Why do men’s sexual performance go up and down?

It is difficult for many women to understand why their husbands’ performance in sexual life varies from good to bad. So what is the reason? Sexologists at home and abroad believe that this is closely related to whether the sexual life between couples is harmonious and is also the crux of the problem.

According to survey research, among married people, on average, both parties (especially the woman) are sexually satisfied once every two times they have sex, accounting for only 1.2%; on average, they are satisfied once every three times they have sex. Only 20.6% of people are sexually satisfied once. Most people claim that having a satisfactory sex life once in several times is considered very good.

It is understandable to pursue sexual harmony between couples, but the characteristics and differences of both parties exist objectively. For example, the husband's sexual excitement comes and goes quickly, usually about 2 to 6 minutes, and then subsides quickly; the wife's excitement is slower, usually about 10 to 30 minutes. But it lasts longer and fades slowly. The husband's needs are mainly concentrated on the sexual organs, while the wife's needs are not only reflected in the sexual organs, but also can be satisfied through language, touch, hugging, kissing, etc.

In order to have a harmonious sexual life between a couple, there must be foreplay before entering into intercourse, which is called sexual induction in medicine. It is mainly to increase the sexual excitement of both parties. It takes about 1/3 of the whole process~ 1/2 to shorten the difference between the two. The husband should give more touch or use words as stimulation, and the wife should also adopt a proactive attitude.

When having sex, you should think more about the other person, especially the husband, and you should think more about your wife. If the impulse is too strong, you should take deep breaths and other methods to restrain it appropriately; the wife should fully understand her impulse and actively cooperate. After sexual intercourse, if the wife is not satisfied yet, the husband can make up for it through caressing and other methods in order to satisfy the wife. Disharmony in sexual life should be regarded as normal, encourage and comfort each other, and build confidence. Do not doubt, complain or blame the other party to prevent hurt feelings and affect the improvement of the quality of sexual life.

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