In recent years, sexless marriages in Japan have grown exponentially. The Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare of Japan believes that couples who have no sex life or have sex less than once a month are asexual couples; and statistics from 2007 show that 35% of couples in Japan belong to this group, among which the husband and wife bear the burden of The liability is 6:4.

Why Japanese couples have disharmonious sex lives

Japanese marriage experts believe that there are three reasons leading to the "proliferation" of sexless marriages in the country. First, Japanese men are under too much work pressure and are extremely tired when they get home. They just want to take a bath, eat, and sleep. They are "powerless" for the couple's nightlife. Although their wives are dissatisfied, traditional culture makes it difficult for them to take the initiative to seek sex. Gradually, I've become accustomed to it.

Second, male chauvinism is prevalent in Japan. In a marriage dominated by men, the wife cannot express her personal opinions and has difficulty communicating with her husband. Instead, she regards her husband as the bread and butter and needs him to earn money to support the family. But because the husband is busy and authoritarian, the wife gradually closes her heart to her husband, and does not talk or talk to her heart. Naturally, her body becomes difficult to cooperate.

Third, the development of Japan’s erotic industry stems from men’s belief that eroticism is needed in life. However, once you get married and have children, love turns into family affection. Many asexual couples even feel closer than when they were in love, but no longer heart-stoppingly opposite-sex. Men's physiological requirements can be solved through the porn industry. Most women in Japan believe that this is a physiological requirement of men. Although they feel hurt, most of them swallow their anger. 35-year-old Yumiko and her husband are a sexless couple that the reporter came into contact with during the interview. Their sexless marriage began three years ago, when the hospital recommended that the husband accompany Yumiko during delivery to encourage his wife. The husband watched the baby arrive with his own eyes and felt that his wife was great and considerate in life, but he was no longer willing to have sex with her. "When I see my wife giving birth, I see her as a 'mother' rather than a woman," the husband said.

Japan has realized the negative impact of sexless marriage. A survey by Japan's Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare proves that children are vulnerable to bullying if their parents are asexual. If couples hang out in erotic places or spend their days in cold physical and mental conditions, the family, a basic social unit, will lose its due "warmth" and "cohesion", affecting people's mental outlook and physical health. Not long ago, many large companies in Japan announced that it is mandatory for employees to go home from get off work early and enjoy family life. At the same time, Japan's Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare also distributed a "slowly make love" reminder booklet to remind middle-aged couples who have entered the asexual stage to enjoy their married life.

What to do if your married life is not harmonious

In more and more families, the lives of husband and wife are not harmonious. This disharmony has a lot to do with the times and is also related to pressure. What should you do if your married life is not harmonious?

Analyze the potential causes affecting the couple's life. There are many factors that affect the life of a couple. For example: high work pressure, high demands from the wife, incompetence of the husband, embarrassment in life, fast pace of life, etc. Carefully analyze the reasons. The conflicts between husband and wife in every family are different, and the inducing factors are also different. Find the crux of the problem and solve it.

Make married life more regular. Due to the lack of effective communication and family life, many couples suffer from emotional breakdown and even divorce. In order to make up for the lack of emotion, the couple can reach a tacit understanding and achieve a more regular couple life, so that both It can meet the requirements of both parties, strengthen the intimacy between husband and wife, and improve the quality of life.

Husband and wife should be considerate and understanding of each other. Regarding the quality of a couple's life, both husband and wife must make sacrifices and efforts. Don't blame one person for the pressure of the couple's life. The couple's life must be integrated into everyone's heart. Both parties must understand and support each other, so that the relationship can be fulfilled. Gain life and enhance mutual trust and love between husband and wife.

Protect and care for each other with sincerity. A good relationship and life between husband and wife are inseparable from the emotions and interactions between husband and wife. Only by sincerely thinking about each other and letting the other party experience your true love and honesty can you create a good life atmosphere and atmosphere between husband and wife, thus Create a good prelude to life as a couple.

Avoid suspicion and suspicion in your life. If there is no mutual trust between husband and wife, then quarrels and conflicts will arise one after another in life, which will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife. In this state, although the couple's life can effectively resolve conflicts, the quality of the couple's life will not be the same. It will definitely not be very high. Therefore, for the sake of the entire family and the relationship between the couple, try to avoid suspicion and suspicion, let alone quarrels and abuse. This is not good for anyone.