Nowadays, many men and women in big cities are in a state of trying to find a marriage partner. Many close male colleagues and good friends around me also said this to me: "We are all young, and dating one-on-one is definitely not enough! You have to cast a comprehensive net, focus on training, develop on multiple fronts, go hand in hand, and then finally choose Make a decision to get married. You have to ride a donkey to find a horse when looking for a job, and the same goes for love. "It's not that I don't want to develop in multiple directions, but who is stupider than the other? When weekends or Valentine's Day comes, you have to "work overtime and go on business trips." Who doesn't understand? When the two of them are together, their mobile phones vibrate or are silent. They are both people who have been in love many times in modern society. Who is stupider than the other? Especially men, when they find themselves being treated like a donkey, their tolerance is much more limited than that of women.

Letter from a reader

Recently, a friend introduced me to another man. We have been dating him for two months. I think this man is good in all aspects and can be a marriage partner. But the same situation happened again: I felt that he was willing to further interact with me, but I also felt that he was not really single and was also dating other people at the same time.

When I was watching a movie with him on a weekend night, I heard someone calling him. It was a female voice, asking him what he was doing. I made appointments with him several times on Saturdays, and he said he had official business at work, etc., and then came to see me again on Sundays and Mondays. I wanted to give up on him, but I also thought he was good in all aspects, and he seemed to want to have more contact with me. But despite his multi-pronged development and simultaneous development, my success is only 1%.

What should I do?

I don’t like the multi-line development and simultaneous advancement. If I give up this man who I am quite satisfied with, but there is no woman around me, I believe it should not exist. If you encounter some difficulties in your relationship and give up, you will never succeed. When they meet a good man, women will grab him too.

If we continue to "develop on multiple fronts and advance simultaneously" like him, it will take a year and a half without success, and women cannot afford to delay it.

What if I also "develop on multiple fronts and advance hand in hand"? But I also have to have that ability. If I ride a donkey to look for a horse, I may not find the horse, and I will be kicked by the donkey first. As a human being, it's better to be sincere.

The reality is this. Can you give me some advice? How do I catch this man?

Reply:

Indeed, it is better to be sincere as a human being.

Otherwise, you can now develop other targets in multiple ways at the same time, but I believe that once you have such signs, he will pay less and less attention to you. Men are like this, they can cheat on each other, but once the woman around him is flirting with her, he will still criticize her. In men's minds, the concept of chastity is specifically aimed at women.

However, if you want to catch him, you have to see if he is willing to cooperate and be caught by you.

Since we have known each other for two months, then, in future dates, always find other people to participate, such as your friends, your relatives, and your parents. From time to time, relatives and friends can also tease him, "When are you going to get married?"... In short, you want everyone to feel that you and him are moving towards marriage.

The more people involved in a matter, especially the more people who have an impact on him, the more attention he has to pay. To deal with an inattentive man, a woman has to find a lot of social connections to watch over him. As time went by, he realized: This love must be serious, otherwise this person will offend Dafa!

If this man, facing your tactics, does not give in, but avoids you, then it is okay not to want such a person: riding a donkey to look for a horse will form a habit after a long time, and you will always feel that The next one will definitely be better.

Although, riding a donkey and looking for a horse is the most commonly mentioned term by the generation born in the 1980s, and has even become the life philosophy of this generation. Everyone seems to think that this is the smartest performance. You can attack or retreat, and there is always a retreat waiting there.

But precisely, leaving a way out often means cutting off the future.

After all, the "only gift" is the most precious. Love is very similar to jewelry. What people value most is often not its style, but its value.

Many people asked: What is the most important thing in love?

Every time I answer: sincerity.

In a relationship, the more sincerity both parties put in, the greater the chance of success.

If you just want to test the waters, then it is better not to start this kind of love, because it will not end well if it starts.

Love is the only opportunity in life where you can give everything you have. Only in this way can you truly love deeply.

A relationship that always has a way out cannot be truly successful.

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