Men all want to get it done once and for all

With the development of technology, we should have more time to fall in love, but the fact is that urban men and women not only have to work longer hours, but also have to worry about the distance between where they live and where they work. The distance is getting farther and farther. Some surveys even believe that they only have 22.3 minutes a day to do whatever they want.

Among them, women need 21.2 minutes to decide what to wear; men need 18.7 minutes to fix their hair and shave. The real idle times are 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes respectively. Of course, the above statement is a bit exaggerated, but you have to admit that dating is a very time-consuming thing.

In order to increase the hit rate, 57% of men met their partners through friends, 31% met them at bars or parties, and 12% chose to date their work partners. Once a man wants to get close to a woman, most of them will take the initiative to invite her. It is not difficult to achieve this step. As long as you are not timid or have too high self-esteem, you should be able to achieve it in a relaxed state of mind.

72% of men will have their first date at a restaurant and then watch a movie; 27% will go hiking or doing sports, and the remaining 1% will think of some unexpected ways. For men, the first date is very important, and there are many men who have the mentality of getting it right once. If the first invitation is rejected, he will lose confidence and may try his luck with another woman. It is a big mistake to think that all men are like candy and have unyielding faith. Not every man has strong nerves and can withstand "torture". They are also afraid of being frustrated and ruthlessly rejected, and are easily trapped in conditioned reflexes to protect themselves.

If the first date goes well, a man will think that the relationship between the two will be good in the future. Conversely, if a woman fails to impress on the first date, she disappears and is never heard from again. Because of the habitual assumption that there will be no second chance, men tend to be attentive on the first date.

Therefore, if the woman accepts the man's sincerity, she should send out hints accordingly. If you are unable to convey the message "I also think you are good" to the other party in time because of your insensitivity or hesitation, If you don't create conditions conducive to action for men, maybe the relationship between the two people will not progress in the end. To put it bluntly, there are more and more pampered men who are too shy and not good at contacting women. Such men often expect women to take the initiative.

After dating to a certain level, a man will first consider taking the relationship further. It is said that men are lower-body animals, and some even say that when dating, they always think about the timing of kissing. This is not an exaggeration. 58% of men believe that if we are really compatible, having close contact on the first date will not reduce my love for her. 21% think that 3 dates is better, and 21% more than 6 dates. . Generally speaking, when they have some kind of intimacy intention, they will first want to understand the other person's thoughts, and at the same time try their best to convey their good feelings to the other person.

The first condition for intimate contact is mutual affection. If you are too rash, it would not feel good to be slapped or have wine poured on your face by a woman in public. When it comes to testing women's feelings, men are definitely sensitive and scheming old foxes. When watching a movie, it is a common acting skill to pretend to touch the woman's hand lightly without any intention, or to confirm her reaction with slight physical contact such as bringing your knee close to the woman's knee.

In a bar, sitting side by side facing the bar has the same effect. Through the seemingly accidental contact between shoulders, you can feel her attitude. If the woman immediately pulls her hands or knees away, it can be concluded that she has no desire to go further, at least not yet. On the other hand, if she doesn't avoid it, it means there's something going on. After confirmation, how to take action?

Extending the date is the first priority. It is suggested to have dessert after the meal, take a walk together, or send the woman home. Once such an invitation is made, it can be basically concluded that he is a drunkard who is not interested in drinking anymore. Can they accept the kiss, can they finally commit themselves to each other? Several nights before the date, they have been simulating the action plan from the date to the final ending, asking their best friends for advice, posting on the Internet, thinking about when, Where to kiss. During a date, they rack their brains to consider their next move, so they often speak absent-mindedly and chew food without knowing the taste. Even if the women around them have entered into a sweet conversation, they often don't realize it.

The story of "Train Guy", which is very popular in Japan, tells the story of an ordinary man who asked for advice on how to pursue a woman he met on the Shinkansen on Japan's largest BBS, which mobilized tens of thousands of netizens. Later, this real incident was adapted into books, movies, TV series, and plays. It can be seen that it is not easy for men to invite women, and it can become a very resonant topic among men.

Men have simulated dating scenarios in their minds countless times:

What to wear, where to meet, how to greet, where to eat, what topics to talk about during the meal, Then how to implement the next step, revising the plan repeatedly, and constantly imagining whether it will succeed, the result is often more nervous and uneasy. No matter how mentally prepared they are, and no matter what simulation exercises they do, the actual date may not go as they wish.

For men and women who like each other but are in the stage of testing each other, whether the timing and mentality of both parties are suitable is a very delicate matter. Good opportunities are often missed due to misinterpretation of an expression. Even if the woman is interested, once she misses the opportunity, it will not be easy for her to succeed. If a woman refuses to kiss or be intimate, what will a man do? Unfortunately, almost all men will not ask for her again, but simply give up.

Of course, there are also some persistent men who refuse to give up and try to get the other person, waiting for an opportunity to make a comeback. However, more often than not, men are exhausted from their good intentions and their self-esteem has been hit by rejection, and they would rather give up in order not to be further hurt.

Therefore, when you also have the intention to get along with him and want to kiss or have intimate contact, even if you are not fully mentally prepared at the moment, you should try your best to make it clear to avoid misunderstandings. It is a pity to lose the relationship because you don't understand the other person's true intention, blindly believe that the other person is not sincere and give up the relationship, or to avoid hurting your self-esteem and worry about failure without understanding the other person's true intention, leading to missed opportunities. As long as you show yourself a little, everything will go as planned. Unfortunately, some men and women who have a good impression of each other end up falling short.

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