Recently, Keith Aberlo, a psychologist from the famous American sexual health website "Red Book" pointed out: "No sexual interest at home" has nothing to do with the couple's relationship. What dilutes the interest is often the trivial chores of housework.

Because 93% of sexual activities of married couples take place in their own bedrooms, both spouses must make efforts to create a beautiful environment in the bedroom and make it a romantic and special place. It is not a place where various electrical appliances are piled up and used as an entertainment venue and office.

A big bed is not conducive to intimacy

Most people think that the bigger the bed, the more comfortable they will be. Abelo believes that a slightly crowded bed is more conducive for couples to be intimate with each other. Because physical contact is the most direct form of care, when the hands and feet of two people touch each other from time to time, not only can people feel warm and safe, but sometimes even days without sexual plans can be filled with passion. And no one can reach anyone's big bed, which makes people feel alienated.

Change bed sheets and quilt covers frequently

The best things to create a fresh feeling in the bedroom are sheets and quilt covers. Gloomy tulle, brightly colored pure cotton, delicate and smooth silk, although everyone likes different materials, the relaxation the body feels when touching the gorgeous quilt is the same. Only by changing them frequently, keeping them clean, and having colors, patterns, and materials that are in line with both parties’ aesthetics can we arouse people’s instinct to enjoy themselves.

Keep your bedroom private. The bedroom should be a restricted area for children, which is conducive to couples placing some sexual stimuli, such as nude sculptures, paintings, intimate photos of couples, sex books, etc. From the perspective of sexual psychology, couples' expectations for the bedroom environment are generally a psychological requirement, which generally consists of three specific contents: sufficient security, moderate sexual stimulation, and room for association.

Aberlo believes that you can also put a bottle of perfume on the bedside table, but do not open the bottle cap and let a wisp of fragrance float out, which can create an ambiguous emotion.

Adjust the color tone of the bedroom to the wife’s requirements

Since the wife’s sexual motivation is more susceptible to the influence of the environment, the color tone of the bedroom should be based on the wife’s feelings. Generally, the principle of “opposite and complementary” should be followed. That is, the taste reflected in the color tone should be opposite to the personality traits displayed by the wife in public. A passionate wife should choose delicate and expressive colors, such as beige; a reserved and indifferent wife should choose bright and cheerful colors, such as orange and light red. The opposite color will encourage the wife to devote herself wholeheartedly to sex life, stimulating and mobilizing her rich emotions that she usually does not easily reveal.

From the perspective of orientation, it is better to use mid-range colors for rooms facing south or east, cool colors for west-facing rooms, and warm colors for north-facing rooms. Furniture and furnishings should generally be in warm colors to enhance the warm atmosphere.

Try to use desk lamps with adjustable brightness

Before making love, you can adjust it to dark and soft light to create a hazy mood. Research shows that couples observing each other's sexual arousal state in soft light, as well as their personal sexual physiological responses, can enhance both parties' sexual excitement.

Don’t treat your bedroom as a dressing room. Aberlo pointed out that it is best for couples to keep a sense of mystery to each other and not to change clothes in front of each other in the bedroom. For the vast majority of ordinary couples, the beauty of nudity is not strong. "Why should we expose our shortcomings?"

In addition, although it is not necessary to dress extremely sexy in the bedroom every day, it is best not to. Dressed too stiffly for bed. A conservative wife may wish to wear silk pajamas once in a while, while her husband's underwear is best changed every day.

Sleep separately once in a while. Aberlo pointed out that when couples need to endure the life of working night shifts, coming home late, and working overtime at home until late at night for a period of time, they may try to sleep separately for a few days. This will not only avoid unnecessary sleepiness to the person who goes to bed early, but also increase the sense of mystery. When they are together again, they will be as excited and exciting as the previous date. Or when couples have a good emotional foundation but find that their "sexual" interest is gradually fading, they can also choose to sleep in separate beds to cultivate their "sexual" interest.

Sleeping separately does not necessarily mean sleeping in two rooms. The popular methods such as "separate beds but not rooms" and "separate quilts but not beds" are all good solutions.

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