Newlywed sex education is sex education for men and women who are about to get married or who have recently gotten married. Human sexual behavior is not completely instinctive. Grooms and brides who have no sexual experience may know little about it, or may have misunderstandings, and may even feel ashamed and unhappy. All these can be solved through good sex education.

Sex education for newlyweds in China is provided during marriage registration by watching sex education videos, newlywed counseling, and distributing "Newlywed Handbooks". In some countries, such as Japan, newlywed schools have been set up, and men and women preparing to get married must complete prescribed courses before they can complete the marriage procedures.

Sociologists and psychologists believe that newlywed sex education should include eight aspects:

① Understand the nature of marriage. Marriage is a contract with corresponding rights, responsibilities, and obligations. Marriage is not only a voluntary act by both parties to win love for each other, but also has both moral obligations and legal constraints. Therefore, marriage is not arbitrary and must be restricted by many social factors.

② Understand the requirements of married life. The family formed by marriage is the cell of social organization. Marriage is not only a world between two people, but also must deal with various blood relationships and various kinship relationships derived from it. The love relationship, economic relationship, sexual relationship and legal relationship in the marriage relationship are realized through the responsibility, loyalty and understanding of both husband and wife.

③Establish correct expectations for your spouse. In the first days after marriage, each other establishes a realistic expectation value, which can make marriage a hospital for treating "infant diseases". Consciously conduct self-analysis, self-understanding, understanding of each other, put yourself in others' shoes, and achieve harmonious coexistence between newlyweds. .

④ Correctly treat the differences between husband and wife in cognitive characteristics. After marriage, various issues will arise that require joint thinking and decision-making between husband and wife. Each other should understand the gender differences in the way men and women think, so as to establish a common basis for both parties' cognitive attitudes as soon as possible. Neither party should be self-centered, but should put both parties as the center. differences as complementary factors in dealing with problems.

⑤Achieve role balance between husband and wife. There may be differences in social roles between couples. Differences in quality, personality, psychological characteristics, and behavioral habits will affect the roles that couples play in the family. When newly married life begins, couples must understand each other's requirements and wishes so that their family roles can be personalized. They are also flexible and constantly adjust their role requirements. Both parties should achieve the role balance between husband and wife by improving themselves, giving full play to their strengths, and trying their best to shorten the differences between each other.

⑥Adapt to each other’s personality and living habits. In married life, both husband and wife will inevitably bring their own family's living habits and their own personalities. Both parties must learn restraint, flexibility and mutual adaptation. They should especially pay attention to abandoning their bad habits and strive to change the weaknesses and shortcomings in their own personalities. Both parties should establish a relationship of mutual respect, trust and sincerity.

⑦ Have a good newlywed sex life. Couples must be fully mentally prepared before having sexual intercourse for the first time. During the first sexual intercourse, the woman's hymen may rupture, which may cause some pain. The husband should be gentle. Multiple gradual steps can also be used to reduce the woman's pain. Sexual life may not be successful at the beginning of marriage, which is normal. A harmonious sexual life can be achieved after a period of mutual adaptation. Sexual harmony between husband and wife can also be achieved through consultation and guidance from doctors or sex experts. In this regard, positive mental and psychological factors often play a decisive role.

⑧You should know the knowledge about contraception, eugenics, eugenics and eugenics, and the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases. In the early stages of a marriage, both parties need to adapt and adjust, and it may not be suitable for raising children in the short term. Therefore, a contraceptive method acceptable to both parties should be chosen, and a birth plan suitable for both parties should be developed. With the progress of society, in order to improve people's marriage quality and population quality, newlywed sex education becomes more and more important, and its content is constantly enriched and its form is constantly changing to make it more in line with the needs of newlyweds and men.

In ancient China, people's sex education was not so systematic and comprehensive, but mostly used "visual teaching aids" and "suggestion guidance" education methods. "Dowry painting" and "pressing box bottom" are the main two types.

"Dowry paintings" are actually a roll (about 8 to 12 pieces) of erotic paintings in different ways. Because of the large demand of society, they are mostly printed with woodblocks, with a strong local flavor and folk color. Before their daughter gets married, her parents often buy one or two volumes of "dowry paintings", put them in the dowry, and take them to her husband's house with their daughter. On the wedding night, the young couple (who are often very ignorant about sex) put the "dowry paintings" on them. The dowry painting was spread out on the bed, and they were done "like a cat or a tiger".

In addition to "dowry paintings", another sex education tool in ancient China is the "press box bottom". It is a kind of porcelain, some are smaller than a fist, mostly shaped like a fruit, with a lid, and a pair of man and woman in the shape of intercourse inside. Usually, people put it at the bottom of the box to ward off evil spirits. Before her daughter gets married, the mother takes out the "pressed box bottom" and opens the lid to show her daughter that she can experience the "way of husband and wife."