Some of the female white-collar workers having high IQ and high income appear to be very incompetent when it comes to sex. Some of them have sexual frigidity, some have sexual fear, and some have "sexual shock." Psychosexual disorders bring endless trouble and pain to their lives.

Most of these people with sexual disorders are subject to traditional sexual restraint thoughts and are full of fear of sex, and even become victims of "sex".

It’s unbearable

Wen is only 24 years old, but he has been hired by a cable company in the United States with a high salary as the company’s sales director. Wen's boyfriend is two years older than her and has been working for two years. Because of his outstanding performance, he will be recommended by the company to study at Cambridge University for two years. Grain is in a dilemma - her boyfriend is very eager to marry her before going abroad, but she is very hesitant because she has very little confidence in her sexual abilities. Because since they had a formal sexual relationship a year ago, she has never felt the pleasure brought by sex, and almost always completes the "task" in a state of "endure".

Wen also made a lot of efforts to bathe in incense before having sex to create a romantic atmosphere, but as soon as she came into contact with her boyfriend, the good feeling was immediately shattered. In addition to being physically unable to endure sexual intercourse, Wen also suffered from low self-esteem. She always felt that she had no feminine abilities and felt very guilty towards her boyfriend. Seeing the painful appearance of the tattoo, my boyfriend also became very anxious. His sexual needs were getting stronger and stronger, almost to the point of arousal. He used the greatest patience to awaken Wen's sexual feelings, but the lengthy foreplay made Wen unbearable.

It was like this before marriage, but it was even more unimaginable after marriage. From this, Vin developed a fear of marriage. The boyfriend is extremely frustrated because he cannot give his sweetheart sexual pleasure. The separation was imminent, and he was afraid of long nights and dreams, so he insisted on getting married to Wen. However, Wen was afraid that her boyfriend would fall in love with her after marriage because of her unharmonious sex life, so she was reluctant to agree to get married.

Full of fear

Why are two modern white-collar workers with high IQs so bad at sex?

Wen was born in a family of intellectuals. Her parents were middle school teachers. She was strictly disciplined since she was a child. Except for textbooks, she was not allowed to read any other books. So when the teacher talked about "wet dreams" in the physiology class, she actually asked: Why didn't I ?

The only daughter has always been the apple of her parents' eye. Throughout Vin's adolescence, her parents had been instilling in her the importance of virginity, leading her to believe that only girls with a hymen were complete and valuable.

Vin met her boyfriend in college. During the first three years, they had occasional contact. But at every critical moment, Wen always resolutely protects her hymen from damage, resists his "violation", and keeps him out of her body...

Until one day, when she was extremely excited and wanted to enjoy sex completely, she discovered that not only did she not enjoy any pleasure, but she even felt guilty, fearful and uneasy...

From then on, having sex became a completely painful thing for Vin.

Vicious cycle

The sexual fear of striae is generated through constant conditioned reflex stimulation. The process goes like this: During the caressing stage, tattoos are actually ready to enter the actual intercourse stage. But at this time, the concept of chastity suddenly popped up in her brain, suppressing her emotions, and her body immediately showed resistance. When she refused to succeed, she suffered great physical and psychological damage, and her normal sexual feelings were severely damaged. The result of this early sexual excitement solidification was that Chen's psychology gradually changed from loss and pain to fear. After many times in a row, a conditioned reflex is formed. Once her boyfriend suggests having sex, her resistance begins to seriously inhibit normal sexual feelings. The more she forced herself to relax, the stronger the fear became, eventually turning into a dual psychological and behavioral obsessive-compulsive disorder.

This is the psychological process of sexual frigidity or even "sexual shock" caused by sexual fear. Vin lost confidence in himself.

In fact, the tattoo problem was not only caused by her, but also by her boyfriend's impatience and mental disorder. Often when the woman is very nervous and feels obvious discomfort, the man does not wait patiently, but appears very anxious: he hopes to give the woman a sense of satisfaction immediately to reduce his frustration. As a result, they fall into a vicious cycle: the more nervous the woman is, the more eager the man is, and the more excited the man is, the more uncomfortable the woman is.

With the encouragement of a friend, Vin went to counseling with her boyfriend. After treatment by a psychiatrist, their sex life was reconciled.

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