From "Heart" to "born", it is sex. There is love in the heart, and sex should be born. With the rhythm that has been inherited from the beginning of chaos, the men and women in love are more closely tied together. But anything related to the "heart" is always a double-edged sword, and the same is true for "sex". Harmonious sex is like the flexible oar of the marriage boat, charting a sweet path in the river of time. But if you miss it and the oar falls, it can become a reef that crashes into the bottom of the boat at any time.

With the development of the times, sexual disharmony has become an "important killer" affecting marriage. Statistics show that in China in recent years, 34.7% of divorce cases were due to "disharmonious sexual life." Dr. Bobano, an authority on marital life in the United States, also pointed out that there are four factors for the failure of modern marriages: disharmony in the sexual life of both parties, differences of opinion on the use of space and time, financial difficulties, and physical and mental abnormalities. Among them, "disharmony in sexual life" has been at the top of the list and has to attract our attention.

A disharmonious sex life in an environment lacking communication will cause many emotional conflicts between couples, but these conflicts are disguised as "change of heart", "incompatible personality", "don't love me", etc. Coats, going around in circles, blur the essence of the problem. At the end, the one who was kicked out was exhausted and still wanted to ask helplessly: "Why?"

Sex is a beautiful and pure thing between husband and wife. Don't let it be because of each other's negligence. , making him the "culprit" in the capsizing of the marriage ship.

When my body betrayed my emotions, what should I do? After 6 years of marriage, Zhang Yong has made rapid progress in his career. He was promoted to department director just after turning 30, and his future is bright. My son Taotao is smart and cute, and he is very popular with teachers and children in kindergarten. In the eyes of outsiders, Chen Qian is extremely happy, and her happy family really makes her feel peaceful and peaceful. However, she vaguely felt that her husband had changed a little, and it was a change that was difficult for her to talk about...

I don’t know since when, Zhang Yong became more versatile in bed, and at the same time, he I hope Chen Qian can cooperate with her. Chen Qian curled her lips and said, "Who did you learn this from? Why did you get worse the more you studied?" Zhang Yong begged her: "Good wife, making love is like eating. No matter how delicious the food is, you will get tired of it if you eat it every day! We You have to change, right?" But Chen Qian refused: "I'm sorry, I can't accept your tricks, I'm not one of those third-level porn stars!"

So, both of them were originally satisfied. The sex life started to turn red, and eventually both of them felt uninterested.

Chen Qian doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with her current sex life. She’s been married for several years and has always been like this, isn’t it a pretty good life? Zhang Yong no longer forced her to do anything, but became obviously silent. Until one day, when Zhang Yong was taking a shower, a text message came from his cell phone. Chen Qian took it over and was about to read it to him. Unexpectedly, this text message was like a bolt from the blue, making her feel like a thunderbolt: "I miss the warmth of your body. When can we have a moment of ecstasy together again?"

It's enough. After being stunned for a minute, Chen Qian burst into tears. She never thought that Zhang Yong would betray her one day. After Chen Qian yelled, cried, and fought like crazy, Zhang Yong was extremely regretful. He told Chen Qian that he was just curious and did not fall in love with the woman. He vowed to ask Chen Qian to forgive him just this once.

In the following days, Zhang Yong became more considerate of his wife and cared more about his children. He even rushed to do housework that he never helped with. Chen Qian knew that he really wanted to maintain the family, but what about herself? She watched Zhang Yong put his hand on her son's head and watched him hang her clothes in the sun. Such a scene made her heart overflow with warmth and satisfaction involuntarily. But standing in the sunshine, he used his hands and body to write the word "betrayal", which was stuck in his throat and turned into a pointer on the psychological scale, swinging left and right, leaving Chen Qian at a loss.

Zhang Yong thought that life was calm, but he discovered that there was still an undercurrent in his family that could not be overcome. Chen Qian beside her had already fallen asleep, but her body was curled up, lying on her side on the other side of the bed, with her back to him. It had been like this all these days. At the beginning, when he hugged her body and wanted to kiss her skin, he could feel Chen Qian's body clearly refusing, stiffening, dodging, frowning, and holding her hands against his body to prevent her from getting closer. . He thought it would get better gradually, but as a month or two passed, Chen Qian became less and less responsive to his requests. She either pushed him away coldly, or wrapped herself tightly in the quilt when his body just leaned over. Turning over, she told him: "I'm too tired, go to sleep."

On the weekend, Zhang Yong went to the mall and bought a dress. It was made of thin silk, which Chen Qian had always wanted. Chen Qian put it on, her eyes twinkling. Zhang Yong hugged her from behind and kissed her neck. Chen Qian's eyebrows tightened and she suddenly broke away: "So you gave me the clothes for this purpose. Did you also give them to others?" Zhang Yong grabbed her. Holding Chen Qian's arm: "I have no feelings for that person. I was just curious and confused for a moment. Aren't you unwilling to try new tricks with me..." Chen Qian shook his hand away: "You said so, It turns out it’s all my fault! It’s also my fault you cheated!” After this quarrel, the two separated.

Life seemed to be shrouded in a layer of gray, and both of them were listless. The son took Chen Qian's hand and asked childishly: "Mom, why don't you and dad live in the same room?" Qian forced a smile in front of her son, but she was in great pain inside. If we go on like this day after day, year after year, is it still interesting? And how can the current deadlock be broken?

Expert opinion: Disharmonious sexual life between husband and wife is one of the important factors for the frequent occurrence of extramarital affairs or extramarital sex. The sexual relationship between husband and wife is like a garden, which needs to be watered every day, and the efforts of both husband and wife are indispensable. But at the same time, we also need to realize that our partners’ sexual concepts and needs are often different from our own. First of all, you should respect your partner's sexual concepts and do not impose your own or external sexual concepts on your partner. If you want to make new attempts in your sexual life, you should first obtain your partner's consent and understanding; secondly, you should communicate with each other's sexual needs in a timely and honest manner, gradually find a balance and tacit understanding within the acceptable range of both parties, and coordinate each other's sexual needs. and differences in sexual preferences.

If extramarital sex has occurred and the couple still has feelings, then they should calm down and examine the reasons for the problem. When facing your spouse's extramarital sex, it is normal to have a certain degree of psychological mysophobia and psychological resistance in the early stage. If you want to fundamentally solve the problem, you should communicate frankly about the problems that arise in the sexual life of both parties. The husband in the article needs to use more patience, consideration and care to help his wife put down her defensiveness and gradually accept herself. At the same time, the wife's "sexual punishment" not only fails to improve the quality of sexual life and the relationship between husband and wife, but will bring greater pressure to the spouse, virtually blocking the breakthrough point to solve the problem, and pushing sex and relationships further and further away.

Why has my gentle wife been so quarrelsome lately? In the past two months, Lu Jiaming has been working overtime one after another. His wife Xia Hong has become more and more dissatisfied and simply ran back to her parents' home. On Saturday afternoon, Lu Jiaming called her and said to her in a soft tone: "Honey, will you come back tonight?" Xia Hong asked him: "Why do you want to go back? Unless you come to pick me up." Lu Jiaming looked at After looking at the work materials piled up at hand, he hesitated and agreed.

When the two returned home in the evening, Lu Jiaming hurriedly took a shower and sat down in front of the computer to work. Recently, the newspaper staff has been reorganized, and the work pressure has suddenly increased. As a reporter, he dare not slack off at all. For a profile article that was interviewed on Saturday, the editor asked that it be published on Monday, so he had to work overtime to catch up. Relatively speaking, Xia Hong, who works as a physical education teacher in college, is much more relaxed and energetic every day.

It was already 12 o'clock when Lu Jiaming finished writing the manuscript. He stretched out and saw that the light in the bedroom was still on, knowing that Xia Hong was still watching TV. Seeing Lu Jiaming come in, Xia Hong looked particularly excited. She jumped up from the bed, hugged Lu Jiaming's neck and said, "Honey, are you done writing? You must be exhausted. Come, let me massage you." Massage Lu Jiaming affectionately.

Lu Jiaming was flattered by his wife's tenderness and lay on the bed obediently. Xia Hong rubbed Lu Jiaming's body through her pajamas. But after a while, Lu Jiaming began to snore. Xia Hong was a little unwilling. She shook Lu Jiaming and said, "You fell asleep so soon? Can you talk to me?" Lu Jiaming subconsciously turned his head to the other side and continued to snore heartily. Xia Hong suddenly leaned on the bed like a deflated rubber ball. She didn't understand. Didn't the novel say that men are thinking animals with their lower bodies? As long as a woman seduces them, they will immediately turn into "wolves"? Why did she try so hard to hint, but her husband still didn't respond?

Xia Hong couldn't help but recall that in the past month or so, her and Lu Jiaming's sex life had not been as high as three times a week, or even once a week. But the book says that couples should have sex 2 to 3 times a week. This is the normal frequency of sex. Doesn't he love himself anymore? Or is there another woman out there? The more Xia Hong thought about it, the more aggrieved she became, and she couldn't sleep a wink all night.

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Early the next morning, Lu Jiaming looked at the empty dining table and asked doubtfully: "Where is breakfast?" Xia Hong glanced at him: "So you still know you are hungry? "I thought you didn't feel anything anymore!" Lu Jiaming didn't say anything and simply nodded: "Then I'll eat outside." In an instant, the word "outside" struck Xia Hong's heart. All day long, she kept thinking over and over again, was there someone outside Lu Jiaming? She wrung her fingers and decided to try it again tonight.

In the evening, Lu Jiaming worked overtime in front of the computer again. Xia Hong, who was taking a bath in the bathroom, turned on the faucet loudly. She shouted to Lu Jiaming: "I forgot my towel, please help me." Take it." When Lu Jiaming opened the bathroom door, he found Xia Hong standing naked in front of him. Before Lu Jiaming could react, Xia Hong pulled him in... Lu Jiaming was so seduced that he was filled with desire. , but when I think about the work that I have to hand in tomorrow, the screen is full of dizzying square words, my temples are jumping with "boom boom". He sighed and pulled down Xia Hong's arm: "I have to work overtime, maybe another day."

In the middle of the night, Lu Jiaming suddenly heard Xia Hong's sobbing. He was surprised and asked Xia Hong

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