Every woman loves romance, and she hopes her partner can create romance for her. Men know this kind of "vanity" in women very well. Therefore, for those men who dare not express their love directly, discussing their dreams with their sweetheart is the best way to express "romantic" and ambition.

1. Staring into your eyes

Eyes are not only the window to the soul, but also the fountain of love in a man’s heart. When you are stared at by a man, don't think he is peeping. You can make eye contact with him and observe whether his eyes are stable. Admiring looks should be affectionate, not sneaky.

2. The kitchen is full of food you like

Surveys show that men are willing to try new things. When it comes to love, they are also more willing to try their sweetheart's lifestyle habits, including their favorite foods. This is a sign of a man’s inner curiosity. Only when you love someone deeply can you have such strong curiosity.

3. Talk with you about where he wants to go in the future

Women love romance, and they also hope that their partner can create romance for her. Men know this kind of "vanity" in women very well. Therefore, for those men who dare not express their love directly, discussing their dreams with their sweetheart is the best way to express "romantic" and ambition.

4. Always wear the clothes you gave me

Clothes are something that is close to the body. For men, women are the clothes that keep them warm. He has been wearing the clothes you gave him, which shows that he is a dedicated person. And one of the signs that a man loves a woman is that he agrees with her aesthetics.

5. Stand by your side in public

Some people say that men are lower-body thinking animals, and they will instinctively approach their beloved even in public. It's a physical attraction.

6. He doesn’t avoid you when you call him

If he doesn't shy away from your privacy, it means that he is natural with you and doesn't want to keep secrets between you.

They are most likely to cheat during the two periods

The survey found that husbands pay more attention to their families when their wives are newly pregnant. But the entire pregnancy period is nearly a year. During this period, many men will have the idea of ​​​​"indulging". On the one hand, when the wife is pregnant, her body shape will change, and she will vent her anxiety and irritability to him, which will bring pressure to the man; on the other hand, during pregnancy, the male sexual desire will not be satisfied.

The second critical period for infidelity is the period after the child is born. When a child is born, both couples will feel happy, but it may also bring about a series of problems. First of all, the wife transfers her energy to the children and ignores the "two-person world". This problem is more obvious before the child is 3 years old. Secondly, children bring financial pressure. Finally, the way children are raised can easily lead to quarrels. These may make men look for new emotional sustenance.

In this regard, Taiwanese family counselors believe that in the entire marriage life, pregnancy and after the birth of the child are the most testing times for the relationship between husband and wife. At this time, they must care for and understand each other. During pregnancy, you can try to use the female to take the position; after the child is born, you should have a "two-person world" once a month.

What psychological factors are at work behind men’s affairs

In fact, both men and women have the need for self-esteem, but China's social culture has put forward higher requirements for men's self-esteem. For example, in terms of economics, men must be required to have stronger economic capabilities than women. In terms of social status, men must be better than women. Women are taller, and in terms of family power, men are required to take the lead, while women can only be dominated, etc. On the contrary, men have to face a lot of pressure. In addition to their normal pressure, they also have to bear He has no way out under the heavy pressure of society and culture. Women can be weak, but men can only be strong!

To give an example that everyone often encounters, when a wife goes to the mall with her husband and children, she may want to buy toys or other things for the children. Women usually look at the price or quality of the goods calmly, and have to weigh them. Whether you should buy something for your child or not? At this time, the waiter will often try to please the husband and try to get the husband to control his wife's behavior, and ultimately sell the product. When the wife mentioned it afterwards, she would feel a little unhappy in her heart. She would often sarcastically say to her husband: "When you see a beautiful woman, you don't know who you are. It doesn't take more than two sentences to make people dizzy." In fact, this is usually caused by women’s jealousy. They think that when their husbands see the beauty of the waiters, they will immediately surrender and choose the products. In fact, this is not the case. In essence, the husband is afraid that he will lose the right to make decisions in front of the waiters and lose his self-esteem, so A wise woman usually lets her husband make the decision when outsiders are present, and she retreats behind the scenes (of course she may have communicated her views and opinions to her husband in advance), but there are also some more serious women who insist on arguing with their husbands. You are right and I am wrong. On the surface, I won the argument, but in the end, I lost my status and respect in my husband's heart. As a result, after my husband had an affair, I still looked aggrieved and refused to reflect on it. This is really a pity.

Whether men are successful or unsuccessful in their careers, they may pursue women as a way to improve their self-esteem. Especially men who have little sense of self-esteem at home will be at a loss when they meet someone of the opposite sex who praises and appreciates them in social situations, and panics like first love: Why does she praise me like this? He must be interested in me, so he will try his best to make friends with her in response to her praise and appreciation. When the self-esteem he lacks in marriage is satisfied outside of marriage, a man is grateful to the third party. At home, He may be the "bear" in his wife's mouth (of course, this may also be the wife's skill of hating iron but not steel), but he becomes a tiger in front of the opposite sex outside of marriage. Who do you think is more attractive to him? It is really an inevitable choice for him to alienate his wife and get close to the opposite sex. Therefore, I suggest that women who are very "strong" in marriage should be "weak" occasionally. Don't be afraid that the man you love is proud. The more proud he is, the more likely he will be. A tireless old cow plows the ground hard and is extremely grateful to you. In the end, he is happy. He is happy and you are happy too.

Several aspects of self-esteem that men care about most

1. The most important thing about a man’s family of origin is that no matter what, you may want to be cautious about expressing your views on your parents-in-law in front of him. Sometimes men will test your attitude towards his original family members. If you tell the truth, he will You may say it makes sense, but you may not agree with it in your heart. If you tell lies, he may feel that you are dealing with him, so my suggestion is usually to praise the man’s family of origin first, see the other person’s reaction, and then decide whether to go. Use your own point of view to evaluate. For example, the mother-in-law you met is just caring. You can say that our mother is really good at living a careful life. If not, how could she bring up your brothers so smoothly? I really I admire her very much, but it’s hard for me to be like my mother. In fact, when you say this, your husband will naturally point out his mother’s shortcomings, and he may say, you are so right, my mother is born to be calculating. It's just for our brothers to grow up well, but sometimes she cares too much, which I can't accept. I guess you will feel aggrieved because of it sometimes, right? Look, the less you criticize, the results you want will come naturally. So when you want to express criticism, you usually need to do some affirmation and praise. This is common in general interpersonal relationships. Naturally applicable to husband and wife relationships.

2. In terms of economic income and social status. Men naturally like competition and adventure, but do you know what? What annoys him the most is when you compare him to others, because your mother-in-law used this comparison game countless times in his childhood. He hates it so much. If you often mention the Zhang Family Neighbor Award in front of him, If the neighbor of the Li family buys a new car, he will not understand the expectations behind you. What he will think of is the scene in his childhood when his mother compared her academic performance with that of the son of the Zhang family and the daughter of the Li family. He has had enough, so Don't expect him to be friendly with your conversation because you violated his biggest taboo. It's just like if he talks about how beautiful and sexy Miss Zhang is in front of you, you won't feel any better.

3. In his personal habits and hobbies. The formation of his personal habits and hobbies is often related to his growth process. A man believes that if you accuse him of bad habits, you are actually denying his past, and he will therefore doubt your love for him: Since you love me, why? Can't accept my past and present? Since you love me, why should you change me according to your own subjective thoughts? So this may pave the way for him to have an affair. Because no one criticizes or accuses him outside of marriage, he will naturally have a good impression of it. This has nothing to do with morality, but with instinct. But if there are really some habits that are not conducive to the harmony of marriage, it is not impossible to communicate. For example, it is often seen that some men are not good at hygiene, or do not wash their own clothes and socks, and always let their wives do it for them. I have the following suggestions to communicate Take the example of your husband who smokes. If you want to communicate with him, it is best to do it when he is not smoking. When he is smoking, it is best not to "take food from the tiger's mouth", otherwise the consequences will be extremely painful. Usually you have to choose a space or time where there are only you and him, and ask casually: Husband, have you been under a lot of pressure at work recently? Men usually say: nothing. You said, husband, I have observed carefully these days, and your smoking frequency has increased by 10% recently compared with before. I know that men tend to smoke when they are stressed. In fact, I also know that you don’t want to smoke yourself. It's just that you might want to take the stress out, right? This worries me! Because yesterday's newspaper published a figure, among smokers and non-smokers, smokers are 80% more likely to suffer from throat cancer and lung cancer than non-smokers. I am really worried about you, but I don't know what I can do. Reduce your stress and anxiety, I hope you tell me when you need me, I will try my best!

4. In terms of sexual life of husband and wife. Never laugh at any of his sexual shortcomings. All you can say is encouragement. Don't try to comfort him. The more you comfort him, the more incompetent he feels. Occasionally, when the other person is tired, you need to take the initiative to propose sexual needs. This will make him feel that you need him, and a man's sense of being needed is what he cares about most.

5. His tiger friends, dog friends, and ex-girlfriends with whom he has an emotional relationship, etc. Don't try to be smart and judge his friends, let alone make random choices for him so that he should not be friends with Zhang San, but should be friends with Li Si. In the end, not only will he not listen to you, but he will deliberately show off in front of you. How good a friend is, because he wants to prove that he is right. Don't ask about his previous girlfriend at will, and don't destroy the tokens given to him by his ex-girlfriend just to vent your anger. This will make him hate you for the rest of his life.