Whether it is the ordinary ideal of "a wife and children on the hot bed" or the life goal of a talented scholar and a beautiful lady like "to be a married couple and stay together forever", the traditional custom of couples living in the same room and sleeping in the same bed can be said to have been passed down through the ages. It has become the basic rule of the two-person world in a marriage relationship among Chinese people. However, in recent years, there have been more and more claims that sleeping in separate beds for couples is good for health. Is it good for couples to sleep in separate beds?

There are many benefits to couples sleeping in separate beds

"From a medical perspective, there are few discussions on the pros and cons of couples sleeping in separate beds in domestic academia, but it is more common abroad for couples to sleep in separate beds. It can be said that sleeping in separate beds for couples is beneficial to both parties' health, relationship, and health. "There are certain benefits to maintaining individual independence and private space," said Director Yu, the attending physician of the Department of Gynecology at Guangzhou Chang'an Hospital. "There is nothing wrong with couples sleeping in separate beds, but there is a basic prerequisite: both parties must have a good emotional foundation." The benefits are reflected in the following points:

First of all, sleeping in separate beds can maintain the "intimate sense of distance" between couples. From a social perspective, men and women are both social beings. As a couple, each has his or her own social circle and privacy that they do not want to share with outsiders. Living in separate beds not only retains a personal space for each person, but is also very beneficial to the mental health of both parties. It can maintain a "close sense of distance" between husband and wife.

Secondly, it can create a "mysterious freshness" between couples. The old husband and wife have been loving each other for many years, but there will always be a day of "aesthetic fatigue". Some say the secret to keeping a marriage fresh is to keep it mysterious. When the other party's food, drink, and toilet are all in sight, the last trace of mystery between the two parties is gone. He can sleep soundly and sweetly next to you, see his dandruff falling on the pillow during the banquet, and smell the rotten smell in his mouth; but you show him the image of an unkempt, nagging yellow-faced woman every day. , the fresh and pleasant image of a lady is no longer there. At this time, properly living in separate beds can create a sense of freshness for both parties, add a bit of romance to married life, play the role of "a little separation is better than a newlywed", and lay some expectations for the next intimate contact. As long as any One party creates a little atmosphere, and when the spark of love ignites again, sex life will naturally be like a duck in water, and the quality will be greatly improved. This is of course hundreds of times better than staying together for a long time and having a sexual life of quantity and quality.

Third, from a physiological point of view, couples sleeping in separate beds can also avoid excessive sexual intercourse. When a couple sleeps in the same bed, one party's words, demeanor, and body posture may arouse the other party's desire, especially the man's, and lead to excessive sex life. Traditional medicine believes that the kidney stores essence, produces marrow, connects the brain, and controls the bones. Excessive sexual intercourse can cause kidney deficiency, which can lead to dizziness, mental fatigue, soreness and weakness of the waist and knees, and reduced work efficiency. In severe cases, it can even induce prostatitis, urination, and so on. road infection. If you separate beds, sexual stimulation will be greatly reduced. Living a restrained sex life and recharging your energy will help protect kidney qi.

Seize the opportunity to sleep in separate beds

Health experts believe that couples should sleep in separate beds when the following situations occur:

1. Women’s “four periods” including menstrual period, pregnancy, puerperium, and lactation. During this period, the wife needs the best health care, and it is very necessary for the husband and wife to separate beds at this time. For example, having sex during the menstrual period is prone to inflammation of the female reproductive organs and irregular menstruation; having sex in the early stages of pregnancy is prone to miscarriage; having sex in the late pregnancy is prone to premature birth or intrauterine bleeding, infection, etc.; childbirth Having sex soon afterward may cause puerperal fever; young mothers who are breastfeeding consume a lot of physical strength and energy, and their babies are noisy, so they often don't have a good rest at night. If husband and wife sleep in separate beds, the above-mentioned problems can be avoided, which is beneficial to the wife's "fourth phase" health care. (·These gynecological diseases are related to men)

2. If one spouse has infectious diseases such as viral hepatitis, tuberculosis, influenza, bacillary dysentery or skin diseases, it is very easy to infect the other spouse if they sleep in the same bed. In addition, if the wife suffers from fungal vaginitis or Trichomonas vaginalis, she can also transmit it to her husband during sexual contact. If couples sleep in separate beds, it is easy to implement sensible isolation and effectively avoid mutual infection or cross-infection.

3. One spouse often leaves early and comes back late due to work needs. In order to avoid disturbing each other’s sleep in the middle of the night, it is best to live in separate beds to ensure adequate sleep, eliminate fatigue, and restore physical strength, which is naturally beneficial to the body and mind. ​

4. When couples have a good emotional foundation, but find that their sexual interest is gradually fading, they can choose to sleep in separate beds to cultivate their sexual interest. Some couples have different needs for sex at different frequencies. Sometimes one of them thinks about it while the other doesn't. In order to give in to the other, they end up unhappy. In this case, you can also choose to live in separate beds. You might as well wait until the sexual needs of both parties are consistent before sleeping in the same bed.

Don’t let sleeping in separate beds become a “double-edged sword”

Experts point out: Living in separate beds is a lifestyle chosen by modern couples, but it does not apply to everyone. For couples who have a deep emotional foundation but whose sexual life is relatively dull, living in separate beds is a good medicine that can rekindle their love and relive their dreams. However, if the relationship between husband and wife is already cold and tense, and they have been separated for a long time, it may make the already cold relationship between husband and wife even colder, widen the rift, create a deeper gap, and even allow a third party to take advantage of the situation. Therefore, couples who have conflicts must grasp the limits of sleeping in separate beds, and do not let the temporary separation become a permanent separation.

There are also some couples who have a very good relationship and are heavily dependent on each other. After sleeping in separate beds, you miss each other and find it difficult to fall asleep, which may even cause unnecessary trouble to both parties' work, life, and emotions. In this case, there is no need to forcefully sleep separately.

In addition, it is worth noting that sleeping in separate beds does not necessarily mean sleeping in separate rooms. For middle-aged couples, sleeping in separate rooms when there is a lack of passion may result in the couple never being able to sleep together again. However, the popular methods of "separating beds but not rooms" or "separating quilts but not beds" are good solutions.

In European and American countries, someone invented a mattress that can be pulled apart in the middle. Couples can be together or separated as they wish. This not only solves the problem, but also reflects the unique humor and wisdom of Westerners. Chinese people who have the conditions may wish to give it a try.