It is obvious to everyone that the divorce rate in our country has skyrocketed last year. Scholars from all walks of life have different opinions on the causes of extramarital affairs, but most of them tend to believe that people who have extramarital affairs must have one of the following ten psychological signs.

1. Compensation Psychology

Some people, because their husband and wife are separated and unbearably lonely, or because one of the spouses has physical defects and cannot be physically satisfied, or the relationship between the couple is not harmonious, takes the initiative to find a third party or is willing to accept compensation from a third party, thus forming an extramarital affair. In fact, sex life is not the entire content of a couple's life. As long as the couple strengthens their connection, communicates more emotionally, and misses each other in their hearts, their lives will still be fulfilling, and there is no need to compensate.

2. The psychology of debt

Some lovers fail to get married in the end, and both parties get married separately, or one party gets married and the other party does not want to get married but still has a crush on the other party. When one party has difficulties in life or the relationship between the couple is not harmonious, the other party feels that they still owe the other party love and actively invests in the old lover. Embracing old feelings revives, resulting in extramarital affairs.

In fact, lovers may not always get married. Since both parties have already started a family or the other party has already started a family, they should face the reality and cherish the relationship between husband and wife. When the other party has difficulties in life or the relationship between the couple is not harmonious, use extramarital affairs to repay the other party's love, instead of It is better to say that it is helping the other party than it is harming the other party, which is not helpful.

3. Greed for money

Because some people are greedy for the other person's money, regardless of their own personality, they take the initiative to commit themselves to the other party in exchange for a few coins, thus forming an extramarital affair. In fact, personality is a priceless treasure, and money is something outside the body. The more you use, the less you spend, so why bother? Exchange a priceless treasure for a few copper coins? In addition, wealthy people should also be careful not to think that since the other person is coveting your money, why should you give your true love to the other person and have a love affair.

4. Picture Psychology

Some people covet the beauty of the woman or the strong body of the man and take the initiative to express love, which leads to extramarital affairs. In fact, physical beauty will naturally disappear with age. Only inner beauty is eternal. Like fine wine, it becomes more mellow as time goes by.

Therefore, the most important thing is to be good at discovering the shining points of your spouse and show your true feelings. In this way, beauty will naturally appear in the eyes of your lover.

5. The psychology of gratitude

Some people get help from each other because they have difficulties in life, or because their husbands are away for a long time and the family has been taken care of by the other party for a long time, and they have no way to repay it, so they have to offer their bodies, which leads to extramarital affairs.

In fact, since the other party sincerely helps you and does not expect anything in return from you, you can just remember the other party's kindness to you, so why bother dedicating yourself to it? If this affects the other party's family, it is not a good intention but a bad thing.

6. Revenge

Some couples have extramarital affairs because one party is having an affair and refuses to listen to advice. In order to retaliate against the other party, the other party takes the initiative to seek a third party. In fact, if you know that it is wrong for the other party to have an affair, why would you go looking for a third party? Isn't it just knowing that you are wrong and making a mistake? Moreover, marriage is free, and divorce is also free. If the relationship has indeed broken down and there is no possibility of reconciliation, you might as well divorce and forget about it. It is better to reconcile and break up. It is better to be friends than to take revenge on the other party.

7. Curiosity

Some couples live an ordinary life and feel it is boring, but the hero and heroine of the film and television are in love with their lover, making waves, living a life of flavor, freedom and ease. I also want to experience this kind of life, so in this curious way, Driven by the heart, extramarital affairs occur. In fact, peace and security are blessings. Don't look at the height of this mountain and not know the blessings when you are in the midst of blessings.

8. Hedonic Psychology

Some people, influenced by bourgeois ideas of sexual liberation or obscene films, television, books and periodicals, believe that in life, they should eat, drink and have fun while they are young, so they have promiscuous intercourse with the opposite sex and have extramarital affairs.

In fact, sexual liberation and obscene films, books, and magazines are harmful toxins. Each of us should consciously resist them, establish a correct morality and outlook on life, and cannot mistake arsenic for sugar.

9. The psychology of mutual joy

Some men and women help and support each other at work. Over time, both parties have a good impression of each other and are in love with each other, resulting in extramarital affairs. In fact, good helpers at work may not necessarily become a good couple in life. Since both parties help each other at work , support each other, why not get along like brothers and sisters?

10. The psychology of mutual benefit

Because of work constraints, some people use each other, collude with each other, and commit crimes together, becoming two ants on the same line. Neither party can do without the other, resulting in extramarital affairs. In fact, as the saying goes: "Don't stretch out your hands, otherwise you will be caught." Once the affair comes to light and the person is imprisoned, such an extramarital affair will have no choice but to "love" in prison.

3 factors that determine the occurrence of extramarital affairs

1. The size of the third party’s charm

Mainly refers to the charm or personal attraction of a third party. There is a saying that "it is difficult for a hero to be beautiful". A strong and brave hero can't help but be moved when faced with a beautiful woman who has the appearance of sinking fish and falling geese. In ancient and modern times, there have been kings at home and abroad who gave up their country for beauty. It can be seen how powerful the allure of "beautiful women" is. But in real life, we often find that the partner of some people's affair is not as beautiful as his spouse. This situation is mostly caused by a spiritual affair or the personality charm of a third party. The stronger the person's physical attractiveness or personality charm, the greater the chance of having an affair.

2. One’s own morals and values

The most important factor that determines whether an affair will occur is one's own moral concepts and values, especially the sense of responsibility and obligation towards the spouse. Some couples lack love in their lives, but are unwilling to divorce due to the influence of traditional ideas. Having endured a “low quality, high stability” family life for a long time. Women adopt the principle of "if you marry a chicken, follow the chicken; if you marry a dog, follow the dog." Some couples compromise and sacrifice their own happiness for the sake of their children. This type of person will not have an extramarital affair even if they have the opportunity. Generally speaking, people with a stronger sense of moral and social responsibility are less likely to have an affair. Even if he has feelings for someone of the opposite sex, he will keep it buried deep in his heart.

3. The relationship between husband and wife

If both husband and wife are harmonious and happy, an affair will not happen. The reason why an affair occurs is because there is a breeding ground for it. If you and your spouse are not close, there is room for another person to squeeze in. Some couples have a poor relationship foundation before marriage or do not pay attention to the cultivation of relationships after marriage. Conflicts and conflicts continue, and love gradually disappears. At this time, affairs will occur. Therefore, when an affair occurs, both spouses are responsible.