The famous psychologist Freud once said: I have been studying female psychology for 30 years, and I still don’t know what women want most.

Freud’s words reveal the psychological characteristics of women. On the surface, they may have many needs, so that they are trapped in the quagmire of desire and cannot extricate themselves. There are also some women who may not know what they really want at all, and they don’t understand until they lose it one day. In fact, women of different ages have different needs. Only by sorting out their emotions and understanding their true needs can they get out of troublesome misunderstandings.

The needs of 25-year-old women: pure love

Girls, especially those who are in love for the first time, have pure and beautiful expectations for love. They yearn for supreme love. Everyone hopes to meet their ideal "Prince Charming" and everyone hopes to receive the other's unconditional attention and admiration. There is nothing wrong with that. Isn't this what all the classics, poems and articles have always described? The pursuit of pure love is the real need of girls, but on top of this need, some girls attach too much connotation to it, combining desire for control and comparison. Adding the mentality and the concept of gains and losses to it will only cause huge inner troubles to oneself.

The typical psychological state of young women in love is: on the one hand, they want to show their pride, on the other hand, they want to get the attention and love of the opposite sex; on the other hand, they hope that their "Prince Charming" will be versatile and rich. He has a lot of power, is upright and arrogant in front of outsiders, but on the other hand, he hopes that he will not be so "personalized" towards her, but be gentle and considerate. When this kind of mentality is combined with a strong personality in a girl, it is easy to create excessive tension in love and lose love.

Needs of 35-year-old working women: unwilling to lose their traditional image

The pursuit of career success is not just for men. It is one of the real needs of all middle-aged women. At the same time, every middle-aged woman In their hearts, women also hope to inherit the traditional female image of being gentle, virtuous, caring for their husbands and raising children. These two needs seem contradictory on the surface, and at least it requires women to put in more energy to switch roles.

What these women should do is: at home, seek understanding and support from their husbands, and then seek understanding and support from their parents-in-law and children; at work, they should be good at seeking help and support from leaders and colleagues, and at the same time Let your subordinates share the work pressure. Doing this will make people around you think they have the respect of you as a strong woman, and in turn help you share your worries. In addition, this type of female friends can also learn some tips to reduce stress:

1. Distinguish between work and family, and prevent emotions from contaminating each other; leave work in the work space within 8 hours, and leave the remaining time Leave more time for your husband, children and yourself, and change roles on the way to and from get off work.

2. Find someone to talk to, or vent your emotions happily (swearing or crying).

The needs of 45-year-old middle-aged women: security, equality, and warmth

Women around 45 are often jokingly called the "three noes" - no youth, no Free and without capital. These are people whose careers are in decline, or maintaining the status quo. Their sense of family responsibility determines that they must shoulder the burden of raising children and the elderly, and the heavy housework makes them helpless and detached. They live in a small kitchen world, busy all day long with firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar. They interact with few people and have a narrow field of vision. They easily become anxious, depressed, have withdrawn social functions, and are afraid of dealing with people. Without career support, they feel inferior and insecure. In fact, what such women really need is the security and warmth of the family and equality in marriage. But their efforts seem to have the opposite result. Their problem is a lack of independence. So, how should they decompress themselves?

1. Re-learn, increase self-confidence, and find themselves. Tell yourself: "You are a useful person and an indispensable member of the family." At the same time, strengthen your studies, regain a sense of control over your life, and find a sense of independence.

2. Observe carefully and integrate into the family atmosphere. To actively improve the relationship within the family, we must pay attention to the emotional communication between husband and wife, and educate children in a democratic way.

3. Get out of the kitchen. By participating in community activities, traveling, etc., you can broaden your horizons and try to change your life rhythm and habits. This is a good opportunity to cultivate new emotions.

The experiences of women in the above three age groups show that most of their troubles come from conflicts between various inner needs. As long as you recognize your core needs, then reduce your superficial needs, and pay attention to skills, you can quickly regain happiness.

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