Does living together without marriage necessarily mean a breakup in the future? Here is the advice of two women with personal experience: one is in favor of unmarried cohabitation, the other is against it. Their opinions may inspire you.

An extension of your relationship

Moving in together is like putting the pedal to the metal on your relationship—seeing whether the consequences of the strong acceleration are good or bad. Xiao Novel's moving in with her long-term boyfriend was the best decision she ever made because it prompted her to leave him. If we hadn't made the decision to live together, our boring relationship would have continued slowly. She said that that time gave me the opportunity to see a real person different from the person I was dating - a high-spirited guy.

Living together will kick your relationship into high gear, in part because sensuality ensures that you understand each other's less-than-flattering aspects. He will see the mask you put on your face when you go to bed at night and you will see his fat body in the bathroom mirror. Sharing these secrets, which may be a little weird, may strengthen your relationship or drive you apart.

A simple reason

I know he wouldn't have bought that cow if he had free milk to drink. But who decides you are for sale? Peng said she liked living with her boyfriend and had no intention of getting married in the near future. I love that our lives are connected yet separate. Peng said, "Maybe one day I want to get married, but for now I still like someone."

True Romance

Chen and her boyfriend lived together until after they got married, and the wedding was so lavish that it would surprise a millionaire. A month later she said they were discussing divorce—a marriage that turned out to be nothing like she had imagined. "The first few weeks weren't bad. It was like playing house," Chen recalls, but soon the novelty wore off and we began to understand what a real marriage was—a lot of annoying chores. Who was responsible for the income and expenses? Balance? Should we invest some of our savings in the stock market? Our romantic relationship is not strong enough to withstand such a serious problem.

No sex today—or never again.

Even if you can. There's another downside to living with his flaws every day - a boring bedroom life. At first we were having sex all the time, and now Sue has been living with her boyfriend for a year, watching the 10 o'clock news. When my single friend told me her anecdotes, I thought that we were like this before. We are now an old married couple - but we are not married yetｌ"

Living together made the relationship improve by leaps and bounds. You will find that the attraction is gone. It's good to find out that your relationship isn't that attractive but wouldn't it be better to find out before you move in together.

Interesting things about money

Many couples are frustrated when it comes to money issues, but at least with a marriage as a prerequisite, money issues are not that complicated. Most couples use a joint account to pay bills and save insurance money for things they buy that they own jointly.

The problem of money soon arose after living together, because you still treat money issues in the same way as a pure roommate - but you are not a platonic spiritual lover. Who pays the workers when the toilet clogs? What if your hair clogs the pipe? If his salary increases, will he have to pay more for the room?

Xiao Wang and his girlfriend encountered such a problem. He had recently found a higher-paying job, and it seemed only natural that he should be asked to pay more for the house. However, the new consumption consumed his extra money. They quarreled almost every day, and now, no one wanted to talk to the other.

Divorce before you get married

It's always hard to break up any relationship, but breaking up with someone you share a home with is a real estate nightmare. When Jie learns that her live-in boyfriend is sleeping with her best friend, she is horrified to discover that she can't leave because of rent and other issues. Jie had to live with her boyfriend until the house expired. They drew a line in the middle of the house, separated by a curtain wall, and each lived on their own side. Jie said: "I am wasting my youth, living with a man who does not want to marry me."

Cohabitation Signal

Jie’s situation illustrates a common trap of cohabitation, which we call cohabitation transition. One is content just living together while the other wants to get married. Living together can be a compromise, but it gets harder and harder. Your boyfriend will be surprised why an engagement is so important to you. And you are used to living with him. Breaking up seems to be more difficult than living together. You are already on the edge of cohabitation, unable to move forward or backward.

Mei and her boyfriend are cautious about living together. Marriage doesn't mean much to Mei's boyfriend. Mei eventually became someone else's wife, but many people hesitated and just kept living together, living on the edge of an uncertain and unhappy cohabitation.

Is this just a joke?

Perhaps the most unsettling factor in cohabitation in the end is the word cohabitation itself. It sounds careless and insecure. Any two people can do this, whether they are college freshmen or prisoners. Living together requires no emotional connection at all, no rituals, no vows - no guarantee of staying together in times of adversity. Mr. Li is married, but he had lived with his ex-girlfriend for 5 years. He said, "Just because your names are on the mailbox together means that your relationship is as strong as a marriage. It blew my mind at the wedding when we said our vows - we got married, and I have for years." A piece of paper that feels funny does mean something. Without it you're just playing house - a surefire way to kill your relationship."

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