When people reach the prime of life and enter the golden years of their lives, sexual maturity will bring many psychological problems and troubling things to young people. In our society, with the rapid progress of modern science, the understanding of human sexual behavior has received more and more widespread attention and concern. How to enhance the harmony of sex and how to establish a sexual psychology that is conducive to individual health has naturally become a central issue for many people. Everyone hopes to have a happy sex life, but such a life cannot be achieved by accident. Acquisition is not a natural phenomenon, but must rely on the knowledge and understanding of human sexual psychology. Sociologists, psychologists, and medical scientists all pay great attention to this topic in order to convey information to society and people on how to build such a better life. ​

The different sexual orientations of men and women

After sexual maturity, generally speaking, due to the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics, the differences between men and women begin to change significantly. Women's sexual ability is closely related to sex hormones (including ovarian hormones and progesterone). At this time, if a woman's sex hormone secretion is imbalanced or disordered, her sexual desire and ability to achieve pleasure will be damaged and affected. In terms of sexual behavior, most women have a longer and more lasting process than men, but they are more passive than men. This is only a relative term, and sometimes the difference is not big; but if men can communicate very well in verbal thinking and express personal intentions. If effective, women can be as responsive as men and achieve a harmonious sexual life. In addition, women generally feel strong sexual urges, but do not easily display stronger sexual behaviors. That is, women are not as likely to have long-lasting and well-thought-out sexual fantasies as men. On the other hand, for most women, their understanding of sex is that their sexual psychology is more inclined to fully enjoy the joy of sex rather than demanding a climax every time.

Regarding men, due to physiological characteristics, social factors and other reasons, men generally show sexual reactions and characteristics that are more susceptible to visual, situational and image stimulation than women, and many men pay more attention to their organs. Stimulation, and women are used to receiving sensory stimulation. Men's sexual initiative has also affected their sexual orientation due to their long-term status in social life. There are many research reports on sexual psychology that indicate that women have a stronger ability to enjoy sex than men. The sexual abilities of men and women are different. Men prefer direct contact with their sexual organs. However, only 1/3 of women’s pleasure comes from contact with their sexual organs, while 2/3 comes from full body contact and emotional satisfaction. After we understand the different psychological orientations of men and women in sexual behavior, it is more important to pay attention to preventing and correcting unhealthy sexual motivations in sexual behavior and psychological diseases that may affect a healthy sexual life. Which ones fall into this category that we should pay attention to?

Unhealthy sexual motivations

A happy family life and a harmonious and satisfying sexual life for both men and women are based on mutual adaptation, mutual respect and love. However, some men want to use extramarital affairs and improper sexual behavior to prove that they have attractive masculinity and grace; while some women start from vanity and regard their attraction to the opposite sex as a privilege. In either case, they may display an irresponsible or casual attitude toward sexual relations. This motivation to use one's own sexual behavior to prove one's attractiveness is unhealthy. In the end, it will only be "empty and sad", which not only damages one's own image and feelings, but also endangers marital life.

Another unhealthy sexual motivation is that some people try to "use sex to anesthetize themselves." In sexual life, pleasure is the most basic and primitive joy. Among the most basic physiological needs of human beings, moderate sexual life will make people obtain spiritual satisfaction and be energetic, happy in life, and energetic at work. But there are some people who are not satisfied with the reality of life and the dull atmosphere in the environment, and use very frequent sexual behavior as an adjustment and compensation for their daily empty life, so that they are addicted to this kind of life and sexual illusion and cannot extricate themselves. , that is, using "sex" to anesthetize oneself, and even lose the idea of ​​​​improving one's life. "Patients are mostly trapped in what they are addicted to." Due to addiction and excessive sexual life and the dominance of sexual fantasies, a kind of sexual psychology will inevitably occur. The consequence of imbalance is that one may simply lose the ability to obtain real sexual pleasure and joy and become morbid.

In addition, some people have many unreasonable and exorbitant expectations about sex and sexual behavior due to the influence of Western lifestyles, literature, and movies, and often have some extravagant thoughts. For example, they feel that they should enjoy the greatest sex in the world and pursue an unrealistic sexual fantasy. When the reality does not match, they become increasingly anxious and disappointed, in a very bad mood, and often feel that their sexual life is unsatisfactory... and It affects one's physical and mental health, and may even lead to "sickness", "deviation" and other bad behavioral tendencies.

To sum up, the unhealthy motivations of sexual understanding and tendencies are very harmful. A healthy sexual concept must be combined with a person's sound personality, moral ethics, personal dignity, etc. The important thing is that if you want to have a healthy sexual life, you must base it on your own reason, emotional stability, care, etc.; If a person lacks reason and stable emotions, even having certain cultural knowledge and literacy will not help. A happy and harmonious sexual life can only be achieved through the guidance of experience, reason, and knowledge.