Men generally want to get married early, but women want to get married later. Men who are "late bloomers" generally do not find women of the same age as partners. When they choose a marriage partner, the conditions they value can basically be attributed to "a young woman who is willing to get married" rather than the woman's own ability.

Women all hope to get married later

“Is it better to get married early or later?”

This is the question that unmarried women ask me most often. However, this question is like asking me "Which one is better, Gucci or Prada" or "Which one is better, Paris or New Zealand?" In other words, no one is absolutely better than the other, it just depends on which one suits the person better. Choosing either side will have its strengths and weaknesses.

Take me for example. Because I got married early, I was freed from the labor of raising children very early. Later in life, I was able to fully enjoy my work and personal life. My friends who have just given birth are now too busy to even go to the bathroom, so they are all envious of me now.

However, I also have some regrets in my life. For example, in the Mood for Love, I did not fall in love enough, and I did not have the experience of going around in groups with my single friends. The "glorious era of their own life" that many married women talk about does not exist here. Indeed, because I solved my family and financial problems early, I have gained a relatively stable married life. "But, since you have to live a married life sooner or later, why not enjoy your free youth while you are young?" Sometimes I really think so.

In short, I personally have no particular dissatisfaction with early marriage, but I don’t really want to recommend “early marriage” to other women.

In this day and age, it seems meaningless to introduce the so-called "marriageable age group". Because everyone decides the time to get married based on their own situation and orientation.

According to statistics, the average age of marriage for Korean women is 28.1 years old. However, this does not mean that most women will get married around the age of 28. Many women get married at the age of 22. Of course, there are also many who wait until they are 38 to get married. Therefore, the average marriage age of 28 is just an arithmetic mean. In fact, almost no women around me get married around the age of 28.

In recent years, Korean women also seem to be inclined to marry later, "if other conditions permit." Because women's knowledge and awareness progress with the development of society. Unfortunately, our family system has not kept up with the times.

In fact, there are many advantages for women to wait until they are older to get married. For example, if a woman knows more about this society, she will not suffer from boredom in her husband's family; in addition, a woman can use the experience she has learned in social life to adjust and maintain family relationships, and better adapt to and manage marriages. ;The most important thing is that older women are better able to see the true face of a man and will not marry a very bad man by mistake. The premise is that they can still get married? ?

There are many benefits for women to marry later, and everyone knows this. But why don’t female friends dare to postpone their marriage until the time they want to get married? There are two big reasons here: first, because of childbirth; second, because the slightly better men were robbed early.

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Good men will be robbed early, and good women will be "reordered"

Unmarried women over thirty often They sighed like this: "There are too few good men!" Looking back, I often said this kind of thing when I was in my twenties, so at the beginning, I didn't pay much attention to their complaints. However, after observing for a period of time, I feel that the phrase "too few good men" cannot be used as an excuse by the "leftover women".

Many unmarried women in their thirties are in very good conditions. They are relatively stable financially, behave elegantly, and their appearance is not inferior to that of young people in their twenties.

In contrast, the situation for men is quite different: single men of the same age group look five or six years older than married men. It's hard to find a "slightly better" man, he must be a playboy. As for those whose own conditions are not good enough, simply disappear from the marriage market.

Single women say that good men are snatched away before they turn thirty. On the contrary, better women will be ordered again. In other words, when the inventory is gone, there will be restocking, so there has never been a situation where supply exceeds demand. It's just that their asking prices will get higher and higher, making it impossible for just anyone to come and choose. Therefore, they have to find a man younger than themselves. Now, sister-brother marriage accounts for almost 20% of the total marriages in South Korea every year, and it is getting more and more popular. I think this is not a temporary craze, but a social phenomenon, a phenomenon with social structural reasons.

So, why are there so few marriageable men in their thirties?

The reason is simple. That's because men generally want to get married early, but women want to get married later.

Data released by Statistics Korea in 2009 show that in South Korea, the happiest people are “civil servants or unmarried women in their twenties.” In other words, single women in their twenties who are relatively financially stable are the happiest.

This makes it easy for people to understand why they are unwilling to give up their happy single life and prematurely invest in a marriage with lower happiness. When women travel together, they will also have a pleasant entertainment life and fully enjoy the fun of life. In contrast, the lives of most male compatriots become less and less interesting as they grow older. In the statistics mentioned earlier, the group of people who consider themselves to be the unhappiest are: "single men in their fifties with lower education levels."

In recent years, some men have avoided marriage because they do not want to shoulder the responsibilities of being parents. However, most men in South Korea want to get married as soon as possible as soon as the conditions are ripe. They believe that they will get married sooner or later anyway, so they might as well get married early. You can get your wife's careful care as soon as possible, you can have sex as you like, and you can save the cost of dating and falling in love. Why not? Moreover, it is said that for every year a man ages, the cost of marriage triples. Therefore, it is more beneficial for men to get married early. This is why men who are a little competitive are snatched away by those "women who are willing to get married" very early.

Men who are "late bloomers" generally do not find women of the same age as partners. When they choose a marriage partner, the conditions they value can basically be attributed to "a young woman who is willing to get married" rather than the woman's own ability.

This phenomenon is the same in the United States, although the United States appears to be more liberal than us in many aspects. To give an example, it is said that 40% of divorced women over the age of 30 will never be able to remarry in their lifetime. The reason is that divorced men of the same age group choose women younger than themselves.

After subtracting and subtracting like this, only unmarried women in their thirties are left - precisely those women who had the ability to refuse marriage in their twenties and had a strong sense of self. Because women continue to grow themselves, they will become more and more attractive and valuable.

But the sad thing is that no matter how good and outstanding they are, the effective market demand for them is seriously insufficient.

Nowadays, more and more women choose to marry later, and more and more young women advocate single life. For women, the burden and pressure of late marriage are getting smaller and smaller. In other words, women can choose their "marriageable age" more freely.

But the problem is that waiting passively does not lead to happiness. If you don't actively prepare, it will be difficult to find a suitable marriage partner even when you are sixty years old.

So if you want to get married later, you need to set clear goals. In other words, you need to understand what exactly you want to achieve during this period of time.

Otherwise, the younger girls will grow up during this period of time and form strong competitiveness to snatch away the good man you missed. Alternatively, you can search the Inventory for buried gems. However, this method usually requires more effort and luck.

If you are not a single person, you should break away from the old stereotypes. You must be prepared to "find a good man and live a happy life after getting married", so that you can grasp your marriageable age.

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