At noon on May 30, a student from the Central Academy of Fine Arts broke the news on Weibo that a woman at the school left a suicide note and planned to jump off the building to commit suicide. The woman was the wife of the school professor Qiu Ting because he played with women. After persuasion by the police, the woman was finally rescued.

It is reported that Qiu Ting and his wife met in high school. After that, his wife silently supported him behind the scenes and contributed money and effort. After the two got married in 1997, his wife gave up her career and stayed at home to raise her husband and children. In 2000, it was discovered that Qiu Ting had frequent relationships with a woman named Lin. In addition, he also had relationships with many women and played with women. Now, the property has been transferred, forcing the wife to leave the house. This is also the reason why she jumped off the building.

In addition, there are rumors that his wife once caught someone raping on the spot and took a video of it. However, Qiu Ting, who was caught raping, not only showed no regrets, but actually beat his wife in front of the mistress. Such behavior made many students exclaim that they did not expect him to be such a person.

A must see! Signs of divorce or infidelity for men

Have you ever felt in love with him? Do you think he is worthy of you now? Are you starting to hate her? These have become the reasons for contemporary divorce. In today's society, although many people are not divorced, they have thought about it to some extent. Divorce seems to have become a "popular trend". Of course, infidelity also comes from the same external cause. So, what are the reasons why men cheat or get divorced? You will know after reading this article.

1. I was too young when I got married and made a hasty choice

People in their early 20s lack experience and are more emotional than rational. Many people don’t know what kind of spouse they need. The reasons for getting married are often relatively simple, either because the other person has a good family background, or looks good, or has a stable job, or the other person has a good impression of you, or the other person talks to make you happy, or even just because you have reached the age where you need to get married... Life After that, it is difficult for both parties to establish a relationship, and the seeds of divorce are sown as time goes by and they grow tired of each other. After middle age, they understand the type of opposite sex they want. After meeting each other, they often become particularly attracted to each other and want to live together.

2. Inducement of age

After all, when you are young, you have to work hard, get married, have children, work, and live in a house. There is no worry about any of it. The couple is busy working hard. Not only do they have no time and space for romance, but they also have a lot of talk, and both parties accumulate a lot of dissatisfaction and resentment towards each other. , but because of the family business, they were temporarily suppressed and ignored. When the family burden decreased and the children grew up, the two parties looked at each other, and the more they looked at each other, the more they disliked each other and became more and more disgusted. Just like one person said - he is particularly afraid of the night. If his wife touches him at night, he will get goosebumps all over his body and feel very uncomfortable. At this time, one party in the family will go outside to provide care and comfort, and it is especially easy for them to have affairs and divorce.

3. After the conditions are good, I feel that I have lost money

Many men, when they first get married, do not have adequate economic and social status, so they can only make do with choosing girls with average conditions to marry. With the improvement of economic conditions and the improvement of social status, the level of women he comes into contact with is getting higher and higher, and men's horizons are also improving. However, as the wife gets older and loses her luster, the more she looks at her, the more dissatisfied and unwilling she is, which becomes the reason for divorce. . Such men often prefer to marry women who are much younger than themselves.

4. The temptation of lust

Some people have never been in love before getting married. After getting married, they are busy with their livelihood, making money, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea. They have never found the feeling of love. They just go on like this and feel that they are at a disadvantage. In the future, when you meet a passionate suitor, you will be particularly susceptible to temptation, and will be particularly prone to indulge in the feeling of love, regardless of it, and lose your mind.

5. The temptation of desire

After a long marriage, no matter how beautiful the spouse is, both parties will have a period of aesthetic fatigue; the couple's life cannot find new ways, and it becomes an obligation and a ritual, lacking passion and boring; sometimes one spouse wants to try something new. method, but they are often ashamed to say it because they are worried about the other party's resistance, or even though they have proposed it, the other party flatly refuses... Some novel and brilliant ideas in the minds of men and women cannot be put into practice, resulting in a deadlock in the couple's life. Over time, I feel depressed and unsatisfied, and want to go outside to realize my ideas and look for freshness and excitement. This is a particularly important inducement for extramarital affairs and one-night stands, and is also an important inducement for divorce.

Such a woman makes men stop cheating

There are many reasons why a man would want to cheat, but there are also ways to prevent him from cheating. Some people say that you shouldn't be too nice to a man, but in fact, you are the one who ultimately benefits from doting on your husband. However, as long as you pamper him in the right way, he will always feel your goodness and your meticulousness, which can add a lot of warmth to the dull marriage life and make the "siege" stronger, and it is impossible for cheating to happen to your man. On my body.

The following is a real case, which may be of great help to you!

When I first met Mr., I was in my prime, with long hair and shoulders, and was good at writing and dancing. My husband was not good-looking and came from a rural background. Until he married me, all his buddies were still shaking their heads in surprise, asking how I could marry him? After marriage, I suddenly realized that I wanted to find balance and make my husband a virtuous and virtuous model husband. Unexpectedly, after seven years of marriage, I became a well-known good wife. After feeling remorseful, I decided to do what I had to do to advise all the sisters, and they must not follow in my footsteps.

1. Don’t listen to slander

I was spoiled since I was a child and was not good at housework, but I have a family tradition of being good at cooking. My husband is not diligent in body but diligent in speaking. Wife, the food you cook is the most delicious. I think it tastes better than in the hotel. As the saying goes, a person can be flattered by a thousand people, but it really speaks to people's hearts.

Under his ecstasy, I suddenly lost my sovereignty. When the nanny was not at home, I would show off my skills in the kitchen and bring out plates of delicious food. My husband was feasting on the meal at the dinner table, and his sweet words kept flowing.

After the meal, I said seriously: Just do the same thing. Wife, if a manly man cannot wash dishes, he will make others laugh. So what do you do? I take out the trash. The gentleman thought over and over again and chose one. I asked what about cleaning the room? The husband said without changing his face: "Wife, you are diligent and good at tidying up, so of course it is you. If a house's room is in disgrace, the guests will think that the mistress of the house must be lazy, and no one will blame the man. < /p>

I sounded a little annoyed, but when I thought about it, it seemed to make sense. Besides, my husband is very lazy. If I expected him to take the initiative to clean up, I might have to wait until the garbage piled up at the head of his bed and he couldn't get out. In the past, he would wipe the floor on a whim, but he would just mess around and not get the point. When he wasn't paying attention, I had to rework everything, so why not just do it myself.

From then on, the scene of my husband leisurely watching TV with a teacup in his hand while I lay on the floor sweating profusely and mopping the floor happened every day in my house. The voice-over is: Wife, our house is not a five-star hotel, so there is no need to wipe it so clean. Wife, you are like a young volunteer, working hard not for money or profit...

2. Don’t be too nice to your husband

After seven years of marriage, facing reality, I have learned a lesson: Don’t be too nice to your husband. Being too nice to him will invisibly lower your own position and raise his status.

In life, he could never find a change of clothes. When I was on a business trip, he didn't know how to take back the clothes on the balcony. He didn't know how to wash clothes. In his free time, he either played ball or played. He was really a rare leisurely man. Name of the unit: No. 1 in national taxation.

When colleagues talk about Mr. Humph, they say, "Humph, you've spoiled me." I said, I'm not used to him either, he just has this kind of character. When I go home and think about it carefully, I am indeed spoiled.

After my daughter was born, he slept outside alone for four months without ever washing a diaper or spending a night with her. My daughter is seven years old. Whenever I go on a business trip, I still sleep with my mother because she is too uneasy to be with him. .

He doesn't know how to protect himself, he would rather have a good time, and he doesn't want to sleep in pajamas even though he knows it's cold. I'm afraid he'll catch a cold, so I can only get up to get it; I often forget to take vitamins and other health foods, but I pour them and offer boiled water to watch him eat them; Clothes were taken off and thrown around, socks were flying everywhere, and I was picking them up with my hands as I muttered.

In this way, he enjoys my warmth as a matter of course. Sometimes when I think about it, he would say with a smile that my colleagues are very envious of me and say that I have a good wife. Yes, seven years of marriage is enough to earn a good reputation.

My close friend is angry that I won’t fight, and it’s useless to persuade me. My defense is, it’s okay to be good to your husband. He is no one else, but your husband, the person who will accompany you for life, so there is no harm in making him happy! My friends shook their heads repeatedly and could only say that people like you are rare in the world, and we can't do it.

Don't be soft-hearted

My husband was born with a scholarly appearance, on the small side (he doesn’t look like a secure man), he has a gentle personality, and he is very good at "coquettishness". I was also pampered since childhood. After becoming a wife, in order to establish the image of a good wife, I restrained a lot of my temperament as a young lady.

As long as my husband has a little headache and brain fever, he will complain endlessly, put on a weak and powerless look, lie on the sofa, and naturally tell me that he is thirsty and wants to drink water. When I first started using this technique, I didn't know the depth of it and felt extremely distressed. I hurriedly served him, handed him water, got medicine, and only had to feed him.

As the days went by, I thought something was wrong. He would catch colds four or five times a month. He was a good athlete, so he must be a spoiled child. When he said again, alas, it was freezing again. I just frowned and ignored him. He screamed louder and louder, which made me unbearable. You pretended to be sick again.

The husband took a few breaths of air-conditioning and said, "Why are you pretending to be sick? It's true." Wife, you have changed. You used to be very anxious when I got sick. Now, look, you actually accuse me of pretending to be sick. Are you having an affair? Okay, let me put a big hat on it first. I said you had a cold all day long, and I knew which time you were telling the truth? Of course being sick is real, how can it be false? Come on, give me Puff Pu, I feel so uncomfortable. He was lying on the sofa looking top-heavy again, which made me feel weak.

well! Just think it's true this time. So, my heart softened, and I started serving again. From then on, everything was the same.