Why do men like to ask about their girlfriend’s love history?
I don't know if female friends have found an interesting phenomenon that men are particularly interested in men's love history of girlfriends or wives, and always ask. If this kind of spirit of breaking the pot and asking for the truth is used in study or career, he may achieve success in his studies or career. If it is used in questioning your past, it may make you feel bored or bored. However, whether you are happy or not, you cannot underestimate this matter and do not prevaricate it casually. You must take it seriously and handle it wisely.
When men ask about their girlfriend’s past, they usually have the following methods: one is to get straight to the point, which is mostly done by men with bold personalities, and they usually just ask about the past; the other is to beat around the bush, which is mostly done by introverted men, most of them You will not break your skin and force a woman to talk about the past; the third is to induce you to tell her love history. Some scheming, insidious, and slippery men will avoid the most important things and take the initiative to confess their love history as if nothing has happened, and then force you to Hand over the past. On the surface, they say it very lightly: "I don't care about those..." So that when you pour the mung beans into the bamboo tube, you will shake out the big seeds. This kind of man will pester you like a snake. After you tell him something, he will pursue it and ask you questions one after another, bombarding you indiscriminately.
Why do men care so much about women’s past? Where does this habit of men come from?
Most people think that jealousy is a "patented product" of women. In fact, that is a misjudgment or overestimation of men. After entering a relationship, women pay more attention to his present and future, and do not care much about his past. Men, on the contrary, always care about women's past. Men are too possessive. They are not satisfied with the current state of possession. They hope that today, yesterday and tomorrow will belong to him alone. Women all hope to be a man's last woman, and men all hope to be a woman's first man. This is an eternal truth. Therefore, don’t think that in the 21st century, the mind has been liberated, men’s concepts have completely changed, and selfishness has disappeared. Men who have always claimed to be open and trendy still have a virginity complex in their bones.
In the novel "The Tree of Life" by the famous Japanese writer Junji Takami, there is a bar girl named Yumiko who is very admired by men. The man knew that Yumiko was very close to Soi in the past. Although Soi hurt her, Yumiko never forgot him. One night, the man dreamed that Soi was hugging Yumiko. After he woke up, he shook Yumiko beside him and said in a reproachful tone: The reason why you broke up with Soi Ou is that he must be very good in bed, right? After saying this, he abused Yumiko unscrupulously. Yumiko shouted in pain: Soi only hurt my skin and flesh, but you hurt my body and mind. It tells us a truth: As a man, you should learn to be generous. Being too harsh will definitely hurt a woman's feelings.
As a woman, we must also correctly understand this psychology of men. When a man cares about you and wants to know your past, he regards you as his future life partner and is ready to hold hands with you for life. A girl once proudly said: My boyfriend is very generous and doesn't care about my past at all. In fact, this may not be a good thing. A man doesn't care about his girlfriend's love history. There are two possibilities: one is that he really meets an open-minded man and completely accepts a woman regardless of past grudges. But such a man is rare. What you have met is probably another kind of man. He does not really love you, at least does not intend to spend his life with you, but just wants to be romantic with you for a moment. Therefore, a man's questioning of a woman is just a manifestation of selfishness. He hopes that his life partner will be perfect and will always belong to him only. Such a man is not a bad man.
Men who always ask about their girlfriend’s love history are actually a sign of lack of self-confidence and lack of security. Women must understand this, learn how to talk politely, know how to ask questions, communicate more with their boyfriends, and take the initiative to eliminate his dissatisfaction. As for the stability factor, as a woman, don’t be stingy, give your boyfriend more affirmation and encouragement, so that he can be more confident and open-minded. You should be honest about the problems raised by men, and it is best to let him know before marriage. If a man walks away because of this, you don't have to be gracious and don't force it. If you hide it, you may lose your marriage for a while. Once the truth is revealed, how will you face it? If he takes revenge, you will be in trouble. If you are married, it is best for a man not to bring up old things again, let alone be like that Japanese man who hurt others with his words. In this case, it is not a bad idea for a woman to tell a white lie, and then add "I love you very much, and I don't know anyone else except you." Will be attracted to other men", make him happy and relieved!
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