Now that you are free to fall in love, you have the final say in getting married. However, there is a strange phenomenon that has always troubled people. Those couples who love each other and happily enter the marriage hall with a high profile should be more likely to grow old together than in ancient marriages without a foundation of love. However, reality is different. Couples who once fell in love turned against each other after several years of marriage, and then broke up. This phenomenon is commonplace, and the divorce rate is getting higher and higher year by year, which is simply shocking. And those families that have not divorced due to various reasons are mostly make-do families. We can't help but ask ourselves: "Why are contemporary marriages more fragile than ancient marriages based on parents' orders, matchmakers' words, and marriages without love?"

Those so-called women are becoming more and more materialistic, and men are becoming more and more fragile. The increasingly conceited remarks are nothing more than superficial phenomena, and the rhetoric that they are destined but not destined to each other is just self-comfort. No matter in ancient or modern times, there has never been a shortage of materialistic women, and there is a long list of love-minded men in every dynasty. However, we have never seen literature on the increase in the divorce rate in ancient times, and we have rarely witnessed the scandals or farces of the divorce of our predecessors. However, we hear and see the cases around us every day where once loving couples turned against each other and eventually divorced. Everyone will wonder why a man and a woman who had vowed to be together for a day separated as if they had not seen each other for three autumns.

In fact, the main culprit behind the increasing divorce rate today is the phenomenon of cohabitation before marriage that we are accustomed to.

In the late 1980s, two professors at Rogers University in New Jersey, David Pompennoe and Barbara Whitehead, conducted a 10-year study on cohabitation relationships. Their research report revealed that marriages formed through cohabitation have a 46% higher divorce rate than marriages formed without cohabitation. Couples who live together longer before marriage are more likely to think about divorce, and their sexual relationships are equally fragile. Because the longer the cohabitation period is, the more independent the two parties will pursue and the less willing to be bound by marriage. Therefore, the greater the possibility of never getting married, and the breakdown rate of cohabitation relationships is also higher than that of marriage relationships.

The deceased famous actresses Shun Dianxia and Zheng Shaoqiu were victims of cohabitation before marriage. It is reported that they had been living together for more than 10 years before getting married. It was not until Feifei became pregnant that the cohabitation relationship was converted into marriage. During the period when Fei Fei was pregnant and giving birth to a daughter, Zheng Shaoqiu was not involved with actresses such as Zhao Yazhi and Guan Jinghua. He completely ignored Fei Fei's feelings, let alone taking good care of his mother and daughter. When their daughter was just 8 months old, their marriage disintegrated. Most people would scold Zheng Shaoqiu for being heartless, but in fact this was all caused by cohabitation.

Living together before marriage, to put it nicely, is to get to know each other better, so as to avoid marrying the wrong man or wife. Many people also regard cohabitation before marriage as a battlefield to declare war on traditional marriage, claiming to have experienced the "convenience" it brings. In fact, this is an irresponsible attitude, or it is just for sexual pleasure.

Looking back at marriages before the 1970s, it can be said that it was basically the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker, and they only met a few times before marriage. In ancient times, people didn't get to see each other's true colors until the wedding night. The vast majority of modern people who think they are smarter than the ancients believe that marriages in the past did not have the foundation of love and it was difficult to grow old together. They also think that marriage without love is shameful. Some even think that people do not understand love. . However, such marriages that are not understood and accepted by modern people often accompany each of them to the end of their lives.

Because we have never lived together, after getting married, the mystery between each other will always exist. To uncover this veil, we must seriously contact and understand each other. As a result, a life of respect and respect for each other will last for a long time. Then, she became pregnant and gave birth to a child. The arrival of this child brought the two parties who were about to get tired of each other together and became a bond of affection for each other. When two people revolve around their children and think about everything about their children, when the children grow up, the feelings they developed after marriage will gradually transform into an indestructible family relationship, and they will become accustomed to each other's life.

At this time, it is really difficult to get a divorce. Even if the relationship is indifferent, due to years of living habits, each other's temperament and the life history of each other, they have penetrated into each other's bodies and grown into a couple. A towering tree. Who would bother thinking about how to cut down such a thick tree? If that were to happen, it would be a bit crazy. Besides, people who are already dozens of years old have children whose children are all babbling. For the rest of my life, the idea of ​​changing my wife will not even grow into an embryo, so growing old together will naturally come true. Of course, responsibility is also an important factor in the longevity of a marriage.

So, if you want your marriage to last, please don’t touch the landmine of living together before marriage. Only in this way will your probability of divorce be close to zero and you can have the happiness you want.

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