Considering communication as a skill, it is essential to fully understand the characteristics of the communication object. There is a fact that perhaps no one will deny, that is, half of the world's population is of the same gender as you, while the other half of the people belong to your "opposite sex" category. Some people say: Women hold up half the sky. In other words, this "heaven" has half men and half women. As for everyone's communication partners, there are also half men and half women, or in other words, your communication partners are half the same sex and half the opposite sex. Therefore, in communication, the ability to understand the opposite sex is extremely necessary.

Of course, today's society is a society that advocates equality between men and women, and there should be no "sex discrimination" in communication. However, we must admit that "men and women are different". After all, men and women have many differences in their psychological characteristics and ways of doing things. Big difference. Fully understanding this plays a vital role in increasing the success rate of our communication activities.

Some people regard communication with the opposite sex as "conquering" the other party. Whether this statement is appropriate or not is irrelevant for the time being, but the reason why the word "conquer" is used is probably to illustrate the difficulty of communicating with the opposite sex. This is indeed the case. In communication situations with the opposite sex, people will become more civilized and speak less casually. The most difficult thing is to understand the psychology of the opposite sex and try to adopt a "prescribe the right medicine" communication method.

In fact, there are only two most critical principles for communicating with the opposite sex: first, adopt a positive attitude and a cordial attitude, and do not say "no" to the opposite sex easily, because it is easier to hurt the other person's self-esteem; second, be confident, and don't just say "no" to the opposite sex. They appear nervous when they come into contact with the opposite sex and cannot get along with them calmly. Of course, mutual respect when communicating with opposite sexes is essential, otherwise unnecessary misunderstandings will occur. For example, it is a virtue to be warm and generous, honest and simple, but if you show affection to everyone regardless of the occasion or the target, be outspoken and like to chat, it is likely to cause the other party to misunderstand, and even produce some kind of Wrong associations; and men's declarations in single dormitories and women's whispers in purdah should not be easily "revealed" in this communication situation. This is not only a sign of respect for the other party, but also a sign of self-esteem.

Understand each other and examine yourself

Due to the different characteristics of people of different genders in nature and society, they often have different communication effects in different communication situations. For example, in situations where it is necessary to induce people's feelings to lead to success, women tend to have a higher success rate in communication. This is because women are more likely to gain trust and sympathy from the opposite sex when communicating with the opposite sex, so they have a certain "communication advantage." Nowadays, some companies are recruiting women as public relations directors or public relations ladies, probably because they have spotted this advantage. Of course, there are also people who use women to achieve their own goals through vulgar means, which is certainly not included in communication.

Of course, both men and women have different strengths and strengths in communication. When communicating with the opposite sex, paying attention to your own strengths and strengths and avoiding your own shortcomings and deficiencies is a major skill for successful communication.

The following information may be helpful for us to understand each other and examine ourselves when communicating with the opposite sex - when encountering difficulties, men need encouragement, and women need comfort.

Whether the above statement is scientific or not cannot be proven, but in daily communication we can easily find that it is indeed the case in many cases! When communicating with strangers, the scope of people's communication cannot be limited to familiar people and environments. In fact, we are exposed to strange people and things every day. attend banquet. We inevitably have to communicate with strangers when traveling by car, boat, or staying in a hotel. Communicating with strangers can enliven our lives, open our hearts and expand our horizons. In our real life, it is not uncommon for people to become close friends due to chance encounters. As for sitting with you on the long journey. Communicating with people living together can reduce the loneliness of the journey, regulate and enliven the journey life, and increase knowledge.

There is a saying in Buddhism: It takes five hundred years to cultivate in the same boat. It means that if we can meet each other in this life, it is the fate that comes from "cultivation" in the previous life. We can't verify whether this statement is well-founded, but when we talk to people we meet for the first time, we always think: We are only able to meet because of fate. After this meeting, we say goodbye. I wonder if there is fate to see each other again. Maybe this first meeting It will be the last time we meet in this life. Therefore, we cherish this moment of getting along even more and try our best to make each other happy memories. This kind of "cherishing fate" attitude often unexpectedly increases good interpersonal relationships.

As the saying goes: "Everything is difficult in the beginning." It is indeed difficult to start a conversation when you are a complete stranger to the other person. However, as long as you master certain skills, you will achieve your goals. Instead of trying to come up with something profound or clever, just ask simple questions or comment on things happening around you.

Of course, it doesn't mean that you can talk to the other person like friends just by following the above tips. In fact, due to different objective environments and differences between people, in many cases we cannot get what we want. So, when people meet for the first time, how long does it take to determine whether they can become friends? Dr. Leonard Juni from the United States said in a book he wrote that the "point" of communication lies in the first five minutes of their contact with each other.

Generally speaking, people like those who like them. So in the first five minutes of talking to a stranger you meet for the first time, be friendly and confident. In addition to this, show empathy and considerate of other people's needs, worries and wishes. In addition, when you hear a compliment, you can say "I'm still far behind" to show your strengths in a disguised way. If you hear something that doesn't sit well with you, don't act upset or offer too many explanations. When answering questions, be kind, friendly, and willing to help others.

It should be noted that the first five minutes of meeting someone are definitely not acting for people to watch, otherwise it will give people a feeling of hypocrisy. You should never complain or complain to others when you meet them for the first time. These may cause you to lose a very good friend.

Five major psychological benefits of heterosexual interactions

1. Mutual assistance in career With the development of society, people's professionalism has greatly increased, and they generally desire to achieve something in a certain aspect or field in order to realize their personal value. For example, if the lover of a female writer is a researcher at a scientific research institute and knows nothing about creation, although she supports her creation, she cannot give specific guidance or help. She made several friends who were writers of the opposite sex. They met regularly and improved their creative skills through mutual discussions. Friends of the opposite sex like this are mostly "birds on a tree". They get to know each other for a common cause, and deepen their friendship as their careers progress. Here, a person not only gets specific help, but also gets appreciation and encouragement from the opposite sex, which enhances his or her self-confidence. In recent years, the rise of various salons and small sororities is precisely to meet this need for choosing friends, and many people have met "bosom friends" of the opposite sex here.

2. Compensation in intelligence Scientifically proven that there is no obvious difference in intelligence between men and women, but there are differences in intelligence types. For example, in terms of thinking, women are more practical and their thinking activities are more specific. Women's intelligence is more adapted to applied science and science close to reality. Men are more inclined to the field of abstract thinking. They use more comprehensive methods to treat reality, are good at generalizations, and are enthusiastic about abstract science. Their thinking is often bizarre and bold. In same-sex interactions, both men and women can learn from each other's strengths and improve their intelligence.

3. Complementary temperaments There are differences in temperament between men and women. The masculine temperament is more reactive, strong-willed, generally more capable of taking on challenges, strong in aggression, and full of resistance. Femininity is flexible, full of emotions, and changeable in mood. Their perseverance is typically characterized by quick reactions and quick and dexterous movements. In the relationship between men and women, the temperament of both parties can be hidden in the other party.

4. Emotionally, mutual comfort is extremely rich. In addition to love, there are also sympathy, family affection, gratitude, etc. Therefore, opposite sexes can have emotional exchanges without love, which can make people feel warm. , to achieve psychological balance.

Generally speaking, women are delicate, gentle and compassionate, while men are passionate and strong-willed. Some men are willing to confide their misfortunes and embarrassments to women, tell the secrets of their souls, and calm down in the sound of sympathy. Some women are willing to tell their hesitations and sorrows to their boyfriends, and stabilize their emotions in the sound of encouragement. Some "confidants" always feel that they have a common language and soothe their souls in conversation. This kind of emotional communication is subtle and cannot be obtained with people of the same sex.

5. Mutual pleasure in spirit. Some people make friends of the opposite sex for entertainment. They get spiritual pleasure from common activities, and become friends after more contact, such as poker friends, golf friends, etc. When having fun with friends of the opposite sex, you feel a kind of pride, satisfaction, and harmony that you don't have with friends of the same sex.

In short, there are many benefits to dating between men and women. An ethicist once said: The real strength of a man is his fortitude with a touch of tenderness. If a man concentrates all male characteristics, he will be boring and boring. Men specifically exist in the combination of different gender characteristics, which makes their characters more colorful and shows the charm of men. The same goes for women.