapse of an originally harmonious family.

Therefore, even if there are some benefits to being jealous, we should treat it rationally. Below are some rational thinking patterns for dealing with jealousy, which can effectively reduce excessive jealousy.

Mode 1

Even if you really want your lover to be by your side all the time, you are the only one in your heart. However, you have to know that love cannot be a reason to restrict freedom. There is a saying that "a little separation is better than a new marriage". Love will not disappear because of freedom, but will be nourished by freedom.

Mode 2

Even if your lover chooses someone else, it doesn't mean that you are bad. Similarly, when your lover communicates with a person of the opposite sex that he admires, it does not mean that he does not appreciate you. All you have to do is be yourself and let him continue to appreciate you and love you.

Mode 3

Suppressing jealousy is not a good thing in itself. It can make your partner think that you don't love him or that you are not being ignored because he gossips with others. Therefore, if you are appropriately jealous, your significant other will have a more intimate feeling towards you.

It is not wrong to be jealous, but poor control of measurement is a fatal flaw in love. Trust is the basis for two people to establish a relationship. If you want to take good control of your significant other, learn to trust him.