When we face criticism from others, or when someone calls us "bad", we like to use another word to block it in order to reduce the lethality, that is "stupid". For example, Gillian was criticized by reporters because of her "nude photos scandal" When pressed, he responded like this: "I was ignorant, naive, and stupid at that time..." That's about it.

From this, I thought of "losing my virginity". When many men and women think back to the past when they "lost their virginity" or had an affair, they often like to say "I was stupid then". Although there are fewer people talking about "losing their virginity" nowadays, there are many people who regret "being stupid then" .

The so-called "loss of virginity" is generally an involuntary result, caused by induction, coercion or other external factors. It appears as a "victim" and has the subconscious meaning of "exemption from responsibility". That is, "It's not my fault" and "At most, I'm stupid." This is also the case. All those who have "lost their virginity" must use this word to express their "Virgo", regardless of whether they are men or women, they are stupid at the moment of dedication, because it is passively stimulated, or even induced, and is a sexual object, not a subject.

A Hunan friend named Luo solved his virginity like this: At that time, he was only 21 years old and served as a counselor in a university after graduation. At that time, he looked very much like the male protagonist in the comics, with some shadows of Leslie Cheung when he was young. In a word, he was very beautiful and slightly melancholy. One night, he was innocently writing in his dormitory. Suddenly, a 25-year-old girl from the advanced training class under his supervision opened the door and walked in with a vague smile. There was heat in her eyes. Teacher Xiao Luo was inexplicably frightened and stood up. , and the other party was advancing step by step. Within three long steps, there was almost no clothes left for her to take off. He knew that the person coming was evil, so he retreated reflexively and leaned against the corner. Gradually, the pitiful Virgin Luo was left with only flames. His heartbeat was like a pounding, and when he didn't know what to do next, the girl's sister spoke:

"Are you a man?"

Ronaldiner immediately replied: "Yes!"

"Do you have the blood of a man?" The girl sister continued to be good at tempting.

Ronaldiner swallowed: "Yes."

The girl's sister's smile disappeared instantly and she almost leaned over: "Then do you want to prove your blood?"

At this time, Ronaldinho stopped answering. He started to fight back. His blood was boiling. He wanted to prove that, in fact, he was naked and only had his "silliness" left...

This bloody On the night of enlightenment, young teacher Luo scrupulously ended his virginity. It turned out that he had a pure concept: once he did that with a woman, he would marry her. Therefore, he kept trembling after the incident and didn't know how to deal with it. However, his smart sister immediately said to him, "You are not responsible", and he breathed a sigh of relief...

Many years later, he gave me He talked about the night of "losing his virginity", smiled, and then gave himself a comment: "Silly, so stupid!" In his opinion, he did not take advantage because he did not sincerely and consciously want to "want it." ", so it's silly, but how much "silliness" do we have to squander and throw away on the road of life? So he was still a little sad when he recalled it. After shaking his head, he lit a cigarette and confessed.

The story of another woman is simpler. When she was 18 years old, she was singing in a KTV box. The boy who invited her out blushed and stood up and begged her: "If you don't give it to me, I will You will die!" When she said it for the ninth time, the girl felt pity, and she gritted her teeth and dedicated herself to "saving lives"... Many years later, she became someone else's wife, and she told this story in a casual chat. After laughing about the old "silly things", she felt a little sad.

Why does it take many years for us to realize the stupidity of the "first time"? How romantic, beautiful, precious and sacred such a "first time" should be, but we often regard it so easily I handed it over by myself, without any preparation or foreshadowing. I swallowed it all without having time to reflect on it. I even felt somewhat passive and humiliated.

Although modern people often have sex for the first time uncontrollably and "cannot withstand arrangements", but if we have some psychological construction and precautions in advance, we will not have the panic and panic of improvising. You are at a loss as to what to do, and you are not stupid enough to act ignorantly and waste your first time just because of a lie or a few irritating words from the other party. This is so regretful and sad.

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