I am now 29 years old and have become an older leftover girl. I have been on a blind date for the past two years. If we didn’t have any feelings for each other at the beginning, I would not decide to get along again. Nowadays, it is popular to find single college students, who I feel are potential stocks. I am a college student and I look ordinary. But I usually don’t have any feelings when we meet. I feel that the other person is better, but I always feel that there is some spiritual distance. I don’t like boys from the city. I feel that most of them lack a sense of responsibility. Recently, I met a boy. There was something about him that I liked, but there were a few issues that I couldn't figure out during the process of getting along with him. He is two years older than me. The first time we met, it was a very windy day. Because I have had blind dates before, my principle is to try to make the boy spend the least amount of money for the first time. He and I made an appointment to meet in the park in the afternoon, but the wind was very strong that day and continued to blow in the afternoon, so I said we should meet at McDonald's, but he was waiting for me at the door. When we met, he also said that we should go for a walk in a nearby park. I thought at that time that I was too old to be willful and make unreasonable conclusions about someone because of such things. During the conversation, he thought I was pretty good and felt quite embarrassed. Yes, he said that he should go and drink hot drinks. I was afraid that I would catch a cold, so I went.

A week later, he asked me to meet. He never texted or called me, but I still met him. I still felt that I didn’t understand him and couldn’t deny him directly. When we chatted, I said frankly that I views and attitudes. We had the same attitude, but he mentioned that he couldn't accept the fact that his future wife was not a virgin. Because he was a soldier and had little contact with women because of his work, and because of this complex, he had never found a girlfriend. For I thought it was better for him to tell me about this than some men who obviously have such a complex and are very casual and still ask women to do whatever they want. At the same time, I also made it clear that he didn't have to worry about his concerns on me.

Regarding him, he looks quite masculine, has his own principles, and his horizons are not very broad. After being with him, you will live an ordinary life, but I think this is pretty good, but I recommended it to you before. I couldn't figure out whether he was a good man or not. I always judged others and was obsessed with the authorities. I was at a loss when it happened to me. There was also the fact that he didn't send text messages or make phone calls. I also expressed my feelings for him. I was dissatisfied, and he improved after knowing it, but I felt like it was coming. I don’t know if it was me being careless or it was something bad on his part.

Also, my relatives were all concerned about my life-long affairs. When I called them and heard that he was a worker, not a college student, they all disagreed, which made me very stressed. One day, I suddenly saw a male classmate of mine on the street. I wouldn't find someone like him with his conditions, but it feels good to be married. I think the girl being left behind is mostly my own problem, but I don't know where my problem is? Teacher Li, please help. help me. I have been trying to be a good girl, but when it comes to emotional problems, I have no direction, and I have very few contacts with boys. Either I don't like people, or I meet someone I like but I am not sure whether the person I am looking for is suitable for me.

Reply:

Hello! It is indeed a pity for a 29-year-old girl to have no real love experience.

When it comes to your relationship problems, there are three areas to be exact.

The first is what kind of man to choose? The second is how to contact and find a man who likes you? The third is how to solve your marriage problems as soon as possible under the expectations of your family and the pressure of age?

What kind of man should a woman choose? This power lies in the hands of the woman. From the perspective of marriage and family stability, women should give priority to men who like them rather than men who women like. It is difficult for many women to understand this, because women need to break the image of the prince in their hearts before they can accept such a theory; there are also many women who can only understand and understand this truth after experiencing painful love and marriage. A man's liking for a woman is short-lived. If it is just a woman who likes a man rather than a man who likes a woman, then the woman is destined to be miserable.

Secondly, it is the man’s personality traits. A man should be like a man. This is the first trait that women should consider when choosing a man. Then a man should be good at expressing himself. The happiness of love requires sweet words from men, and ordinary life after marriage requires effective communication between men and women. If a man is not good at communication or expression, women are destined to lose a lot of romance and spiritual communication, which is very painful. A man's firm will is the third issue that needs to be considered in men's traits. Married life will encounter such problems and difficulties. If a man does not have a firm will, a woman is doomed to face them painfully. At the same time, a man's will is also the most important factor affecting whether a man's career can develop. The answer to measuring a man's potential can often be found by observing a man's will in difficult times.

How to approach men is a problem that many women, especially white-collar women, need to face.

Man is a visual creature. Women will meet men everywhere as long as they can catch their eyes. This requires women to be good at expressing themselves. A woman's beautiful appearance is very important for a woman to successfully recommend herself to a man. Women should pay attention to the makeup on their face, hair, lips, etc. At the same time, women also need to match their clothes, and they also need to use some perfume that attracts men. Nowadays, many professional women no longer pay much attention to their own grooming, which reduces the charm of women, which is indeed a pity.

At the same time, women need to pay attention to the cultivation of their own connotations. That kind of woman who only has a gorgeous appearance but no inner cultivation may be favored by men temporarily, but she will win his eternal love.

Women need to know that falling in love is a major event in life and that getting a good marriage requires hard work. The idea of ​​expecting God to send Prince Charming to you is childish. Women must have confidence in themselves. You can actively contact men through online marriage proposals, blind dates, gatherings of classmates and colleagues, etc. As long as a woman insists on doing it, a man will definitely come to her side.

Faced with growing age and the care of family members, women often feel tremendous pressure. Some women often choose to get married hastily, as if completing a task assigned by others. This is unwise and even more dangerous.

Many women delay their love life due to study or work reasons. The first thing women need to do when facing pressure is to clarify their thoughts, and at the same time take positive and cautious actions, but do not act hastily.

Learning to concentrate on one thing is an important rule for success in life. Faced with the pressure brought by their age and excessive concern from their families, what women need is to concentrate their energy on love and marriage issues. Many things seem to have no clue, but through continuous efforts, the best solution to the problem can often be found. Marriage is actually the same. To put it bluntly, falling in love is something that needs to be completed at a certain stage in life, just like many things we have done. Nothing special about it.

Letting go of immature thoughts is something women need to pay attention to. Paying too much attention to men's conditions and one's own inner feelings are often obstacles to women's marriage. Let the man who likes you catch your eye first, and then through constant understanding, the man you may not like becomes your lifelong partner.

Editor: Love itself is a process, and marriage is a journey of life. A good relationship and marriage requires a woman to be prepared and take action. Enjoying life in pain is the absolute truth of life.

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