In less than two years, Li Mei (pseudonym) changed from a woman who was envied by everyone to a pitiful woman who abandoned her husband and son and was abandoned by her lover. Now, Li Mei regrets her extramarital affair. So if she could turn back time, could she avoid such a mistake? Li Mei shook her head blankly, "I don't know!"

Once a happy family

In the past, relatives and friends around her envied Li Mei for having a good husband, Wei Peng (pseudonym), who took good care of Li Mei when he worked in a government agency.

Li Mei doesn't like cooking, so Wei Peng rushes home to cook as soon as he gets off work every day. When Li Mei returned home, Wei Peng had already put the food on the table. After being married for more than 10 years, Li Mei cooks only a handful of times. Her hands are white, tender and smooth, almost comparable to those of hand models.

When they first got married, their income was meager. After having a son, their finances became even tighter. In order to provide a better life for his wife and children, Wei Peng has been using part-time jobs in his spare time to supplement his expenses.

Although his life is not rich, Wei Peng himself is reluctant to buy a pair of socks for 5 yuan, but he does not frown when he buys his wife a piece of clothing worth more than 1,000 yuan.

On the way to get off work, whenever he saw something delicious, Wei Peng would buy some for his wife and children. Seeing them eating happily, Wei Peng felt very satisfied, "Having such a beautiful wife and smart son makes it worth the trouble."

Lover's wife knocks on the door

The beauty in Wei Peng's eyes was shattered on a weekend afternoon in 2002. At that time, a middle-aged woman broke into the home with three men. While calling Li Mei "shameless", she started punching and kicking her. Wei Peng hurriedly stepped forward to dissuade him, and Li Mei took the opportunity to sneak into the bedroom. The middle-aged woman slammed a stack of photos onto the coffee table.

The photos were all of the intimate scenes between his wife and a middle-aged man. Wei Peng was stunned at the time, but the middle-aged woman refused to let him go and threatened to give Li Mei some sex.

Afraid that his wife would be hurt, Wei Peng knelt down in a hurry and said, "Sister, I don't know anything about this matter. Please give me some face and let me ask you questions clearly before I give you an answer." Only after Wei Peng's pleading did the middle-aged woman leave with the others.

Li Mei opened the door and knelt in front of Wei Peng before he could speak, "I'm sorry for you, let's get a divorce." When the doubts in his heart were confirmed by his wife, Wei Peng sat motionless on the sofa all night, "Why was it that I was so good to her, but all I got was her betrayal?"

Office romance is out of control

When Li Mei's extramarital affair was discovered, it had been going on for three years. Li Mei couldn't explain exactly how this extramarital affair started. Everything seemed to go as it should.

Because she doesn't have to do housework, Li Mei always stays up late in the office; her boss stays in the office and doesn't want to go home because of her husband's discord.

Once after get off work, Li Mei passed by her boss's office and saw him sighing alone. It turned out that the boss had just had a quarrel with his wife the day before, and when he saw Li Mei, he expressed his bitterness. Li Mei felt sad in her heart, "Such a talented person, but so pitiful."

After gaining sympathy, Li Mei began to take the initiative to care for her boss, giving him advice to resolve family disputes, acting as a consultant when he bought clothes, and taking care of his sick mother on his behalf...

About half a year later, on Li Mei's birthday, her boss unexpectedly gave her a gold necklace. Then, the two had sex in the office.

Afterwards, Li Mei often compared her boss and her husband, feeling that her boss was "talented and good at living", while her husband was "too boring."

The marriage changed again after half a year

In early 2003, Li Mei and Wei Peng divorced. A few months later, the boss also went through the divorce procedures, and then he and Li Mei got married in a flash.

Less than two months after getting married, Li Mei discovered that life was not as good as she had imagined. Her husband didn't do any housework. Li Mei was sweating profusely in the kitchen after get off work, but he was holding a tea cup and reading the newspaper as if he were in the office.

Four months into their marriage, Li Mei suddenly discovered that her husband was still in contact with his ex-wife. Moreover, when he received a call that his son was sick, he would rush out of the house immediately, without even bothering to change his shoes.

Li Mei felt even more aggrieved when she thought that her husband was also very demanding about money and never gave her a penny after they got married. As a result, within half a year, Li Mei divorced again.

After the divorce, Li Mei found Wei Peng in the name of taking care of her children, and knelt down again, hoping that her ex-husband could forgive her. After Wei Peng got divorced, he lost confidence in women.

Looking at his tearful wife, Wei Peng felt nothing but heartache, "I will never forget my wife's joy when she knew I agreed to the divorce."

Expert: Think before you act

Li Aiping, a marriage expert at Guibo Daweiqing Consulting Company, said that in real life, most people still only focus on men’s extramarital affairs, but now there are not a few women who cheat, and the proportion of cheating women in Kochi is higher. Once a woman has an extramarital affair, it is difficult to go back, and the rate of family breakdown is very high. At the same time, many people feel unhappy after marrying their extramarital affair partner, and even miss their original married life.

Li Mei had an extramarital affair with her boss. Li Aiping believed that this was not Li Mei's responsibility alone, but Wei Peng was also responsible. His failure is that he spends his free time making extra money and thinks that giving his wife a good material life is to treat her well. But in the eyes of his wife, all this he did was not as warm as the two of them going for a walk together after dinner.

For some women, entering into an extramarital affair can seem overwhelming. But Li Aiping believes that extramarital affairs are not inevitable. Li Mei's sympathy for her boss is a dangerous signal. If she could stop in time and avoid further contact with her boss, subsequent love affairs would not happen. When Li Mei helped her boss buy clothes and took care of his sick mother, she unconsciously played the role of his wife. These actions also aroused her boss's affection for Li Mei and pushed the extramarital affair one step further. The boss gave Li Mei a birthday gift, which undoubtedly pushed the relationship between the two to the cliff.

When women are troubled by extramarital affairs, the only thing they think about is divorce. Li Aiping warned these women, "Many women understand when they first fall in love that love and marriage cannot be completely equated. When having an extramarital affair, women should consider more issues, such as what to do with the children in the future, and whether they can resolve the problems of the other person's family. Hostility, whether you can tolerate the other person's concern for the original child... these small issues may not seem worth mentioning, but they have huge power to break up a marriage again. ”

In an extramarital affair, I love without dignity

Emotionally, Tang Shanshan was deeply poisoned. She said she was terminally ill and no one could save her. If this continues, she will lose everything sooner or later, and by then, no one will really sympathize with her. She said she brought it all on herself.

He comes to warm my feet on winter nights

My husband and I have basically no relationship. We have been in a relationship for 4 years and been married for 3 years. We still have no children. We were introduced to each other by relatives. I didn't agree with him at first, but my family felt that he was okay. He works in a large state-owned enterprise and looks good.

I usually live in the company, and we often don't talk on the phone once every ten days and a half, and we get used to not seeing each other for a month or two. In all these years, we have only had one quarrel, and now we don’t even want to talk. I am sure that my husband is definitely not a playboy. He is honest, can endure hardships, is very frugal, and does not play cards, drink, or smoke. This is what our family likes about him.

I was loyal to him until January this year. I used to think that I would just live like this for the rest of my life, and it would be okay not to have children. There should be many couples like us in the world. But now, I don't want to be confused anymore.

I had an affair in 2008.

I call him Chai Feng. He is my client. He is 35 years old. We have been dealing with each other for more than three years, but we are both acquaintances. He is the kind of person who does not know how to be romantic but is very practical. Last Christmas, Zhui Feng, I, and another client met and we went out to play together. Only then did I begin to have some impressions of Zhui Feng. But I dare say that we didn't think anything wrong about each other at that time.

On January 25 this year, Zhui Feng and I asked friends to go out, but we couldn’t get through on the phone, so the two of us went first. There was the heaviest snowfall in Wuhan that day. After coming out of the bar, Zhui Feng said it was too snowy to go home and he wanted to rent a room instead. It was a standard room at that time. I went to bed first after washing. After washing, he asked if he wanted to warm my feet. When we were chatting at the bar before, I accidentally mentioned that I often slept most of the night without my feet being warm. Haha, I never thought about what would happen until that time. When I realized that my heartbeat was speeding up, things were out of control...

Zhui Feng’s home is in the suburbs. Usually he will go home on the first weekend and stay with me on the next weekend.

He has a 12-year-old daughter, and his wife is 2 years older than him. She has a bad temper, but she is very kind to him. For the past few months, we have been dating once every two weeks.

On the one hand, I clearly knew that there would be no results between me and Zhui Feng, but on the other hand, I was unwilling to live with my husband.

After I fell in love with Zhui Feng, I was even more reluctant to go home. I wanted to divorce my husband many times, but I couldn't help but swallow it back. I believe that Zhui Feng got closer to me without any intention. In the more than three years since we have known each other, we may have built up an emotional foundation invisibly, otherwise, I wouldn't be obsessed with him at every turn.

I can't help myself

There is only a road between where I work and Zhui Feng. If he comes and sits with me if he has time, even if it is just for 10 minutes, I will be happy for a long time.

I even developed a habit of looking across the street unconsciously. In fact, he doesn't treat me well either. He doesn't know sweet words and has never given me half a promise, but I don't have any requirements for him.

Whenever I have free time, I will think of him. I ask him to tell me every time he comes home, so that I can give up hope. But as soon as he leaves, my heart is completely empty.

When having dinner with his friends, they would all comment on whose lover was more obedient, as if that was a good thing, and then everyone would laugh at him and say he was too honest, so why didn't he find one? He smiled innocently and glanced at me. He didn't want to make our story public, saying it would be dangerous.

In my opinion, he is a very good person, and he is absolutely not frivolous. I have always hidden my longing for him. If he belongs to me, I can't wait to be with him every second.

It wasn't until March this year that I saw another side of him and was very angry. I picked up a pen and wrote him a letter: "Remember September 6, 2007? My eyes hurt. I just came back from the hospital and got your call. When you heard my cry, you immediately arranged for someone to come and take me away. Go home, your heartfelt worry and concern are unquestionable!

I always thought you were a good person before, but after that little incident, I appreciate and admire you even more. Slowly, as time goes by, your maturity and humor, sense of responsibility and ambition are also fully displayed in QQ chat. We are becoming more and more familiar on QQ...