Whether a woman is considered feminine or not, this factor is not decided by the woman, it still depends on the man. This is like saying that men think that they are particularly masculine and that they are pure men, but women don't think so. The reason is the same. So, what kind of woman is considered feminine? After all, women have their own beauty, and so does femininity. Let’s summarize what kind of women are the most interesting in men’s eyes.

These women are the most attractive in the eyes of men

A woman with a gentle personality

Gentleness should be a woman's nature. You don't have to be beautiful, but you can't be gentle. Because youth is fleeting, and only "gentleness" can allow women to retain lasting charm, and this charm is a kind of "femininity". It is hidden in a woman's tenderness and reflected in her thoughtfulness. To be honest, no man can escape the gentle and considerate embrace of a woman. This kind of tenderness and considerateness is a kind of joy, which he enjoys, and at the same time, it unknowingly pleases and infects others. I once remembered a line in Xu Zhimo's poem, "The most tenderness is the gentleness of the lowered head, like the shyness of a water lotus that cannot bear the cool breeze." This must be the truest portrayal of "femininity".

A woman with outstanding taste

A woman with mature thoughts and taste will always think from the perspective of others. She is never ostentatious and her clothes may not be fashionable, but she is always dignified and decent. She is harmonious and considerate in getting along with others, making people always feel beautiful, generous and full of femininity towards her. When I say beauty, I don’t mean a woman’s beautiful appearance, but her pleasing femininity. Because they understand themselves, know what suits them, and what can be passed on to others. Such a woman is like a glass of mellow wine, leaving people with endless aftertaste.

A kind-hearted woman

The most precious quality in personality is kindness. Women are beautiful because of their kindness, and this beauty is reflected in a simple, sincere, healthy and uplifting mood. In life, a woman must understand that kindness is a way of life, and gratitude is an attitude towards life. In other words, a woman with "taste" must be a woman who knows how to be grateful. She always believes that life is always beautiful, can live a more intelligent and interesting life, get along with others full of love, and use "femininity" to create a more harmonious life. living environment and reap warmer emotional rewards. This is also the kind of "femininity" that men want most!

A well-educated woman

In ancient times, when a woman was said to be good, she was said to be well-educated and sensible. This is a traditional Chinese virtue. It is the most basic requirement of human morality and the noblest state. Just imagine, if a woman can be tolerant in everything and know etiquette everywhere, then she must be a very cultivated person, and this kind of cultivation is a kind of "femininity". Specifically speaking, being tolerant to others requires us not to be resentful in the face of various misunderstandings and grievances, not to demand too much of others, and not to hold on to the shortcomings of others; to demand ourselves with the attitude of being strict with others, and to be tolerant. Be tolerant of others with your own attitude, and tolerate others with a broad mind.

A woman who knows how to act coquettishly

One of the characteristics of women's nature is to act coquettishly. A woman's coquettish behavior can always make a man have the desire to protect her, and can also arouse his pity for her. Her coquettish movements and language, affectionate eyes, charming smile, and charming face are always worth a thousand words. Especially when a woman lies in a man's arms and moans, no matter how many worries she has in her heart, they will disappear. To put it bluntly, men like women who are "just right to act coquettishly". You must know that in a woman's "acting like a spoiled brat", it exactly implies the femininity of "as quiet as a clear pond and as moving as ripples". This "taste" can make men intoxicated.

A woman who knows how to pretend to be confused

We often say that it is difficult to be confused, but in fact the most difficult thing is to pretend to be confused while pretending to understand. Women who are too smart are not liked by men. Smart women must learn to "pretend to be confused in small matters and adhere to principles in big matters." A truly smart woman knows that there are many times in her life that she has to "pretend to be confused while pretending to understand." Know how to manage life to the realm of inaction. It was a smile that understood everything without revealing anything. A woman's "pretending to be confused" is actually a sign of intelligence. This will also show your lovely inner beauty. It is also a release of "femininity", conveying the aura of a woman, and is also a way for women to pursue themselves. realm.

Several principles you need to know to maintain emotions

Equality

Equality is one of the important conditions for the maintenance of intimate relationships. According to equity theory, people are most satisfied with intimate relationships under the premise of proportional justice, that is, when their contributions should be proportional to their benefits. In love and marriage, long-term fairness is more important. Most happy couples do not care about how much they pay and how much they gain. Instead, they pursue a kind of rough equality, that is, how much they pay is roughly equal to how much they take away. For example, in family life, the uneven distribution of housework can easily lead to a sense of inequality between husband and wife. Therefore, the person who does more work has more say reflects this fairness. If one of the spouses is If you don't do anything at home and you still have to point fingers at each other, then this kind of relationship is more likely to cause problems.

Attribution

Another factor that determines whether people are satisfied with an intimate relationship is how people interpret events. Happy couples often make partner-enhancing attributions, that is, attributing each other's good behavior to the other's internal causes, and attributing each other's bad behavior to the situation; on the contrary, unhappy couples Often make depressive attributions (distress-maintaining attributions), that is, regard the other person's good behavior as luck, and attribute their bad behavior to their personality traits. These two attribution styles are related to both individual personality traits and the communication styles of the couple.

Jealousy

Jealousy is a negative emotional reaction that occurs when important relationships related to the individual's self-concept are threatened by real or imagined threats. It involves a wide range of things, including perceptions of other people's status, jobs, hobbies, girlfriends or boyfriends, and even how they dress. In intimate relationships, jealousy is, on the one hand, a sign of healthy romantic love. It actually reflects an individual's dependence on the relationship. On the other hand, jealousy often triggers negative emotions and behaviors. When these negative emotions accumulate, sometimes they are terrible things, and in many cases they damage the relationship. Due to space limitations, we will not discuss it in detail here.

Communication

In addition to inequality-induced tensions, negative attribution tendencies, and jealousy, another reason for problems in close relationships is a lack of communication. Relationships that are on the verge of breakdown often contain a lot of complaints and ignore the other person's care. They are unable or unwilling to express negative emotions to the other person, that is, they are too lazy to communicate with the other person. When interacting, both parties often fall into a circle of negative interactions. The positive behaviors of both parties are ignored, while the negative behaviors are exaggerated. Happy couples often argue with each other to understand each other's point of view, but more often in a constructive and perspective-taking way. Psychologists call this psychological state perspective taking, that is, trying to Understanding what others think and feel about an issue is extremely important to maintaining a healthy relationship. It is precisely because of these arguments that the couple understands each other better, and the relationship will last longer.