In order to have a harmonious sex life, both husband and wife should understand basic sexual knowledge, especially the normal differences in sexual function between men and women. Otherwise, husband and wife cannot cooperate with each other tacitly.

1. What are the differences between men and women’s sexual preferences?

1. Men’s sexual desire is strong and vigorous, and can cause sexual excitement at any time; women’s sexual desire is relatively weak, and sexual excitement is related to the menstrual cycle (generally high sexual desire around the ovulation period and early menstruation). There are a few women who have weak or even no sexual desire before marriage, and their sexual desire gradually increases during sexual intercourse after marriage.

2. Male sexual impulse appears quickly, reaches orgasm quickly, and sexual desire subsides quickly. Generally speaking, it takes about 2-6 minutes (or 3-15 minutes) for a normal male from the beginning of sexual intercourse to ejaculation. Minutes); Female sexual impulses occur slowly, and it usually takes 10-30 minutes (or 5-15 minutes) to reach orgasm. The orgasm lasts longer, and sexual desire subsides slowly.

3. Male sexual desire tends to be concentrated in the sexual organs, and the desire for sexual intercourse is very high; female sexual desire is more extensive and complex, including talking, laughing, tenderness, caressing, etc. Only after reaching a certain level of excitement can there be a requirement for sexual intercourse. The most ideal sex life is for both parties to reach climax at the same time or for the woman to reach climax first and then the man to ejaculate. After the woman reaches orgasm, it does not affect the continuation of sexual intercourse; and, unlike men, women can reproduce orgasms in a short period of time (the degree of sexual pleasure varies from person to person. The same person will not have the same level of pleasure every time they have sex). Same).

2. What is the most appropriate frequency?

How many times of sexual intercourse is appropriate is a difficult question to answer. The strength of sexual desire varies from person to person, and even for the same person, it is affected by many factors such as age, physique, personality, occupation, climate, environment, emotions, etc. Therefore, the number of sexual intercourse cannot be prescribed mechanically, but must be adjusted appropriately according to the specific circumstances of both parties. During the newlywed period, sexual desire is stronger and sexual intercourse is more frequent. In the first few months after marriage, it is usually 2 to 3 times a week. As you age, it will gradually decrease to once every 1-2 weeks. People in poor health need less frequent exercise. Husbands and wives often have more frequent sexual intercourse when they meet again after a long absence. This is human nature, but it should also be moderated.

Whether sex life is appropriate can be judged by how you feel the next day. If both parties do not feel tired, but feel full of energy and energetic at work, this indicates that the sex life is moderate. If there are symptoms such as lack of sperm, lightheadedness, loss of appetite, dizziness and palpitation, it means that it is excessive and should be tempered. There are a few couples with strong sexual desire who have frequent sexual intercourse, but both parties are still refreshed and energetic, which should be considered appropriate.

3. The longer the better?

The most appropriate time for each sexual intercourse is preferably before going to bed at night to allow for rest and recovery after sexual intercourse. Sometimes the man has a heavy workload during the day and his body feels tired. It is best to take a short nap before having sexual intercourse to avoid premature ejaculation.

In addition, in the following situations, the man or woman must restrain sexual desire and reduce or avoid sexual intercourse.

1. It is not advisable to have sexual intercourse when you have just recovered from a serious illness.

2. It is not advisable to have sex when you are overtired, drunk or in a bad mood.

3. During menstruation, sexual intercourse must not be allowed.

4. Sexual intercourse is prohibited in the first and last three months of pregnancy.

5. Sexual intercourse should be avoided after delivery until the uterus recovers (about 6-7 weeks).

6. After a woman has an annulus inserted (or removed) and a man has a vasectomy, sexual intercourse is prohibited within two weeks. After a woman undergoes fallopian tube ligation, she should avoid sexual intercourse for one month.

7. Other situations in sexual life that doctors believe should be avoided.