Nowadays, many people think that having a lover outside marriage is a man’s ability and ability. Some women themselves also believe that having a lover outside marriage is a way to treat their lives well and enjoy life. The reason why we think so is that after the awakening of feminist consciousness, women are no longer attached to a specific man, but striving for greater emotional and sexual autonomy is a manifestation of women's fuller individual expression. In fact, this is just an excuse, a paradox. Contemporary men and women enter into extramarital affairs not because of the improvement of quality or awakening of consciousness, but sometimes even just under the guise of emotion, the pursuit of fresh excitement and materialization. Some extramarital affairs only reflect the decline in the moral standards of men and women who have extramarital affairs, or Selfishness in the soul, although some extramarital affairs are rebellion against immoral marriages. But more extramarital affairs are just a kind of original desire or material desire, a hit-and-miss relationship under the cover of love.

Not all extramarital affairs have morally or emotionally understandable and forgivable motives. In the face of extramarital affairs, when you play secretly, it seems that you enjoy it enough, but in fact, it is like a gamble in itself. In an extramarital affair, the cheating party may be the winner, but after being exposed, he may be playing with fire and burning himself. The party that treats extramarital affairs as an investment often loses miserably. Some people always think that extramarital affairs are exciting, romantic, a rare and interesting journey in life, or a supplement to marriage, or even a necessary entertainment, or a dive to reach a new ideal shore. But in fact, this is not the case. I think that for those who want to have an extramarital affair, they must first understand that there are likely to be five difficulties or major risks in having an extramarital affair!

1. Extramarital affairs often turn into a game between two groups of people, often hurting many innocent people

On the surface, men and women who engage in extramarital affairs only have eyes for each other, "I only have eyes for you." In other words, an extramarital affair is a relationship between a man and a woman outside of marriage. In fact, many extramarital affairs appear to be this way when they are underground. In an extramarital affair without more external interference, two people also feel that the extramarital affair is enjoyable enough. But in fact, there is no airtight wall in the world. As the extramarital affair develops, no matter how careful the two people are, the relationship will gradually become public. Especially when the extramarital affair is known to the wife or husband, the impact and involvement of the extramarital affair often changes. They became two families. As a result, the happiness of having an affair will disappear, and the negative effects of extramarital affairs will emerge. In fact, extramarital lovers, even if they are really in love, will destroy the integrity of the two families if they want to reunite the family, especially if both parties have children. This will not only hurt the other half of the marriage, but also hurt both parties. Children. If the resistance to divorce and remarriage is too great, forceful remarriage will often lead to major family tragedies. Therefore, extramarital affairs often come to the end, and many men and women have more worries. In the end, they have to separate their efforts and lick their own wounds.

2. Extramarital affairs are seriously destructive and may lead to family destruction

In traditional Chinese culture, affairs such as extramarital affairs are viewed with serious disdain and condemnation. Although feudal arranged marriage itself is immoral. However, history has evolved to this day in the 21st century. Although the implementation of monogamy includes freedom of love and freedom of divorce, its essence lies in the protection of rights and interests, and does not allow others to illegally interfere and obstruct. This does not mean that extramarital affairs are reasonable. legality. Although there are a few extramarital affairs, they seem reasonable and reasonable. But more extramarital affairs are just the expansion of selfish desires, the misappropriation of the rights and interests of others with contempt, and the conspiracy of "building plank roads openly and secretly building warehouses". Since ancient times, the hatred of seizing one's wife has been abhorrent. Many bloody tragedies today are caused by this extramarital affair. Extramarital affairs, even if resolved rationally by both parties, often cause crisis or even breakdown in several families, causing resentment between children and their elders and hatred between people. Therefore, those who want to engage in extramarital affairs should not only see the romance and excitement when two people are in love, but also the huge destructive potential in extramarital affairs.

3. The serious party in an extramarital affair is very likely to be seriously injured

In a small number of extramarital affairs, both parties have emotional reasons. But more often than not, this is not the case. In some cases, both parties have a playful attitude, pursuing a kind of excitement, but do not want to affect the stability of their respective families. In other cases, one party is doing it for love, but the other party is using it under the guise of love. To achieve beauty hunting or other purposes. But more extramarital affairs use beauty or emotion as a means to obtain a higher-level marriage, change material status or achieve other purposes. In fact, extramarital affairs that are carried out under the smoke screen of love will eventually dissipate when the smoke screen clears. The loving party will be deceived and injured when meeting the ruthless party. The two truly loving people will end up in a quarrel, exhausted both physically and mentally. If we can't get together and have to separate, it will also cause serious damage to the soul. Even if they can come together, both parties will often lose their vitality. Especially in extramarital affairs, the party with a playful attitude often has to pretend to be really passionate in order to make the other party submit. This will make the really passionate party inevitably get hurt in the end. Therefore, being blindly emotional during an extramarital affair is very likely to result in serious injuries.

4. Marrying your extramarital lover after divorce may be wishful thinking

If a woman wants to marry a married man, it is often because the man is superior in certain conditions. Or when a man enters an extramarital affair, he has a promise or hint to the woman. Many men desire to marry a woman outside of marriage, often because they are obsessed with sex, or the woman's beauty, or they are confused and finally fall in love with her. But in fact, whether you are a man or a woman, longing for your lover to marry you after divorce is often just wishful thinking. The one party who is looking forward to a new marriage during an extramarital affair may seem to think that the expected new marriage is more attractive than the current marriage, but for the other party who does not want to divorce and remarry, they may think that these are just two tellings of the same story. It looks like a more interesting one, but it's actually the same thing. Therefore, having an extramarital affair is okay, but getting married is not. The second is the one who is really in love or wants it more. The desired marriage will naturally be more beneficial to them. But the party with better conditions may have to weigh whether the gains and losses are worthwhile, and whether the price paid is worth it. Besides, if the difficulties are too great, extramarital lovers often give up. If one party is not firm and the other party cannot make the other party firmer, then the extramarital affair may eventually come to an end. Besides, sometimes one party is just for fun, under the guise of love. When the other party really asks you for a divorce, and the other party is afraid of your retaliation, they will use a delaying tactic. In the end, if you don’t want to be dragged to death, you have to give up voluntarily.

5. The happier an affair is, the more painful the ending is.

In the early stages of extramarital affairs, they often appear as underground affairs. At this time, the excitement and happiness brought by stealing make it easy for both parties to become addicted, because stealing always makes people's hearts beat faster. In the end, the relationship between the two became more and more public, and some even became complacent. People around them could see the nature of the relationship from the mood, but even the authorities thought they were protecting themselves very well. The happier you are in an affair, the easier it is to ignore the plot of the extramarital affair or the destructive nature of the extramarital affair itself. Especially when an extramarital affair is half-truth and half-false, and both parties ask each other to confirm and confess their feelings to each other, it is very likely that the lie will become true in the end. Both parties enter the affair with a playful mentality, and in the end they really can't live without each other.

In an extramarital affair, it is extremely painful to end up not being able to bear hurting innocent people and being unable to let go of the extramarital feelings. You are not afraid of breaking up the other person's family, but it will be difficult and will cause you pain and trouble. In the end, you are confident, but the other party gives up, and you can't let go no matter what. If you can't overcome the emotional hurdle, it will be a kind of pain. If the incident comes to light, it will ruin your reputation and bring you pain. As long as one party is really passionate, or one party has other than emotional intentions, and will not give up until the goal is achieved, and will be benevolent until it succeeds, then the joy of the extramarital affair will no longer exist, and the extramarital affair will bring burden and pain. . On the other hand, the other party who has a playful mentality often wants to get rid of the extramarital lover in order not to have a negative impact on themselves when faced with the other party's demands, and may even resort to murder.

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