When a husband and wife live together and live a life of daily necessities, quarrels are inevitable. Some couples quarrel with each other in small ways, and during the quarrel their relationship becomes warmer and their lives get better and better; while other couples quarrel until their wives and children are separated. Why is this? In fact, if a couple quarrels at the head of the bed and ends at the end of the bed, they must learn quarrel skills.

1. Discuss the matter and don’t ramble

When couples quarrel, they should discuss the matter, express their dissatisfaction directly, explain their thoughts clearly, get to the point and solve the problem. Instead of dragging a lot of old sesame seeds and rotten grain chaff, let alone cynicism and criticism. Husband and wife are not enemies, and rude words will only aggravate each other's emotions, hurt the feelings of both parties, and leave no room for maneuver when conflicts arise between the two people.

2. Take the initiative to explain and give the other party a chance to explain

Many couples quarrel due to misunderstandings. In order not to hurt the other party's feelings too much, you must give the other party a chance to explain when you quarrel. If only one person complains and accuses the other party, the other party will gradually become too lazy to explain. The deeper the misunderstanding, the more hurtful the feelings. To untie the bell, the person who tied the bell must also be tied. Solving a problem requires communication between both parties. Give the other person a chance to explain and try to listen. Maybe you will find that things are not as bad as you thought. In the same way, if the problem is on your side, you should take the initiative to explain it. Don't think that the other party should understand you. If you don't speak it out, no one can guess what you really think. The maintenance of any relationship is inseparable from good communication.

3. There is no need to argue about who is right and who is wrong

When some people quarrel, they must decide who is right and who is wrong. But for the two couples, is it really that important who is right and who is wrong? So what if it’s right, so what if it’s wrong? If the other party apologizes, will it satisfy you psychologically? not necessarily! If you force the other person to apologize but hurt the other person's feelings, you will not get satisfaction, but only loss. If the quarrel must be a long-term one, no matter who is right or wrong, the result will be the same: it will hurt the relationship between you, and the gain will outweigh the loss. When quarreling, you must pay attention to your skills and limits. No matter what, the basic rule is to not hurt the relationship between the couple.

A happy marriage is inseparable from five things

How can a couple who get along day and night enhance their relationship day by day? This is important for couples of any age, but especially middle-aged couples. Next, you might as well listen to the advice given by experts:

1. Keep yourself clean

Both husband and wife have their own working environments and different social circles, but they cannot socialize without restraint and the same as before marriage, especially making friends of the opposite sex. When interacting with friends of the opposite sex, you should leave room for leeway, pay attention to propriety, and keep the relationship between each other within the boundaries of courtesy and friendship. Try your best to deal rationally with friends of the opposite sex who show affection for you in daily life, and deal rationally with some emotional issues outside of marriage. The editor here recommends that you bring your significant other with you as much as possible when you have to attend social events. Even if your significant other cannot be present, you should pay special attention to your words and deeds to avoid causing unnecessary trouble to your marriage.

2. Good at creating surprises

Couples are forced by social pressure to be busy every day. At the same time, they should not forget important festivals such as wedding anniversaries and each other's birthdays. They should celebrate them appropriately to promote the relationship between the couple. Don't let the other party remind you of important anniversaries, pay attention to it yourself. While creating surprises for the other party, the other party can also deeply feel that you care about her through your surprises.

3. Love life and love yourself even more

It is said that women like their appearance, and they pay special attention to their words and deeds when they are in love. After marriage, many women seem to have changed. Especially after giving birth, women’s attention shifts to their children, their care for their husbands, and their personal image. If the care is neglected, it will have a negative impact on the relationship between the couple. Modifying one's own image not only makes oneself comfortable, but also allows the other party to always maintain a good impression of oneself. Appropriate image changes are not only to please the other party, but also to support one's face at work.

4. Be considerate of the episodes in married life

It cannot be said that sex life occupies the majority of married life, but its irreplaceable position in married life is unquestionable. The quality of sex life directly affects the relationship between husband and wife, but sex life is not the whole relationship between husband and wife. You should not be picky about your sex life. In today's society with so much pressure, you should be considerate of the other person's occasional neglect of the quality of sex life due to high pressure.

5. Communication brings closer the relationship between husband and wife

Married life is not as pure as falling in love. During this period, it will be mixed with trivial things. These things occupy the limited energy of both parties and reduce the time for the husband and wife to get to know each other. Therefore, the husband and wife should take out as much time as possible to talk to each other. When communicating about unsatisfactory or happy things, you should mainly focus on the emotional expression of both parties, and try to avoid trivial household matters from getting involved.