First of all, no matter you are of the same or opposite sex, the following four principles are worth keeping in mind!

1. Every sexual partner must be treated as infected, and condoms should be used every time for penetrative sex.

2. Only when two people are very clear that each other is the only sexual partner, and it has been more than 3 months since the last time they had sex with other people, and both parties have tested negative for HIV. Under the premise, condoms are not required.

3. If you are of the same sex, before putting on the condom, apply a sufficient amount of lubricant on the penis. After putting on the condom, use a sufficient amount of lubricant on the outside while being inserted. Lubricant should be applied inside the anus with your fingers. There are two main purposes for using lubricant, one is to prevent the condom from breaking and the other is to enhance pleasure.

4. Sexually active people (with multiple sexual partners) should undergo an HIV test every six months, even if they use condoms correctly every time.

For most members of Chinese society, homosexuality is a phenomenon that is shameful and not suitable for discussion, but it is well known that it exists. When most people talk about this matter, they may hold a certain attitude. Feeling an inexplicable embarrassment and an unspeakable tension, I quickly turned to another topic. In the minds of the public, homosexuality is always associated with concepts such as "abnormal", "sick" and "immoral". However, this is not the case.

Let’s first consider these often thrown around words and the concepts they represent – ​​“normal” and “abnormal”, “disease” and “health”, “morality” and “immorality” ". A fundamental question is, how to determine the boundaries of these competing concepts? As far as "normal" and "abnormal" are concerned, there is no doubt that at the level of the issue we are discussing, "abnormal" means a behavior and lifestyle that is different from that of most people. So how many people What behaviors are considered “normal”? What percent of the total population is needed?

What’s more important is that here “abnormality” (“different from ordinary people”) is imprinted with morality. In other words, whether it is “normal” or not is directly related to “correctness”. Especially since it involves sex, what is right or wrong about sex is a serious moral issue in China. Under this logic, homosexuality is considered immoral.

However, why does a natural sexual behavior face such moral embarrassment? Looking at today's world, diversity and difference are becoming huge driving forces for the development of our society. It is difficult to understand why people's attitudes are so backward on the issue of homosexuality alone. Not to mention, a large amount of behavioral science and neuroscience evidence has long found that same-sex sexual orientation is one of the normal sexual orientations in humans and even the animal kingdom. Homosexuality is not a lifestyle that can be chosen arbitrarily, but is an innate and natural behavior.

The reason why homosexuals have become the target of discrimination and criticism by many people in today's society is that many people believe that they should be responsible for AIDS. They believe that it was among this group of people that AIDS began to break out and become popular. But is it really their "abnormal" behavior that has led to the rapid spread of this terrible disease? This statement seems reasonable, but it is not based on facts. Although AIDS was first discovered by the Western medical community among gay men in the United States, in fact, from a global perspective, heterosexual transmission is the first. This is also the case in China. The Ministry of Health pointed out in the "Joint Assessment Report on AIDS Prevention and Control in China (2007)" released on November 29, 2007: "In 2007... among the 50,000 new infections, heterosexual transmission accounted for 44.7%. %, male-to-male transmission accounts for 12.2%, injection drug use accounts for 42%, and mother-to-child transmission accounts for 1.1%. "

This is in line with the common views in the media and the misunderstandings of many people in society. A stark contrast. The results of this assessment show that although male-to-male transmission is an important route, it is not currently the primary route. Heterosexual sexual contact causes far more infections than male-to-male transmission.

To put it bluntly, homosexuals, especially male homosexuals, are one of the susceptible groups to AIDS. The reason why there is such a high infection rate among this group of people is related to many factors. One point that cannot be ignored is that it is precisely because of the widespread stigma and discrimination against homosexuals that many gays are in extremely negative psychological conditions. Many studies in psychology and sociology have proven that in such a state of mind and social existence, individuals can easily ignore their own health. At the same time, due to the lack of social and family support necessary to develop normal emotional relationships, a large number of gay people can only interact in a hasty and hidden scene. It is difficult to be prepared and safe when it comes to sex under such circumstances. When discussing "why the HIV/AIDS epidemic among gay people remains high", these reasons cannot be ignored. When many people attribute the AIDS problem in society as a whole to gay people, they should reflect on the social roots of this problem. In fact, there is evidence that attributing AIDS to one or more minority groups in society and using indifference, discrimination or stigmatization not only does not help the prevention and control of the disease, but is itself a disease Catalyst for mass popularity among mainstream groups. For example, AIDS was an epidemic among gay men in the United States throughout the 1980s. Until 1995, most heterosexual white men in the United States still believed that AIDS was a "gay disease" and believed that AIDS had nothing to do with being heterosexual. As a result of the prevalence of this belief, the incidence of AIDS among heterosexual American men has gradually increased since the late 1990s.

In addition, many people believe that the "chaotic" sexual relationships among gay men are the root cause of AIDS, and further believe that gays should be responsible for this "immoral" cause.

So, should "multiple sex partners" become a moral issue? This is another issue that should be discussed twice. The conclusions of sociological and behavioral surveys do support one point: multiple sexual partners is indeed a relatively common phenomenon among gay men. However, this is not exclusive to gay men. According to research by Professor Pan Suiming of Renmin University of China, among the "mainstream" heterosexual groups, the number of people having multiple sex partners has also increased at a rapid rate in recent years. As for whether multiple sexual partners should become a negative object of moral judgment, a basic criterion must be used. Regardless of whether it is international or domestic, most ethicists and sociologists agree on one thing: the bottom line of morality should be "no harm to others." If it is a sexual relationship between adults on the premise of mutual consent, and does not involve harm to the feelings and/or relationships of a third party, it should be said that under such a premise, whether it is heterosexual or homosexual, multiple sex partners are not allowed should no longer be a moral issue. Of course, from a risk perspective, multiple sexual partners, whether of the same sex or of the opposite sex, will increase the risk of HIV and STD transmission. Therefore, the solution to the problem here still turns into how to promote people to increase risk awareness, make good use of protective measures, and avoid infection. What needs to be emphasized on this issue is that the lack of social recognition, lack of basic legal protection, pressure from family, etc. make it difficult for many gays to maintain a fixed one-to-one emotional and sexual relationship.

Scientific facts have proven that the number of sexual partners is directly proportional to the chance of contracting STDs and AIDS. Whether heterosexual or homosexual, having sex with multiple people will increase the chance of infection. However, in a society with full freedom of choice, as long as it is voluntary and autonomous, individuals have the right to choose whether to have one or multiple sexual partners. What I want to emphasize here is just the fact that the reason why many gays are unable to maintain stable emotional relationships is mainly due to social environment and family pressure. From another perspective, if society can be more tolerant, it will provide more protection against AIDS not only for homosexuals, but also for other people. This is especially important in the current situation where many Chinese gays end up being forced to marry people of the opposite sex. Blindly emphasizing that homosexuals are a high-risk group is highly misleading and will give many heterosexuals a false sense of security, thinking that they are safe because they do not belong to a high-risk group. But in fact, due to multiple pressures from society and family, many homosexuals are forced to have sexual relations and get married with members of the opposite sex, making the so-called distinction between high-risk and non-high-risk people meaningless.

Facing challenges like AIDS from all aspects of social life, people have to rethink how to get along, how to communicate and cooperate, and these thoughts are bound to be related to the fundamentals of people's lives. Homosexuality and its relationship with AIDS provide an excellent starting point for people to think about: how we pay attention to, respect and act with each other, how to create a relationship model with others in daily life, and how to treat those who are different from ourselves. people and their way of life.