Upgrade the concept of sex and enjoy sex

Usually, we set too many restrictions on the body - whether the skin is smooth and delicate, whether the lower abdomen is flat and firm, whether the posture is elegant and decent... think about it, If you were tied up, would you still feel pleasure? We take sex too seriously and underestimate the power of our bodies. Fortunately, traditional sexual concepts are undergoing an upgrade. The updated sexual concept can make it easier for us to enjoy the pleasure of sex.

XP version of sexual concept: As long as there is no "sexual interest", you should not force yourself to have sex.

Vista version of sexual concepts: Even if there is no "sexual interest", women can also become "sexually excited".

He is full of passion, but you are not in the "state" at all. You neither want to "cruelly" reject him, nor do you want to force yourself. Many times you have to deal with it. Is this the normal state of your sex? OUT!

Recent research shows that during sex, our body and brain can be completely "separated". That is to say, even if your brain "turns off" the sex channel, your body is still Can be "lit".

Researchers explain that sexual desire originates from our brains (such as some thoughts related to sex), while sexual arousal originates from our bodies (such as feeling hot or having secretions in the lower body) , that is, under pure physical stimulation, a woman's body will have a physiological response to sexual arousal, but at this time, the woman's brain has not "entered the state" at all (and even has a tendency to resist).

How can we make the brain follow the body on the "right track"? Sexologists point out: "Foreplay is very important. Men must be patient enough to help women warm up their bodies, and women should not refuse. This leads because your body will get into the 'zone' much faster than you think.

Concentrate all your attention on your body. Let him kiss your neck and run his fingers over your back like a brush. This will help warm up your body. ”

Tips body hardware upgrade training

If you find that you are often in a state of “no sexual interest”, then maybe the “sexy antenna” in your body is not sensitive. It takes some small training to adjust - lie on his pillow in the morning and take a few deep breaths, smell the fragrance of shampoo left in his hair; take a mouthful of ice cream and let it slowly melt on your tongue .

"Pamper" your sensory experience, and it will reward you with sensitive body responses and memories of wonderful experiences. "Even if your brain is not in the right state, your body will 'recall' the wonderful feelings." , and then respond to your partner's efforts. ”

“Research shows that when a woman is anxious and stressed, sex can relax her. Therefore, abandon your old ideas and accept his enthusiasm without reservation. You are not as ‘cold’ as you think. ”

XP version of sexual concept: Women need a long foreplay.

Vista version of sexual concept: “Shrunk” foreplay can also arouse our sexual interest.

Foreplay time? 20 minutes is too short, 40 minutes is appropriate, and an hour is not too long! In the past, if you want to fully mobilize a woman’s passion, you must ensure sufficient foreplay time, including kissing, touching, etc.” "Eighteen kinds of martial arts" are indispensable. Now, this situation is quietly changing. A new study in the American Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that it only takes up to 30 minutes to arouse the desire of men or women.

Experts did an interesting experiment: they asked some young men and women to watch pornographic performances together, and tested the secretion changes of pituitary hormones in their brains through heat sensors on their heads. Experimental results show that the time it takes for men to reach peak sexual arousal is 11 minutes, while it takes 12 minutes for women - there is no big difference between men and women in terms of "warm-up" time.

So, what exactly causes "out of sync" in real life? It's the form of foreplay. Men can be aroused by visual stimulation alone, while women need caress, kisses, sweet words and other methods.

And during foreplay, women are more likely to be interrupted or distracted than men. Therefore, before going to bed next time, remember to turn off your landline phone and mobile phone, and "invite" the TV out of the bedroom. Sit quietly for 5 minutes, let your emotions calm down, and then start your "sweet dream". As long as you respect each other and devote yourself to each other, within 20 minutes, you can "burn" to 100°C together!

XP version of sexual concept: Women’s sexual desire is lower than men’s.

Vista version of sexual concepts: The concept of female sexual desire is broader than that of men.

Men are like "barking dogs", taking the absolute initiative in the relationship between the sexes - when men start to get angry, women are still tepid - but this does not mean that men Sexual desire is stronger than that of women. "Just as many women are taller than men in real life, in sexual relationships, there are also many men who have much lower sexual desire than women." A well-known American research institute surveyed 25,000 men and women on their sexual desire. came to this conclusion.

During a certain period of time, the sexual desire of both sexes has its own levels, which is related to each person's menstrual cycle. When you feel that you are at the low ebb of your sexual desire, but you still want to satisfy his desire, it is recommended that you try some more "out there" sex games, such as role playing, or imagining yourself having sex in a public place.

The more open-minded you are, the greater the possibility of enjoying perfect sex. But this trick may not be "effective" for men. Studies have proven that sexual fantasies have little effect on men.

“Women masturbate less than men, but they actually enjoy sex more if they take the time to learn more about their bodies and how their sensitive areas feel. "Diversification." Dr. Richard Lippa of the University of California Psychological Research Center found that about 20% of women have higher sexual desire than the average male. The stronger the sexual desire of women, the more attractive they are to men.

XP version of sexual concepts: Women are not "visual animals".

Vista version of sexual concepts: Women have sensitive physiological reactions to all pornographic images and influences.

Men like to have sex with the lights on? And now there is evidence that women are actually not disgusted with having sex with the lights on. What they are disgusted with is the fat on their stomachs.

Emory University conducted an experiment in which men and women were asked to watch some sexual pictures. The researchers found through instruments that women stared at the pictures for as long as men, and women’s gaze focused on both sexes. The reproductive area lasts longer than men.

Next time if he "undresses" in front of you, you will have more "fun". In addition, you can also place a mirror next to the bed to observe your movements and postures from different angles. It’s also worth noting that Emory researchers found that men’s gaze rests on women’s faces much longer than on women’s bodies.

“He won’t stare at your flaws, he will look for parts that can add ‘sexual interest’.”