Having a stable partnership but finding someone you think is more suitable for you is a challenge that our sexual relationships often face. Some people may face this challenge several times in their lives. Regardless of which one is chosen, the emergence of a “more suitable person” can often be understood as a sign of dissatisfaction with the original partnership. Is it to give up the original relationship at all costs, enjoy a "more suitable" relationship, and seek the so-called pleasure and happiness of the individual self? Or should we strive to maintain the original relationship and rationally cut off the "more suitable" relationship? Or do you want to maintain the original relationship while enjoying a "more suitable" relationship? A man’s perspective

Luo Long, a 45-year-old professional photographer

Everyone has an egg that cannot be moved

I once met a “more suitable person” , but I have never met anyone who is truly more suitable than my wife. Whatever the reason, I despise those who abandon their families. I can understand the beautiful emotions between them and the stories that happened between them. Because I have experienced the happiness and joy in it, I can understand it. However, because of this, I can even ignore my wife. The level of disregard is very despising to me.

Of course, it is happiness and joy that leads to the feeling of "a more suitable person". I am not a person who will leave someone behind. If you are able to carry it, you can carry it, as long as it does not affect my family and wife. There is a story: A peasant woman went to the market to sell eggs, and was raped by a group of bandits halfway. When she was done, she saw that the eggs in the basket next to her were still there, so she stood up, patted the dirt on her body, and said: " What a big deal, I thought I was grabbing eggs." Then he walked to the market with the basket. In fact, we are all the same. We all have an egg that cannot be moved in our hearts. My wife is my home.

I have not encountered such a thing so far. In my opinion, you will not find this kind of "more suitable person" through short-term contact. It takes more contact and time to prove and measure. It would be unwise to take such a challenge lightly and take a step beyond it. Today’s social life, especially in big cities, is so fast-paced. There are many temptations, and thoughts and choices change rapidly. Who can guarantee that the “more suitable person” you meet will be suitable for you for the rest of your life? Where are people? What should I do if I meet a “more suitable person” again? Therefore, we need to calm down and consider all aspects carefully. I strongly disapprove of those who change partners frequently. Such people are obviously more impetuous and will give people a bad impression.

Woman’s point of view

Xiaoyu is a 29-year-old media public relations person

Just click and stop

I have definitely determined that "the person who is more suitable for me" has not met. Yes, but I have experienced the hazy feeling. It is undeniable that many people in today's urban life will meet a "more suitable person" at an inappropriate time. It depends on how you grasp it, because it is mixed with moral constraints, and it mainly depends on yourself. own understanding of morality.

Meeting a "more suitable person" is a process of trying in itself. It is so difficult to find that "more suitable person" in the vast sea of ​​people, so I can understand the pain involved. But if you are married and have not completely rejected your original relationship because of this so-called "more suitable person", I think you can just stop there and be a good confidante or a confidante. ? But if you are really 100 times more in tune with the person than you were before and you will die if you leave him or her, then let it go. The most important thing is to be able to exercise restraint and judge, because this cannot be judged after one or two meetings. But if you are single and in a window of opportunity, then I think you should boldly pursue it if you encounter it.

Yi Qi, 29 years old, editor-in-chief of a magazine

It has long surpassed ordinary sensual desires

I finally met Mr. Right a year ago and fell in love with each other during the process of mutual appreciation. I think this is something that many people may not encounter in their lives, because it depends on fate. We always fail to meet him at the right time, and he will come quietly at the wrong time and cannot be avoided. Yes, he already has a family.

Because of this, everyone always carefully restrains their emotions. But what can be done? Although everyone tries to forget and distance themselves from each other, there is always a trace of concern in their hearts that can bring everyone back together. Until one time I saw an elderly couple walking hand in hand under the sunset, and I suddenly understood that love has many forms, and only a long-lasting relationship can last for a long time. We have long been inseparable and have transcended ordinary sensual desires.

Expert’s statement

What kind of partnership you choose means what kind of marriage relationship you choose

Specially invited expert: Huang Jialiang (senior psychological counselor of Zhonghui Education Consulting Co., Ltd. , family drama therapist)

A client once asked me, what kind of partner should I find? I replied that there are many partners to choose from in a person's life: if you only want to meet basic needs, then you only need to find a life partner; if your life only needs stimulation and enjoyment, then you only need Find a play partner; in the third case, you can choose your personality partner.

If none of the above three situations can meet your needs, you can try to find some people. No matter how long he (she) has stayed in your life, when you go through this relationship After that, every time you think of this person, you can still feel that mutual support and mutual improvement.

Choosing what kind of partnership means choosing what kind of marriage relationship.

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