For a long time, a topic that people have been concerned about in their sexual life has always been: how to deal with disharmonious relationships in sexual life? The long-term life practice of human beings has proved that the harmony between anything depends crucially on the differences between them. Difference is eternal, harmony is relative. The harmony of sexual life between husband and wife is closely related to the sexual differences between men and women. The disharmony in sexual life is on the one hand a sexual physiological problem and on the other hand a sexual psychological problem. In clinical medicine, they are mostly reflected in sexual and physiological problems, that is, sexual physiological differences; in daily life, they are mostly reflected in sexual and psychological problems, that is, sexual and psychological differences.

Basic analysis

Nowadays, many people are always asking this question: "Is the problem of disharmony caused by more men or women? Is the disharmony mainly caused by men or women?" Some data said: "Judging from the medical treatment, it is more men. But the actual situation may be that more women have various sexual problems in their sexual lives than men, but most women are not willing to go to the hospital for consultation or medical treatment on this issue. After all, men have. The process of sexual life is relatively simplified. "We believe that this is not the key to the problem of harmony and disharmony. The key lies in "why" there is disharmony. From the analysis of psychological barriers, the main ones are: (1) Misunderstandings and prejudices about premarital masturbation or masturbation, which are considered immoral, immoral, unhealthy, and harmful to the body, and will affect sex life after marriage; Affect fertility. Women are more cautious in their understanding and attitude towards sexual life. (2) Have had sexual experience before marriage, and it was a failed sexual experience. (3) There is no reserve of preparatory knowledge, and one seems to understand but not understand. It is either extremely idealistic or the other extreme - overly sensitive. Women seem to be more serious about this problem. (4) Poor psychological quality. This is the biggest weakness shared by contemporary men and women, and it is also the most fatal.

All of these may lead to great psychological pressure, which over time becomes a burden. Sexual intercourse is often accompanied by severe tension and anxiety, which will inevitably affect the normal performance of sexual function. This seems to be a very painful "primary stage" that a considerable number of couples have to go through in their sexual life. Some psychological disorders become more and more serious, and they become more and more convinced that they are like this. In fact, there was nothing wrong with me at all. It was just a failure experience that aroused strong spiritual suggestions. If it is handled well, it can indeed make the sexual life more harmonious in the future. If it is not handled well, after a few rounds, it will enter a vicious cycle, and disharmony in sexual life is inevitable.

Pay attention to misleading

When someone on the Internet analyzed the typical case of "always unable to penetrate" due to erectile dysfunction in a couple's sexual life, they emphasized that both men and women have "reasons" and pointed out: "Clinically, men are more likely to have problems." In fact, this is not the case. This is misleading. Clinical erectile dysfunction originates from two aspects, one is psychological and the other is organic, but it is often manifested in a mixed form. When they first become husband and wife, most of the "situations" that occur in the sexual life of both men and women are due to their respective lack of psychological preparation and confusion, and the problem is more serious for the woman. Of course, under the conditions of modern society, the indulgence of premarital sex, the proliferation of "one-night stands" outside marriage, the diversification of masturbation and masturbation methods and channels, the popularization of sexual life knowledge, and even the change of sexual concepts have gone far. It breaks through the shackles of contemporary social moral norms and moral trends, and the so-called "obstacle issues" do not need to be too responsible.

Said online: "Sometimes, sex therapy emphasizes the participation of both parties. Only if both parties can actively participate can the treatment be successful." But in real life, our actual national conditions are: sexual life issues between husband and wife are not easy to be too direct and face-to-face. Especially when faced with the coordination of sexual functions, face-to-face discussions and discussions are actually very difficult and even embarrassing. When it comes to caring and understanding between husband and wife, the effect of face-to-face is generally not as good and more satisfactory as indirect. Even when facing a doctor, it is much better to face it alone than together. In addition, there is a blind spot in hospital diagnosis and treatment. When diagnosing sexual dysfunction, clinical emphasis is placed on “having a regular sexual life.” But this rule cannot fundamentally be equated with other life rules between husband and wife. It does not mean that a given time period can solve the problem. People's psychological state is unpredictable, and the rules of a harmonious sexual life cannot be developed simply by "developing a rule". If you must emphasize regularity, then a very important prerequisite is the "degree of resonance" and "mutual adaptability" of the psychological qualities of the couple.

How to give the other party a new feeling in the form of sexual intercourse? This question is quite extreme, but netizens are very interested. It’s not difficult to say, but it’s not easy either. Some people on the Internet boldly suggested that “the best way is to replace someone” from a sexual perspective alone. This involves a very serious issue of social norms, law, and ethics. And if we simply look at sex life itself, it is an effective and good way to frequently adjust the environment, time, and posture of sex life. But some people like to fix it every day for decades, or fix it a few times a week, and some couples are completely random. As long as both husband and wife agree and get used to it, there is nothing wrong with it. Some people like patterns, and some people don't. If you can maintain emotional stability and impulsivity, and promote youthfulness and vitality in your sexual life, the pattern itself is not a matter of principle. The key is the awareness and understanding of "freshness".