"Where do you live at home? What do you do for a living? What do your parents do?" When you talk to your parents about your male (female) friends, have you ever been asked the same question? "How do you look? Are you handsome (pretty)? How tall are you?" When your parents are going to introduce you to a male (female) friend, do you also ask this question? At the 11th National Psychology Academic Conference, Wang Yuzhong, a professor at the Department of Psychology, School of Education, Zhengzhou University, said that the best match for a happy marriage should comply with two basic principles. First, the higher the equivalence of marital resources between husband and wife, the better; Second, the higher the compatibility between the couple’s marital characteristics, the better. Three levels of marital resources: Physiological sexual ability, external appearance, body shape, height, health status, etc. are all physiological resources. ●Persons with a paranoid personality who suspect and hate others for no reason, suspect their spouse is unfaithful to them, and often get angry at others. People with a socially disordered personality who lack a sense of responsibility and have a low tolerance for frustration are prone to Aggression and domestic violence can affect the relationship. ●The academic qualifications, occupations, positions and professional titles of individuals in society are all potential, direct and important social resources. The social status, occupation, property amount, etc. of family members (mainly parents and siblings) also play a decisive role in marriage matching.

Three levels of marital characteristics ●Physiological sexual harmony is an important factor in marital satisfaction. Inappropriate sex life in marriage will affect the quality of marriage. ●Psychological compatibility, complementarity, and harmony often have a positive impact on marriage. The study found that families with an ambivert man and an introverted woman have the highest marital satisfaction, followed by a man and woman combination with both ambiverts, and a man and woman combination with both introverts having the lowest marital satisfaction. ● Value orientation It’s hard to find time to hang out together. Should we go shopping or travel? If the opinions are not unanimous, what was originally a happy thing will eventually lead to a loss of mood. How to decorate a newly bought house? Is the aesthetic consistent? Children's education issues, consistency in concepts and attitudes towards and dealing with money, etc. will all affect the quality of marriage. Marriage resources and characteristics are constantly changing. Men's social resources such as money and status generally increase rapidly after the age of 25, while women's physical resources such as appearance and figure tend to decline after the age of 30. Changes in marriage, in addition to age, emergencies such as serious injury, serious illness, unemployment, etc., will suddenly reduce the amount of marital resources, and factors such as obtaining an inheritance, winning a big prize, making a fortune, becoming a celebrity, and being promoted to a professional title can easily lead to a decrease in marital resources. The amount of resources suddenly increased. Changes in marital resources and marital characteristics determine that the stability of a marriage is relative, while the dynamics are absolute. But couples are generally out of sync. Even if the marriage is a perfect match at the beginning, it may later become a conflict. Of course, it is also possible that a marriage that was not a good match in the first place may become stable after running in. Appropriate adjustments can make a marriage last longer. The smaller the resource difference in a marriage and the higher the compatibility, the more stable the marriage will be. The higher the physical and psychological satisfaction and security obtained in the marriage, the more stable the marriage will be. "Love and marriage are like doing business or running a company, and they need to be managed carefully." Wang Yuzhong said that only by discovering differences between the two parties, clarifying the differences in a timely manner, and appropriately adjusting the changes in marital resources can the marriage be more lasting.

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