Romantic movies and novels aimed at a broad female audience often have an interesting plot twist. These movies feature a love triangle in which two guys fall in love with the same girl. This plot is very common and is also found in the movie Casablanca, with Humphrey Bogart and Paul. Henry also fell in love with Ingrid Bowman. Bowman falls in love with both of them, and the most sadistic part of the play is her painful struggle to decide between the two.

Why are these types of plots so common and usually about love between men and women? There is not just one reason but many, and some of them affect the way men and women fall in love, choose mates, and people's desire to be satisfied.

A love triangle between two women is the most popular sexual fantasy for most men. But despite this, research shows that the most clicked internet porn images by men are of a woman and multiple men. Despite the fact that men's desires are all about being with two women. A man's body responds to sperm activity, and sex with one woman and multiple men actually arouses men's sexual arousal more strongly. This may reflect the historical evolution of sexual response and behavior in monogamous settings, where men and women compete (whether they know it or not) not just between the sexes, but also for control. compete.

Men react unconsciously to sexual competition, and women appear to do the same. An interesting study shows that women in monogamous relationships are more likely to be tempted to cheat during ovulation. Also, they are more likely to climax when they have sex with a man other than their primary sexual partner, especially if the man is a bitch or someone you could have a one-night stand with but not marry.

Unlike the Daddy type, men with the Ruffian type are confident and self-righteous, jumping up and down on the bed to show how significantly their high levels of testosterone affect their bodies and behavior. This type of father is waiting for a partner at home and is able to provide for his wife and children.

When this woman comes home, even a fatherly man will be unconsciously aroused. If he has sex with her at this time, it will definitely be more violent and energetic. To the extent that this doesn't actually prevent infidelity from happening. But according to one study, women who have cheated often wait a day before having sex with their primary partner. why? Avoiding detection is one reason, and respect for your partner is another. However, waiting 24 hours increased the chances of pregnancy with another sex partner's child rather than their primary partner's.

In Twilight, Bella is torn between her love for the vampire Edward and her passion for the werewolf Jacob. In Star Wars Leia is torn between the sensitive Luke she's interested in (who turns out to be her brother, but we're not there yet) and the arrogant Han Sulo. In my book, Insatiable Wives, Wandering Ladies and the Men Who Love Them, I fictionalized a traditional love triangle plot involving the dynamic of sexual competition.

In the earliest love legend, Tristan and Isolde, Isolde is married to an older man but deeply in love with the young Tristan. The same plot appears in another more famous legend "King Arthur". Guineaville, who married King Arthur and was deeply loved by King Arthur, finally fell into passionate love with the knight Lancelot. When the concept of "courtly love" emerged, married women spent time in their apartments seeking love (ostensibly nonsexual) and flirting with young men who could write poems and send them flowers.

Men, however, work harder to spread their genes far and wide so that women have more choices. This theory is now under fire, but there is enough evidence to suggest that when given the choice, females of many species will choose to mate with males from outside their tribe or group. Marianne Fisher has written an excellent report on the ways in which "teaser" in romance novels reflects women's inhibitions in selecting and obtaining high-quality male partners.

Continuing with this theme, two men competing for a woman's love dominate the romance plot. This may arouse women's desire for the best male partner. Moreover, if two men compete with each other, she who chooses to win will definitely become better.

But along with these mating drives, there are also unconscious psychological factors at play. Being loved and desired by two men at the same time can be more exciting and exciting than being pampered by one man. In "The Insatiable Wife," I wrote about the "social queen phenomenon" and how women gain self-identity, confidence, and a sense of charm in being courted by multiple men.

In ancient Greek mythology, Hercules was asked to complete seven impossible things to prove love. When a man competes with another man to hold a woman's hand, does this really test and prove the depth of his love? If he didn't really love her, would he still be so desperate?

George Lucas's Star Wars trilogy mirrored the "hero arc" described in Joseph Campbell's books, and is typical of most hero legends. This myth mainly tells about a male model who comes from nowhere and has the power and confidence to fight against evil forces and protect his descendants. The same story appears in Harry Potter, even in the savior story.

This focus on men may also attract more men, as my colleague Pete Gray writes about. But whether intentional or not, Lucas also alluded to the same "female-focused arc" in the show. A foiling session taps into a woman's interest and excitement, allowing her and her desire to be noticed by multiple men. By choosing, women not only increase their chances of finding a better partner, but they also build strength, improve their self-confidence, and refine their personal values.