The most important thing in sex life is decent self-confidence. Whether you are a woman or a man, sexual confidence is the basic stimulating factor for sex. When a man feels that a woman has confidence in him, he is more likely to become excited. If a woman's eyes convey such a message - I believe I can spend a good time with you, men will not be in a hurry during sex. Especially when a woman takes the initiative to be intimate with a man, the man becomes even more excited.

1. Actively guide lust

When a man's stupidity is gradually reducing a woman's enthusiasm, a woman's best skill is to guide him in the direction of happiness. As with other advanced bedroom techniques, the pride of this method lies not in focusing on a man's mistakes, but in helping him succeed. During sex, it is necessary for women to guide men to move to the parts they like and make happy moans. For example, a woman can politely say "I like this" instead of "I don't like that."

2. Men need to practice slowing down.

What methods do men need to learn? When I discuss with women what they want most from men, they tell me more than once , I hope my lover can slow down his hand. Slow caressing can increase a woman's sexual pleasure. Men are different. Direct touch will bring him great pleasure. Many women don't realize this, and men become frustrated because they wait for a very long time without getting stimulation.

When a man learns to consciously bring wonderful stimulation to a woman, the habit will evolve into an instinct. Men need to remember that if they want to increase a woman's pleasure, they need to delay direct stimulation. This will take longer, and sometimes even if it takes a very long time no progress will seem to be made, but the end effect is that the woman's pleasure will be more intense.

3. A woman can guide a man to caress

Spend more time for her. When a woman wants a man to caress her in another way, she does not have to silently endure what a man does. All the efforts are useless, she can completely guide the man to caress him in the way he wants. In this case, a man can grab a pillow, observe carefully, and study hard. How can men give women longer tenderness during sex? A very effective way to do this is to time it. This doesn't sound romantic at all, but it's very effective. I recommend that men keep a watch beside their bed. This way he can glance up at the time from time to time during sex.

There is an interesting phenomenon. When men's sexual desire is aroused, their judgment of time is extremely inaccurate, as if they are in a different time zone from women. It felt like the man had been caressing her for ten to fifteen minutes, but in fact it was only a minute or two. After ten to fifteen minutes of real caressing, the man can begin to give the woman the stimulation she really needs. At that time, women have been fully mobilized, and it is easier for them to fully accept men.

4. Skilled women do this with men

Skilled women always directly stimulate the most sensitive and sexually arousing parts of men; skilled men stimulate first The least sensitive and least arousing part of a woman. A skilled man first stimulates the least sensitive and least arousing part of a woman's body. A skilled woman first stimulates a man's most sensitive parts. By mastering the art of arousing a woman's sexual desire, a man will be confident in stimulating excitement and pleasure in his partner. And that confidence alone is enough to turn a woman on. Below, we’ll explore how to increase your sexual confidence. A man's confidence makes a woman sure of what he is going to do and that even if something goes wrong, he can handle it flexibly. Men will also be excited for the confidence of women, but the performance of the two is different.

If a woman seems too confident, as if she has sex under control, it may seem like she is contemptuous of men. A man will doubt whether he can meet her requirements and whether he can last long enough to make her climax frequently. Of course, it's good for a woman to have confidence in herself, but, like all advanced bedroom skills, a woman's ability to satisfy a man is demonstrated by helping him successfully satisfy himself. In sex, a woman's ability to satisfy a man is reflected by helping the man successfully satisfy himself.

5. Make friends with sex

Before I started studying sex, I had been an ascetic monk for nine years. As a monk, I teach students spiritual philosophy and contemplative meditation. By the time I was 27, my life had fundamentally changed. I am no longer a monk. I returned to the world of mortals.

My sexual knowledge was very poor at first because I used to be a monk. Later, my partner and I explored sex topics for two years and founded a studio to teach about sex and spirituality. Let’s discuss the ideal sex that both men and women strive for. At the seminar, many people talked openly about how to make sex better.

Everyone benefited greatly from the discussion. Although I am an organizer, I am also a student. I took notes and tried it in practice with my partner.

6. You can discuss sex if necessary

Discussions between couples cannot improve sex life. Most men have never been monks, so they are not willing to ask their partners what they like during sex. What. Men always think that they should be a sex expert, and women also expect men to behave like experts. In this way, men are unwilling to try to improve because of complacency or self-deception. A woman usually doesn't take the initiative to tell a man what she wants, because she doesn't want sex to be static, she wants two people to discover the true meaning of sex together.

A woman may think that if a man truly loves her, he should know what to do. This feeling is a figment of the romantic mind and cannot create perfect sex at all. In addition, women are usually afraid that men will know their sexual needs. She worries that men will despise her or be unwilling to comply with her needs. If a woman has to tell a man what to do, she just picks some romantic topics that have nothing to do with sex.

A woman may think that if a man truly loves her, he should know what to do. This feeling is a figment of the romantic mind and cannot create perfect sex at all. Although most books on sex today discuss the importance of communication, many couples fail to communicate effectively and rarely talk about sex. They only discussed it cursorily when sex went wrong. The person who is not satisfied with sex starts to complain, but the other person doesn't listen at all. In situations like this, communication is not a fun experience at all, but more like criticism or blame. In fact, in some procedural terms it is.

Men are particularly sensitive to the evaluation of sexual ability. When a woman tells him what she likes or dislikes, what a man hears is: "You are simply not good enough. Other men know how to do it, why don't you know?"

7. Cleverness Talking about sex and love

The way to overcome communication difficulties is to read a book about sex together and then discuss it. Your communication will flow more smoothly when your partner isn't afraid of being blamed for things he or she does wrong. When you hear words of approval, you can say "hmm" to express agreement, which implies that you already know what he/she needs.

No matter how much we know about sex, it does us good to understand the differences in needs between men and women. Only after we understand these differences can we know what he or she needs, so that we can be more motivated.

When I talk about sex, I ask my audience to applaud when they hear something they think is great, and I also ask them to emphasize to their partners that what I say is the essence. Men tend to turn their noses up at the places where women applaud the loudest, and vice versa. When wives applaud, husbands don't have to take it personally. Because sometimes when almost all women are applauding, they are applauding for their own voices. The wife no longer needs to tell her husband what she needs. The husband can completely feel it through the enthusiasm of his wife's applause.

8. Every woman is different

There are differences not only between men and women, but also between women. For men to truly grasp a woman's sexual needs, a simple discussion is not enough. To put it more complicated, not only are women different from each other, but the same woman will also vary greatly at different times.

Although we can study some general techniques and methods in textbooks or seminars, we cannot study your partner's unique preferences. Not only are women different from each other, but the same woman can also vary greatly at different times. While we can study some general techniques and methods in textbooks or seminars, we can't study your partner's unique preferences.

After truly understanding what women need most, men can breathe a sigh of relief. Although there is no need to strictly adhere to your partner's suggestions every time you have sex, knowing your partner's preferences can indeed greatly increase a man's confidence and allow him to experience new sex every time. When some techniques don't work so well, men can fall back on the way women like them. Such confidence helps men relax during sex and become more creative and spontaneous. During sex, when a man can use whatever methods he wants with a woman that have already been tried and worked,