The key to whether a married life is sweet or not lies in the way two people get along with each other. Therefore, in married life, two people must pay attention to getting along correctly when getting along. If the way of getting along between two people is correct, then their married life will be sweet; if the way of getting along between two people is incorrect, no matter how good the relationship is, the married life will not be sweet.

So, how should husband and wife get along correctly in married life?

Mutual loyalty

Husband and wife must be loyal to each other, so that your sex life will be perfect. If you deliberately make your lover jealous, it will be very detrimental to the relationship between you. So, not destroying your partner's sense of security during intercourse will have negative consequences, and you will suffer as well. Jealousy will make your spouse extremely disappointed in you and cause them to lose interest in sex for a period of time, which will also affect your marriage.

Pay attention to each other

Many men pursue novelty and excitement in sex, and often try new tricks and novelties during sex. Women are always required to constantly change their perfumes, hairstyles and clothes. The reason why they do this is nothing more than the fear that they will get bored with their lover. However, you might as well try to think about why you fell in love in the first place when you pay attention to your spouse. This will greatly improve your sexual relationship. So try to look at your loved one with new eyes every day.

Add love to sex

Sex, as the name suggests, means that a sex life with love is a real sex life and a perfect sex life. However, many couples, after getting married, slowly regard their sex life as purely sexual intercourse without love. In fact, the purpose of sex is to share and express love with your spouse, and it can be with or without orgasm. The most important secret of sex life is: you must love each other wholeheartedly, so that a happy sex life will naturally follow.

Experts point out that a perfect sex life is a necessary condition for a sweet marriage. Therefore, when having sex, you must pay attention to the methods and methods, and do not let some inappropriate behaviors or factors affect the quality of your sex life.

Pay attention to the time and frequency of your sexual intercourse

An article in the latest issue of "Yueji" magazine in the United States points out: The ideal frequency is for both husband and wife to reach an agreement on sex without sticking to a fixed pattern. The article also invited a number of American sexology experts to comment and provide guidance on different sexual frequency.

Once per night. Expert comments: I admire your extraordinary energy, but don’t “have sex for the sake of sex” and ignore emotions. John Gagnon, professor of sociology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, suggests that in the past month, pay attention to the time and frequency of sex, and discuss with your partner whether the frequency of sex is appropriate, and strive to satisfy both the physical and mental aspects. .

Twice a week. Expert comments: This is the "standard sex frequency" that many people adhere to, but Dr. Eric Jensen, an expert at the Institute of Sexology at Indiana University, said that this is actually not scientific. The frequency of truly scientific sex is determined based on physical needs and the emotions of both parties. After a couple has lived together for a long time, the frequency of sex will form a habit, and it is easy to become more form than substance. At this time, couples should learn to break the routine, such as changing the fixed time and place.

Two or three times a month. Expert comment: If both people accept this frequency, then there is no need to worry too much. Mary Urapini, a sexual psychotherapy expert in Houston, USA, said that for some couples, quality trumps quantity in their sex life. Especially after the age of 40, a quality sex session is better than daily passion. Activities such as learning new things and going on adventures together will bring the couple closer together, improve intimacy, and make sex happen naturally.

Once a month. Expert comments: When a couple only has sex once a month, both parties need to have a frank sex conversation. Experts point out that at this time it is likely that one party has a physical or emotional problem, but the relationship between the couple can still be maintained. Both parties should solve the problem through communication, such as the wife making greater efforts in sex and the husband being willing to lower his sex requirements.

Several times a year. Expert comments: Mary Urapini said that low sexual desire at this time may be the main reason. In fact, it is mostly men who suffer from sexual problems. There are many “causes” such as hormone levels, stress, etc. Men are often taboo about talking about their reduced libido because it is an integral part of "masculinity." In fact, regardless of whether men or women experience reduced sexual desire, they should face the reality and seek medical treatment in time.

Secret tips for a happy marriage

The love between the two is happy, the love is growing, and the flower of love always blooms undefeated. The whole reason lies in the consolidation and development of the relationship between husband and wife.

1. Celebrate commemorative festivals: Wedding anniversaries, each other’s birthdays, love anniversaries, etc. are important days in the love history of the couple. At that time, appropriate forms of commemoration will be used to make both parties feel that the other party has deep love for them, which will play a great role in strengthening the relationship between husband and wife.

2. Remember love often: Love is the precursor to marriage. The scene where a man and a woman in love are so attached to each other that they cannot leave each other for a moment is really wonderful. After getting married, often recalling the love scenes before marriage can arouse the emotional resonance of the couple, increase romantic emotions in the memories, and yearn for the future, thus enhancing the relationship between the couple.

3. Arrange another "honeymoon": The honeymoon when getting married is the period when the couple's relationship is strongest. At that time, the two put aside all the troubles, completely entered the world of love that was better than honey, and enjoyed the joy of "Garden of Eden". After marriage, if you can take advantage of holidays and arrange a "honeymoon" of varying lengths every year, travel to a different place, recreate the love world between the two, and relive the sweet dreams of the past, you will surely be able to continue to create waves of love and make the relationship between the couple stronger and stronger. .

4. Learn to please your lover: Some men and women, when dating each other before marriage, always find ways to please each other, but after marriage, they no longer care about how the other person feels about them. This approach will damage the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, after marriage, lesbians should be as gentle and gentle as ever, caring and caring for their husbands; while gay men should carefully understand their wives' inner feelings, not only be considerate and protective of their wives, but also learn some skills to please their wives, such as Be her adviser when buying clothes, help her make a beauty plan, add some humor from time to time, etc.

5. Compensate for past love debts: Due to limited conditions, many couples fail to repay each other's love in an ideal way when they get married, such as not being able to go on honeymoon, not being able to buy a decent gift for their lover, etc. A few years later, when the conditions are met, remember to complete these unfinished matters to repay the love debt owed in the past. This will make the other person think that you are a very affectionate and passionate person, and their love for you will double. For example, many gay men buy gold jewelry for their lovers after marriage, and many couples who have passed their thirties take re-wedding photos, etc.

6. It’s appropriate to have a little farewell: “A little farewell is better than a wedding.” After living a peaceful married life, consciously leave each other for a period of time, deliberately cultivate the longing for the lover, and then reunite happily. At this time, the emotional heat of the couple's longing can be intertwined into a joyful reunion carnival, pushing the peaceful relationship between the couple to a new peak.

7. Pay attention to your own image: Some people no longer pay attention to their clothes, appearance, etc. after marriage, and they look slovenly. Especially for gay men, the problem in this regard is even more serious. In fact, no matter which side of the couple, they don’t want the other to leave a bad image in the minds of others. Therefore, paying attention to one's own image can not only please the other person, but also help the other person win face in public. Otherwise, it may affect the relationship between both parties.

8. Create unexpected surprises: Surprising the other party unexpectedly often acts as a "stimulant" for the relationship. Meeting relatives from far away, buying something that the other party wants very much, creating an activity for the couple that the other party has not prepared for but likes very much, etc., can make unexpected surprises arise spontaneously, thus bursting out a strong feeling in the surprise. The flower of emotion sets off a joyful wave of love.

9. Prevent children from competing for love: Many couples, after having children, often use all their emotions on their children, often ignoring the emotional needs of their lovers, especially lesbians. This approach is biased. It is necessary to love your children, but this does not mean that you should give up your continued emotional investment in your lover. In this way, it will not only neglect the lover and affect the relationship between husband and wife, but also cast a shadow on the family.

10. Leave time for footbath and love: In the fast-paced modern society, everyone is very busy at work. Many people are too busy with official duties to take care of the love life of the couple, so that the couple often cannot have meals together. Sleeping together affects the consolidation and development of the relationship between the two. Therefore, no matter how busy you are at work, you still have to make clever arrangements and squeeze out time for the two of you to live together and fall in love together.

11. Keep some privacy: No matter how big-minded a person is, they will be jealous of their lover's scandals. As for learning about the other person's erotic affairs, it is even more difficult to tolerate. As a result, it is not uncommon for families to be in crisis. Therefore, it is not a good idea to "conflict the privacy of one's past personal marriage and love history" to the current lover. This will not only do nothing to enhance the relationship, but will also cause an avoidable emotional crisis. Therefore, leaving some personal privacy is a wise choice to consolidate and develop the relationship between husband and wife.

12. Keep your sex life fresh: Sex life is an important way to connect the relationship between husband and wife. A good sex life is the necessary guarantee to consolidate and develop the relationship between husband and wife. Many couples have the same sex life after marriage, which lacks innovation and leads to dull feelings. Therefore, it is necessary to create a fresh sexual lifestyle, by changing the time, place, and position of sexual life, so that both husband and wife can get fresh feelings from the eternally fresh sexual life, and keep the flower of the couple's relationship fresh forever.

13. Be cautious about making friends of the opposite sex: It is normal for couples to have their own social activities after marriage. However, we should pay attention to being cautious when making friends of the opposite sex, and be cautious when interacting, so that the relationship between each other should only be controlled within the gay relationship. Friends of the opposite sex who obviously have a good impression of you or even have bad intentions towards you should take the initiative to distance themselves and handle emotional disputes rationally. The best way is to try to attend as few social events as possible by yourself. Even if you can't refuse, make a request to attend with your loved one. This should be done especially when a "third party" intervenes in danger to avoid any wrongdoing. Support your loved one’s career. Everyone has his or her own career after entering the workplace. Therefore, neither the man nor the woman can only care about their own career and ignore the other's career, nor can they force the other party to sacrifice their beloved career to obey them. That will only hurt each other's feelings. Both husband and wife have the right to pursue their own careers and the responsibility to assume family obligations. The correct approach should be to find ways to take on more family responsibilities and enthusiastically support your lover's career. If both parties can do this, they can resolve conflicts and enhance feelings.

14. Respect each other: People are face-saving. Criticizing your lover in front of others can easily hurt the other person's self-esteem and affect the relationship between the couple. Therefore, you must learn to respect each other. The more people there are, the more you must flatter your lover to win the favor of the other person. Only when the couple is together, can you give him or her some advice, or even make severe criticism, and the other party will happily accept it and feel the deep love you have worked so hard to express in your heart, thus doubling the amount of love you have shown. I will repay you with my love.

15. Be wary of financial crisis: After getting married, if the income and expenditure cannot be balanced, there will be a family financial crisis, which will affect the relationship between the couple. In some families, money belongs to one party. If the financial affairs cannot be disclosed, family conflicts will also arise when one party's financial requirements are not met. These are all worthy of vigilance. Therefore, husband and wife should manage finances together, adhere to the principle of living within their means, be diligent and thrifty, and be careful with their budgets. Always keep some flexible funds on hand in case of unforeseen circumstances. In this way, you can prevent financial crises before they happen and avoid emotional crises before they happen.