Who can hide the "sub-affair" between a man and a woman?

This was a sexless affair. Almost everyone who is not alone cannot resist his own restlessness and external temptation. Unknowingly, you have been surrounded by this huge community of "sub-affairs". "It starts with love, stops with sex, and ends with marriage." This is an atypical relationship between a man and a woman in a state of dissociation. Can you afford to be hurt?

In recent years, the number of marriage counseling cases I have received related to Asian affairs has increased year by year, accounting for 60% of the counseling cases I have handled. Many women either suspect that their husbands are cheating and need to find out the facts, or It means that you feel uncomfortable having sex with a certain opposite person, and you really can't bear it anymore, so you come to seek outside help and guidance. The following two cases are the most typical "Asian affair" stories that I have come across:

Case 1: My husband is too busy, and my boss and I are becoming more and more ambiguous

Yina and Mr. and Mrs. Witte have a pair of lovely children. In order to support his wife and children, her husband Witt stopped working and started a business. After becoming his own boss, Witt put all his energy into the development of his career. He often traveled on business, and even when he went home, he could only talk to a handful of people, and his married life became completely homework. Yi Na, who applied for a job as an administrator in a company, was highly appreciated by her boss Lin Chuan and was promoted to assistant general manager. As her contact with Mr. Lin deepened, Yina found that she seemed to have fallen in love with this man who was very different from her husband. Mr. Lin also noticed the changes in her. As a result, the two had a superior-subordinate relationship in the company. They became friends who talked about everything after class. When Yina was unhappy, Mr. Lin would even drive her to the seaside in Shenzhen for a ride.

Even so, Yina and Mr. Lin never broke through the bottom line. There were several times when the two of them were alone together had a chance to happen, but they always consciously restrained it. In Mr. Lin's words: "Let's not go to that point, otherwise we will get deeper and deeper. Instead of the pain of breaking up in the future, it is better to maintain the relationship like this."

They are similar. The "lover" relationship lasted for more than two years. Until one day, Yina could no longer control her feelings. In fact, she knew better that this was also an "affair" and a spiritual cheating. She felt that she was sorry for her beloved husband. However, she felt that she did not have a relationship with Mr. Lin anyway, "at least she did not betray my husband physically."

It’s just that this kind of “lover” relationship that is “limited to sex” makes Yina feel extremely depressed. Sometimes in the company, she clearly wants to act coquettishly to Mr. Lin but has to hold back. Sometimes at home she wants to I called Mr. Lin to express my heartfelt feelings, but I was worried that my husband would find out. The long-term suppression made Yina even more silent. Gradually, she did not dare to face her two men anymore, but there was always a desire in her heart to continue with Mr. Lin.

Finally, she suffered from mild depression. Unfortunately, Witte did not notice the change in his wife and was still busy with his own business.

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Case 2: My wife has become a yellow-faced woman, and my female classmate and I are obsessed with the Internet

Luo Youliang is a civil servant and is in the same unit as his wife. The reason why he chose her was because his wife particularly admired him and often praised him, unlike his parents who had been supervising him since childhood, which gave him the feeling of pride and pride as a man.

After getting married, he discovered that his wife was a big, rough guy who would never grow up like a child. After giving birth to a daughter, he still didn’t understand anything. Their relationship was as light as boiled water. Because he was always arranged by his parents, he also gave up his dream of starting a business and just dawdled at work. His colleagues at that time were all promoted to section chief and president, and he was still a junior clerk.

Luo Youliang felt extremely tired from his dull marriage and lack of success at work. At a class reunion, he struck up a conversation with Ren Fen, a girl he had a crush on in college. As soon as he got home, Luo Youliang couldn't wait to go online and chat with Ren Fen. After graduation, Ren Fen married an IT executive. She owned a villa and a luxury car. Her baby son went to a full-care aristocratic school. After her marriage, Ren Fen lived a comfortable life as a "young mistress". The only thing that dissatisfied her was that her husband was a workaholic and had almost no time to spend with her. It can be said that the two of them share the same problem and have become close friends after several encounters.

Next, Luo Youliang confessed to Ren Fen online. She accepted it half-heartedly, but she was afraid of being discovered by her husband. When she accepted the confession, she made three rules: they could only call each other "husband" and "wife" online. , you can meet but you can't have a relationship, and it can't affect the marriage and family of both parties. In this way, Luo Youliang began a year-long "spiritual affair" with Ren Fen. However, the fire could not be contained. Luo's wife discovered their affair and was heartbroken.

In fact, the women involved in it know very well that this is a kind of "sub-affair", and they also say that it is the lubricant and supplement for real marriage, and it is a kind of love that people cannot get emotional satisfaction in marriage. Extension and need. Although the two had the urge to break through the bottom line of being together, she restrained them. She said: "I have betrayed my husband mentally, and I don't want to betray him physically again and ruin me." "Marriage", "But to be honest, I can't refuse online dating with Luo Youliang, he can always give me the love I want."

Case 3: My husband cheated on me, and I moved on to another relationship to retaliate

Qin Jun is the head nurse of a large hospital in Guangzhou, and her husband is the boss of a medical equipment company in Guangzhou. We met in our previous business, and it only took less than a year from falling in love to getting married, but even so, the two were particularly loving after their marriage, and their two daughters were beautiful and sensible, which made them feel even more happy as a couple. pride.

When I first met my husband, his medical equipment company had just started. At that time, he was the only salesperson in the company. Later, coming from a family of doctors, she begged her grandfather to tell her grandma to her family and classmates. I helped my husband sell a lot of medical equipment, and his company was able to grow and develop. After getting married, the couple will live an enviable and wealthy life.

After her husband's business became prosperous, he often did not come home, and his return home was only a formality. "He basically treated his home as a hotel," let alone a married life. A woman’s sixth sense tells her husband that there is someone outside. However, Qin Juan still endured it for the sake of his family and children. Until one day, a young girl called and said, "Are you Sister Qin?