Sex life is indispensable in a married life. Sex life is one of the keys to family harmony, and a harmonious and harmonious sex life is the natural physiological need of men and women and the common desire of both husband and wife. Both parties have the obligation to cooperate closely and have the right to be satisfied together. So in the process of sexual life between husband and wife, there are important psychological factors here, from the stimulation of sexual excitement to emotional communication, from the physical and mental investment of both parties to reaching sexual climax together. What is the secret to a harmonious sex life? Below, the editor of Seeking Medical Consultation will introduce it to female friends:

(1) Give priority to sex life:

Happy couples regard sex life as an important part of a harmonious relationship. As long as possible, they will do everything possible to protect their sexual life and satisfy their sexual needs.

(2) Booked room date:

Agreeing on a date for sexual intercourse in advance will deepen the relationship between husband and wife, and will also attract and yearn for each other's passion. If a quarrel happens to happen on the agreed night, you should know how to put your worries aside and concentrate on having a happy sex life. This often eliminates your worries unconsciously and resolves the conflicts caused by the quarrel.

(3) Diversity of sexual intercourse:

Loving each other and caring for each other are of course an important factor in strengthening the relationship between husband and wife. For a harmonious and happy couple, the tenderness and sweetness between them can be seen in their words, actions and even every look in their eyes. Only such a couple can be called a pair of mandarin ducks. It goes without saying that their sex life is wonderful.

(4) The mystery of touch:

Happy couples are more sensitive than the average person. They understand the knowledge of touch. Hand touching, hugging, and kissing can not only transmit sexual stimulation, but also stew the "heat" of sexual desire. Some psychologists tell people that touching and kissing are often more sexually satisfying than intercourse. Couples who are ignorant of the secrets of sexual intercourse should pay attention to cultivating their knowledge of touch.

(5) Make "life" full of humor:

Humor will also help increase your sexual interest. One day, a husband received an anonymous letter, which read: "Beautiful man, if you agree to spend a passionate night, please come to the Fairy Mountain Hotel to find me at 8 o'clock tomorrow night." The husband recognized his wife's handwriting and went to the appointment on time. Indeed, he had a rich, interesting and unique evening.

There are prescriptions for sex at different ages

20-30 years old, add some foreplay and be patient

Case: The theme words of other people’s wedding nights are charming and lingering, while Xiaomei’s theme words are “regret”. At the age of 25, she and her husband were childhood sweethearts. They have been in love for many years but have never gone beyond that. After seeing off the last group of guests on their wedding night, the passion they had accumulated for many years suddenly burst out. Unexpectedly, before Xiaomei got into the mood, her husband could no longer restrain himself and ran the entire race alone. Xiaomei complained a little, but was too embarrassed to say anything.

Expert analysis: Most people's first marriages are concentrated in this age group, but it is difficult for men and women to have a harmonious sexual rhythm at this time. On the one hand, men in their 20s are aroused quickly, allowing a young, strong, and long-awaited "groom" to be gentle and tender in every possible way when he first tastes the sweetness of sex. This is a problem for most men. A luxury. On the other hand, although women desire sex, they are still shy and reserved, and are likely to act reluctantly in order to cooperate with their partners.

Sex prescription: Sex in your twenties and thirties should focus more on arousing women. Before having sex, you should know more about each other, have enough foreplay to stimulate your wife, and be considerate and tolerant enough to avoid being too rough. Men should be patient and learn to start with non-sexy areas, such as the neck, cheeks, arms, etc. In terms of mentality, you should keep in mind that "the future is long" and gradually improve the quality of sex. At the same time, wives should actively explore their bodies. Share more of your sexual feelings with your husband and give him the right hints.

30-40 years old, change tricks and improve quality

Case: Mr. Sun, a salesman, is a workaholic. He has a dream, which is to earn enough money for retirement before the age of 40. To do this, he works 15 hours a day, 6 days a week. Slowly, his wife began to complain about him. Mr. Sun was a little confused: When he first got married, he was chasing after his wife to be intimate with her. Why is it the other way around now?

Expert analysis: The age of 30 or 40 is a turning point for male sexual desire: holding important positions in the workplace, having elders and younger children at home, marriages experiencing or about to enter the "seven-year itch"... these will affect desire and sexual desire. Performance. But women in this age group have gotten rid of the shyness and passivity of their youth, and can instead achieve multiple orgasms during intercourse.

Prescription for sex: Although male and female sexual desire begins to reverse, after many years of marriage, couples have established a unique sense of intimacy and trust, which can make sex of higher quality. In order to take the sex at this stage to the next level, women should take the initiative according to various reactions and signs of their husbands. For example, the wife can wear a sexy pajamas, walk up and down in front of her husband casually, and then carefully touch his neck, arms, shoulder blades, and spine. Studies have shown that the nerves near the male spine directly transmit stimulation to the sexual organs.

40-50 years old, talk about love and express concerns

Case: Mrs. Zheng, who just celebrated her 47th birthday, described her married life this way: At this age, she can finally let go of her mental burden and clearly know what she wants and how to get it. But the reality is that either the person next to you sleeps soundly when you are passionate, or the body goes on strike when you are in full swing.

Expert analysis: After the age of 40, women's ovarian function declines, estrogen levels decrease or are lacking, resulting in vaginal dryness and insufficient moisture, leading to discomfort during sexual intercourse. Men's erectile ability in this age group also begins to decline. Muscle atrophy, muscle strength decreases, and flexibility and sexual performance are not as good as before. Because these manifestations often come "out of the blue," this decade is the stage in which sexual disharmony is most likely to occur.

Sex prescription: There are various ways to have sex. It is recommended that couples at this age use sweet love words, gentle touch, affectionate kissing and other methods to obtain sexual pleasure. Couples can also use some sex-helping techniques and tools at any time according to their own circumstances. In addition, you should find a quiet and private environment, talk openly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and needs about sexual intercourse, and sincerely express your "sexual concerns." As long as there is proper communication, any obstacles that may arise during sex can be reasonably resolved.

50-60 years old, hug and caress, retain the passion

Case: 65-year-old Shen and his wife rarely have close contact. One night, the two people recalled the past memories of their youth together. When in love, Lao Shen couldn't help hugging and caressing his wife. After a while, Lao Shen felt a heat wave surge in his heart, and the long-lost desire came back.

Expert analysis: The famous American men's website "Ask Him" ​​pointed out that even people around 60 years old should still have regular and high-quality sex. If you live a completely asexual life before the age of 65, it may be a disease.

Sex prescription: Conceptually, Chinese elderly people should understand that moderate sexual stimulation can regulate the brain nervous system and enhance the body's adaptability. It can also enhance the self-confidence of the elderly and is a good medicine for health and longevity. At this time, fully hugging, kissing, and caressing can also provide each other with sexual satisfaction and pleasure. Carefully caress every inch of your partner's skin and feel the traces left by time. Say a few more love words such as "I love you" and "You are still so beautiful" to help set the mood.

After 60 years old, increase the frequency and bring vitality

Case: Two days ago, Lao Cai and his wife celebrated their silver wedding anniversary. But he felt a little regretful. Because that night, Lao Cai proposed to have some tenderness with his wife, but was rejected: "I don't have that idea anymore, and it's not interesting anymore."

Expert analysis: In a study published in the "British Journal of International Urology", experts ranked the sexual satisfaction of people of all ages, namely: 20 years old > 50 years old > 40 years old > 30 years old > 60 years old > 70 years old. Professor Sophie Fossa, a professor at the University of Oslo in Norway, who participated in this study, said that after the age of 50, sex is like a blooming rose. But for Chinese couples, after the age of 50, they are basically insulated from sex.

Prescription for sex: The person who often avoids it should take the initiative. Sex is also a skill. As long as you practice more, you will get better and better with it. Sex does encounter some awkwardness at this point. After women enter menopause, they are prone to vaginal dryness, so prepare a bottle of lubricant. Men's erection problems can be improved with oral medications.

What needs to be reminded is that sex after the age of 50 cannot simply be measured by orgasm and pleasure. Rather, it is about letting both parties feel the vitality and vitality brought by sex, and experience the romance and entanglement of youth.