Japan's private detective agency provides a service, which is "finding first love", and 90% of its customers are women. It can be seen that women care about their old lovers far more than men do. Why do women miss their old lovers? Why would you want to call them?

Why do women always miss their old lovers?

One reason: I thought of him by chance, and his phone number was easily found.

29-year-old An Lin returned to her hometown town for official duties. Passing by the gate of her alma mater middle school, those familiar sights and smells reminded her of her middle school days and first boyfriend. The innocent love affair of the past aroused her infinite emotion. Out of nostalgia for the good past and curiosity to know whether her former lover was safe, she got the boy's phone number from her mother and dialed him. phone number. They had dinner together and recalled the good memories together.

Benefits: Satisfies his curiosity and vanity, because he still remembers the past events many years ago.

Disadvantages: This kind of reunion is enough once, don't abuse it. Otherwise, even the good memories will be hard to keep. In fact, everyone knows in their hearts: everything in the past will never come back.

Reason two: Because he once said that you can dial his mobile phone number at any time if you want.

36-year-old Xiaowei recalled: I initiated the breakup with him, and he was very sad. The last time we met, he burst into tears. It was very heartbreaking for a grown man to cry like this. He said that I was a pain in his heart forever. But he understood my determination, because he really couldn't give me the happiness I expected. He said that I could dial his mobile number anytime, anywhere if I wanted to. Every Christmas after that, I would call him, feeling guilty that I had hurt a heart that loved me so much.

Benefits: In men's tears, women's vanity is satisfied. Comforting a broken heart is something all women want to do.

The Bad: Men are much more forgetful and vindictive than we give them credit for. When the pain in his heart subsides, your image and status in his mind will completely change. When you are still calling him with an apologetic and caring tone, he may be muttering in his heart: This woman is annoying enough, and she always doesn't know the correct position she is in.

Reason three: A woman calls her old lover to invite him to her birthday party.

Excuse. A woman hopes to see her old lover again, but dating alone will make her feel awkward, and she doesn’t know whether the other person is willing to accept such a date, so she is willing to use gatherings on some important anniversaries as an excuse to let her old lover appear with everyone. 32-year-old Mary invited her old lover to attend on her birthday. But among her group of relatives and friends, his appearance seemed very sudden. He didn't know who to talk to, so he stood alone in the corner. A very awkward reunion.

Benefits: Satisfies women's vanity. He is still willing to accept our invitation.

The Bad: Apparently he's starting to regret coming to this party. He won't accept your invitation so easily next time.

Reason four: Breaking up is helpless.

Why do we still have to separate in the end even though we are obviously in love? This relationship is an eternal pain in the woman's heart. She believes that he is the most suitable person for her in the world. Now that the objective environment has changed, can we start over?

27-year-old Charlene recalled: The days with him were the happiest times in my life. After him, I had never met another man who could make me so happy. I called him but he never answered.

Advantages: Women can think that he refuses to answer our calls because he is still grieving for the lost love, and he does not have the courage to face us again and lose us again.

Thinking like this can satisfy a woman's vanity.

The Bad: Life is cruel. Our wishes often go unfulfilled. He ruthlessly declined our requests to meet.

Reason five: Women are willing to call their old lover because they feel that he is the only person who can talk to them about their troubles.

Effie, 22, said: Every time I feel depressed, I call my ex-boyfriend and tell him about my troubles. He is more than a friend, in my heart, he is a forever lover.

Benefits: Satisfies self-vanity. This man still has the patience to listen to us. Does he still love me?

Disadvantages: It’s best not to make this kind of talk a habit. You must know that he should have a new love life. If he always receives your confession calls in the middle of the night, what will his current girlfriend think? Be realistic and don't always indulge in fantasy. We are already his past.

Reason six: A woman calls her old lover because she still loves him.

36-year-old Shu Ya said: He left me and I was very sad. A year later, I still couldn't forget him, so I called him. He came and spent a night with me, but I found that everything had changed irrevocably. I could no longer face him with the same mentality, because his departure caused me too much harm. It's impossible to forget all this. This reunion will be our last meeting.

Bonus: Great, the woman didn't cry when he left this time. We can finally be freed from the shadow of this failed love.

Disadvantages: Women once again realize that a man can change his love for us without our permission, and there will be no punishment for his betrayal. Life is cruel.

6 situations in which women are most likely to cheat

According to a survey, 39% of women have broken the taboo and cheated at least once, and the situations in which women cheat are surprisingly similar. So even if you are 100% sure, there is no guarantee that your girl will have her own thoughts once. Who says this is only for men? So it’s important to finish reading this quickly.

Signal 1: She has reached the turning point of 25, 30, and 35 years old

Every 10th or 5th birthday will become an unusual anniversary. Sometimes even men can't help but sigh about life, let alone women who regard the passing of time as their biggest enemy. At this time, women usually ask themselves: "What have I done in the past five years? Who is this guy with me?" Experts point out that women usually value life at this time and examine love and life. If everything is not as good as If she wishes, she will probably have an affair to give her a try at the life she is looking forward to. Surveys show that women whose marriages are unsatisfactory are three times more likely to have affairs around their birthdays than ordinary women.

Your solution: Accompany her and care about her. There are at least two nights a year when a woman wants to have a man by her side - New Year's Eve and her birthday. If you leave her alone, you are giving her permission to have an affair, and you are actually giving her a reason to do so. Remember, giving her a sweet sex is more cost-effective than anything else.

Signal 2: She got a promotion and got a separate office

Maybe you don't know much about this complex, so think about yourself. Women, like men, like to challenge themselves at work. But once the goal is achieved, you will ask yourself: The goal is achieved, but so what? This is how people are, once this goal is achieved, a woman will regard another important part of her life - feelings, as the focus of her next effort. Experts point out that women at the peak of their careers will feel that they are invincible, and continued success will encourage them to acquire more important parts of their lives. Besides, earning more will make you worse, and the same applies to women. A woman with an annual salary of 100,000 yuan is 1.5 times more likely to have extramarital sex than a woman with an annual salary of 40,000 yuan.

What you can do: Celebrate her accomplishments, and don’t become overly wary or jealous because of our analysis. Don't be like most men in China and be dismissive of your woman's success. On the contrary, you should publicize it with your buddies. If she feels that you are proud of her, she will feel that she is as valued here as she is in the company, which means that she will not seek comfort and recognition from others, such as the senior director.

Signal 3: She starts to move in and stay with you all day long

It might have been her idea to move in together, but after all, Chao Chao Mu Mu was not as simple as she thought. You know each other very well, every detail; you begin to feel as if you have nothing to say... At this time, she will subconsciously think that you have begun to get tired of her. If there are others hanging around her at this moment, it will show that she is very popular. It's interesting and attractive, and she'll fall into that person's arms. According to a survey, 41% of women who have had affairs have had affairs with their colleagues.

Your solution: Understand that you are a lover, not a roommate. Don't take her for granted as your wife, whether you are married or not, don't stop dating, don't stop romance, let him understand that you regard living with her as an important starting point of the relationship, rather than just chasing her.

Signal 4: She guesses you have done something inappropriate

Revenge affairs are common and women use them as a way to regain their self-esteem. Quite simply, she wants to be fair. Of course she may not hook up with you outside, but what you do will make her disappointed and angry and reduce her control over herself. In many cases, a woman's desire for fairness overwhelms her inherent value system.

What you do: If you did cheat, confess and apologize. But having said that, maybe you didn't cheat, and you can't escape her paranoid suspicion of you, because some women have low self-confidence and a low sense of security. There is no need to admit that you are unlucky. What you can do is to constantly acknowledge her and praise her, sincerely and constantly.

Sign 5: She is not satisfied in bed

As your relationship stabilizes and you get older, maybe you're not as active in bed as you once were. But for her, she may think more, and she will take this as a sign that she has lost attraction and that you no longer love her. It is not simply a physical need, but also a psychological need: she wants to prove to others that she is still sexually attractive. This is also a biological instinct of people to resist aging.

Your solution: Change it up. If she doesn't want sex, find out why and fix it. If not, then you know what you have to do...

Signal 6: She has decided to leave

There is another reason that needs no further explanation: she simply wants to end your relationship, and having an affair is the easiest way. There was once a survey of 100 people, asking them "What is the most common way to end a relationship?" The most common answer was: "Start an affair."

Your countermeasure: let her go, it's over, you're free, buddy.

alert! 6 excuses for women to have affairs

1. Infidelity is a temporary loss of the body’s sense of smell

Notice! Having an affair is not about stealing sex, nor is it about stealing something that can be converted into material things. Infidelity is a word that brings out sweat, shortness of breath, a pleasure that relaxes the nerves after being highly tense, a word that contains exploration, curiosity, excitement, anxiety and even guilt.

Having an affair has nothing to do with cheating. An affair is a temporary loss of the body's sense of smell and a brief blurring of the focus of the mind. A woman should be an affair thief once in her life.

2. Having an affair to satisfy a woman’s curiosity

Compared to men, women are always full of curiosity about the man called her husband lying next to her.

Many women want to solve this mystery until their death: Why among all living beings, I am the only one who has stayed with this man for the rest of my life? Therefore, a woman should have an affair adventure.

3. Having an affair can open up a woman’s heart

The process of this adventure is the process of untying the knot in a woman's heart step by step. The man called her husband is actually an arrangement of fate, whether it is an encounter or God's will.

Looking back, a woman discovers that she can never become an explorer, because there are only two words a woman can ever get from any man, including her own husband: loss. Just like opening a gift in a large box within a small box, as the packages are opened layer by layer, the expectations are getting higher and higher, but the result has been expected. What else is there besides disappointment?

4. Having an affair makes women better understand what love is

A woman is an animal whose thirst for love can never be satisfied. She needs a man's care, a man's attention, and a high degree of integration with the man's body and mind, although women also know what a naive fantasy this is. An affair may temporarily satisfy a woman's need for love.

5. A woman who is having an affair cannot express her emotions

However, a woman will soon discover that the love she needs must be safe and in line with moral principles, but as long as it is an affair, a woman cannot let herself be free and can't let her emotions run wild.

What is particularly important is that what women pursue all their lives is to be the darling of love. This feeling must be recognized by society, and cheating cannot allow women to experience this feeling. Perhaps, this is the true meaning of love.

6. Infidelity helps women understand themselves better

Everyone has two sides, a slut and a lady can be combined in one woman.

When a woman indulges herself as a slut, she will find that the world has changed; conversely, when she shows herself as a lady, she will discover the true nature of life.