Uncertainties in extramarital affairs
The world is full of many uncertainties, which do not necessarily mean there are exceptions or additional consequences. Extramarital affairs also have this "uncertainty". If you have doubts about your marriage, or you are very confident in your marriage, you will also be secretly frightened after seeing the "unsure" factors in extramarital affairs.
Extramarital affairs are not necessarily "bad people"
Many people believe that cheating is due to character issues. But a lot of psychological research evidence shows that parents' behavior has a great impact on their children when it comes to infidelity. If a child's parents have had an extramarital affair, the child is likely to have similar problems with their parents when they become adults. Therefore, you cannot define someone as a "bad person" just because he cheated on you.
Extramarital affairs may not be undone
Some avant-garde psychological books and magazines once claimed that extramarital affairs have positive effects to some extent: making you a better lover, helping you survive the midlife crisis, making your marriage happier, and even making you feel married again Get "excited". This statement seriously affects people's thinking. If every marriage that has problems is restored through cheating, then in this world, couples will face many emotional problems and a vicious emotional cycle will form.
Extramarital affairs are not necessarily “harmless”
In some films, extramarital affairs are often seen as an integral part of the plot, and extramarital affairs are often glorified. It is suggested in the film that extramarital affairs are just a leisure activity similar to playing softball or watching movies. Extramarital affairs can destroy the intimate relationship between partners, even destroy families and careers, and leave a series of sequelae. Therefore, cheating can cause great harm to a marriage.
An extramarital affair does not necessarily require sexual relations
Many people believe that if sex does not occur, it cannot be called cheating. This understanding is inappropriate. From platonic friendship to romantic love, there is always a misconception that one is not cheating. In fact, this is the biggest threat a marriage can face. 80% of cheating starts with "a friend," often a co-worker. Studies have shown that 50% of women and 62% of men have had adulterous affairs with their work partners. Therefore, mental infidelity will naturally develop into physical infidelity.