【Social Phenomenon】

Silently, a "hidden marriage clan" appeared around us! Although they have legitimately received the "red book", they conceal their marital status from the outside world and live a happy life under the banner of "single nobles".

"China Youth Daily" reported that a recent survey showed that 52.5% of the public said it was understandable, 20.7% thought it was unbelievable, and 16.4% said it was "hidden marriage". be opposed to. At the same time, another "hidden marriage survey" showed that nearly 37% of people are willing to be "hidden marriages" because they are worried that making their marriage public will cause them to lose the trust of their bosses or customers. Especially in big cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Nanjing, and Guangzhou, hidden marriages are quietly becoming popular; in foreign companies, media, marketing and other industries, the most glamorous and natural marriages have been deliberately hidden and omitted by white-collar workers. As if overnight, marriage has become a "knot" that everyone is trying to hide.

The emergence of "hidden marriage tribes" is not accidental. I think there are three reasons:

First, in the past, for major events such as marriage, you had to apply to the work unit and pay attention to everything. Concealing it is not an easy thing. Now that the new "Marriage Registration Regulations" have been promulgated, marriage, divorce, etc. are no longer subject to the intervention of administrative power, which better protects personal privacy and provides the necessary legal basis for people who live in secret marriages. Whether marriage becomes a private matter is a sign of social progress.

Second, in many units, recruitment and employment are tilted towards single employees. It is generally believed that singles have no burden and can focus on work. Therefore, hidden marriage means more possibilities for promotion, further study and training, and transfer.

The third is self-protection of private life or concern that married status at work will become an obstacle to communication, and may even lead to unfair evaluation. Especially with the intensification of social competition and some injustices against married women in the workplace, many women have no choice but to choose hidden marriages. However, marriage is the commitment and mutual respect between two people. They should not have a "hidden marriage" regardless of the occasion, so as to avoid misunderstandings and destroying an originally happy marriage.

■[Characteristics]

1. Answer the phone mysteriously and in a rather ambiguous tone;

2. Claim to be a happy single aristocrat, but avoid Talk about love and marriage;

3. There is no wedding ring on the ring finger, but there is a white mark;

4. Usually having a warm relationship with the opposite sex, but not keeping in touch in private;

5. Passionate Socializing, but no one was around during the holidays.

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■[Expression form]

1. The catchphrase is "I am alone..." Although they are mature men and women who are close to or over 30 years old, although they often make friends of the opposite sex, they still behave as "loners" in the end. 2. When you are having a good conversation, if you forget how to introduce yourself to him (her) and you suddenly ask the question "I heard that your lover (husband) is very beautiful (handsome)?", he (she) will immediately become unhappy. Ask: "Who did you listen to?" 3. Rarely make sexy phone calls in the office. When everyone talks about marriage issues and emotional belonging, they immediately remain silent as if nothing has happened. 4. Occasionally, you will find a white mark on his or her ring finger. If you ask the reason, you will probably smile and not answer. 5. After get off work, when a group of single men and women are having fun outside, his or her phone will definitely ring after eight or nine o'clock in the evening. 6. When answering the phone, you will find that he or she may look nervous and hesitate: "Okay, I understand", "Uh-huh, bye", "Come on, let's talk later", obviously wanting to answer the phone as soon as possible. The other party got rid of it; or at least once, he ran outside to answer the phone; or the text messages on the phone kept ringing, and the phone rang wildly, but he (she) pretended not to hear it. You reminded him (she), but he (she) said: "Call." Wrong, don’t worry about it.” 7. He has always claimed to be a happy single aristocrat who loves to be crazy, playful and laughs, but every holiday, his or her whereabouts become mysterious and difficult to contact. 8. He (she) is keen to attend social gatherings alone and actively meet the opposite sex. However, if the invitation requires a female companion (male companion) to attend, he (she) will often not show up. 9. When playing a palmistry game among friends, if you joke and say: "Your palmistry shows that you will get married before the age of 30, or you can talk about marriage, why are you still alone now?" He (she) looks a little embarrassed. Then he pulled his hand back and couldn't wait to change the subject. 10. A person of the opposite sex who seems to be an uninvited guest suddenly appears next to him (her) who has always maintained a single image. If you don't recognize him (her) and ask him (her) to introduce him, the atmosphere will become very awkward.

■[Personal opinion]

Personally, I believe that although hidden marriage can be seen as a way of life and survival skills, under the psychological shadow of "not being married" for a long time, It may weaken the person's sense of family responsibility and may even trigger a marital crisis.

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