The post-80s generation has shaken off the title of "Beat Generation" and has become the main force in social construction. However, when the post-90s generation has reached the age of late marriage, there are still a large number of people born in the 80s who have no partners and have become leftover men and women. The issue of leftover women has received too much attention, so we won’t go into details and let’s take a look at the issue of leftover men. Single men born in the 1980s often face the following psychological dilemmas.

Should you marry for your parents or yourself

While single men are busy starting their careers, their parents are worried. Parents who are eager to have a grandchild have launched waves of aggressive attacks, forcing single men to go on blind dates. They have asked relatives and friends to help introduce them, and even made their own decisions to help their children sign up for a blind date club, or even participated in a blind date in the park with their children's photos. General Assembly.

However, many people born in the 1980s who have been accustomed to listening to their parents since childhood are not mature enough and do not have the confidence to start their own families. Therefore, many people born in the 1980s who married according to their parents' wishes had conflicts and divorce soon after marriage. There are also many single men who dare not go home to avoid their parents’ nagging. Should you get married for your parents or for yourself? If you get married for the sake of your parents, it will only lead to an unsatisfactory married life. It's not sweet to be forced!

I can’t find a girlfriend if I don’t have a house

In a materialistic society, many women's requirements for choosing a mate discourage single men. In the face of houses, cars, savings, and all kinds of material things, love has become the least valuable thing.

As a result, many single men with less than advantageous conditions develop a sense of inferiority. In the process of choosing a mate, they first lower their status by one level, and they do not have enough self-confidence to interact with girls. Gradually, "men with low self-esteem" become He became a "leftover man". As a man's inferiority complex becomes stronger, he becomes less able to hold his head up in front of women and more difficult to attract the attention of the opposite sex, so it is inevitable that he will be called a "leftover man".

In fact, only confident men can make women feel safe. As long as boys become confident, many girls will feel dependent. Only a confident man can allow women to see the future and have confidence in the future. This is the greatest guarantee for solving the problem of "leftover men".

Choose from thousands of choices to create a "leftover man"

In the relationship between men and women, the choice is mutual. Some men with good conditions have too high requirements and choose from thousands of girlfriends. Just jump around and leave yourself alone.