Why do women cheat? What are the reasons why women cheat? Let's take a look at the four reasons why a woman has to find an affair.

Loneliness psychology Some husbands are often away from their wives due to work reasons or separation. If such a husband lacks a sense of family responsibility, does not care about his wife, and does not often write letters to express his longing for her, over time, the relationship between husband and wife will inevitably become indifferent, causing the wife to feel lonely and have no spiritual support. At this time, if she meets a suitable member of the opposite sex, the wife will lose her ability to resist temptation, leading to extramarital affairs.

Resentment Psychology Sexual life is a very important content in the life of a couple. If the husband neglects to give his wife tenderness due to sexual dysfunction or is busy pursuing his career, or the husband indulges in drinking and sex outside and cannot meet the normal physiological needs of the wife, over time, the wife will develop resentment, which is very likely to " Hongxing comes out of the wall."

Revenge mentality: Some husbands are unfaithful to their wives and have secret affairs with their wives. Once the affair is exposed, it will often lead to an unpleasant ending. If the wife's considerations are not appropriate, she may have a revengeful mentality in anger: Since you can mess around with women outside, why can't I find sustenance?

Superiority mentality: Some wives have higher education than their husbands, or have a superior status than their husbands. If a husband is unwilling to be proactive, it will easily make his wife "hate iron but not steel" and feel that her husband is not good enough for her. Therefore, wives with better conditions than their husbands in all aspects are more likely to have extramarital changes, because there are likely to be men who are better than their husbands around them.

Let’s talk about when and why men cheat

Therefore, after adulthood, men seem to be strong, but in family life, they still sometimes act like a child who has not grown up. He will hope to extend the honors and privileges he enjoyed in his childhood to his family life. For example, try to live a life where "you can open your mouth when you have food and reach out when you have clothes". In fact, during the initial period of marriage, he can achieve all of this. Most wives will take good care of their husbands because of love and passion for married life.

However, when the wife becomes pregnant, all these privileges are taken away. The little life now occupies the woman's entire body and mind. Because of her strong maternal instinct, the woman puts her energy on the baby to be born, so she may ignore her husband.

What do men think when they watch their wives listening to prenatal music and preparing the baby's diapers every day? On the one hand, they enjoy the joy of being fathers, but on the other hand, they look at their wives' performance with jealousy and disappointment. He is jealous of the happiness of being a mother because he cannot experience this happiness, and at the same time he is disappointed by the decline in his status in the eyes of his wife. The unborn "third party" actually had such great power to sweep away this person's love for him, which really left him helpless.

He will be sexually anxious

Your wife is pregnant, so you often follow the advice of experts and consciously stop or reduce the frequency of sexual intercourse. Even if it is not for safety reasons, your desire for sex will naturally decrease during this period, because your whole body is filled with the joy of being a mother, and all your attention is drawn away by the future little life.

However, men are different. Scientific experiments show that men have sexual fantasies every 6 minutes. If you don't have sex for a long time, and he looks at you every day but can't touch you, what will he think in his heart?

At this time, if there happens to be a pretty girl who is flirting with him, or a few good friends invite him to a romantic place to relax, then the possibility of him "having an affair for sexual reasons" will be greatly increased. . Although he will regret it afterwards and hate his behavior. After all, when you were in dire straits and preparing to be a mother, he was having fun outside. However, men's desires are sometimes not dominated by reason - this is the reason for most affairs. The most direct cause.

His interpersonal communication decreased

Men are social animals, so after work, even if there is no necessary social interaction, even if they are playing games in the office, they would rather look busy. A man who is not busy will be regarded as a sign that he has no career, so he always has some good buddies to support his social life outside the family. Unlike women who are encouraged to go home and are born to be at home to support their husbands and raise children, society A man is rarely encouraged to devote all his energy to family life. Men are used to living a free and unrestrained life. Even after marriage, it is difficult for their hearts to focus on their family.

Responsibility is necessary, but he will still feel very uncomfortable, or at least, he will miss those unrestrained days.

He resents being lectured

When you are pregnant, all kinds of care will naturally follow, especially from your mother. In her heart, you are still a little girl who has not grown up. Now that you are going to be a mother, she naturally understands the hardships involved. She is worried that the son-in-law is careless and not careful enough, so in most families at this time, the mother-in-law comes to the house on her own initiative and is willing to become a voluntary nanny.

But in the eyes of men, this nanny is not so easy to serve. He would listen respectfully on the outside, but feel uncomfortable inside. Because there are many self-righteous men. Men have been taught since childhood that they have to make their own decisions about everything. Even in family life, he should always be the backbone. He is smart, strong, calm, and capable - this is the social evaluation that men have always been proud of. However, just because his wife was pregnant, a "overlord" suddenly came to the family and made irresponsible remarks to him. If you happened to form a united front with your mother to suppress him, he would naturally feel very uncomfortable. What's more, if the privacy of the couple's life is broken, he will be panicked and at a loss.

He will develop pregnancy syndrome

Because of pregnancy, your body shape changes and your mood becomes tense. Any little thing can turn into an emotional storm for you. You will vent some anxiety and irritability on him, and at this time, he can only bear it silently, because he is not the one who gave birth to the child, not to mention he is a man - our society takes it for granted.

But during those days, he was not like you who could wholeheartedly stay at home and be an expectant mother. He has to work hard during the day to support his family and look at his boss's face. When he gets home, he has to get rid of his previous habit of doing less or even no housework. He has to be attentive and considerate to you, and he has to shoulder the heavy responsibility of taking care of the family. At this time, if he happens not to People who have excess energy are bound to feel physically and mentally exhausted.

Therefore, when an expectant father becomes a father, he may also become depressed. This may be due to the pressure of his daily life.

What should a pregnant mother do to prevent her husband from cheating?

1. It is better to perfect yourself than to think randomly

Many women often doubt the loyalty of their husbands or boyfriends and spend a lot of energy on random thoughts. Not only do they lack trust in each other, they also lack self-confidence. I often ask them, life’s time is limited, how much time do we take to truly consider our own life, work and entertainment?

Is it worth spending so much time thinking about irrelevant people and things? Some people will suddenly realize after hearing this, and feel that they should pay more attention to their own growth. Instead of watching their husbands like a thief and torturing themselves until they are mentally damaged and haggard in appearance, they should pay more attention to improving their own qualities and perfecting themselves.

2. You cannot dedicate yourself to the point of losing yourself

After getting married, many women focus their main energy on their husbands and children. They feel that it is enough for their husbands to work hard outside. Since the husband is noble and the wife is honored, they themselves do not seek advancement and gradually become alienated from the outside world. When her husband's career developed and her children grew up, she became redundant, unattractive in the eyes of others, and felt very inferior herself.

3. Women’s happiness comes from themselves

In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is not static, but develops and changes, from romance to reality, from flowers to fruits. In the first three years of marriage, the two were in the infatuation stage, and then entered the attachment stage. Women should consider creating their own happiness instead of waiting for others to give them happiness, and they should not become emotional beggars. Women can have their own social interactions, go shopping, exercise, travel, and learn new skills to make their lives more valuable, make them happier, and make their husbands happy too.

4. Don’t isolate your husband with love

As long as the wife is good to her mother-in-law, she will definitely repay her with more love. Some smart and virtuous wives are particularly kind to the children of their husbands' ex-wives. As a result, they get twice the result with half the effort and win double the love of their husbands and children. But some people don't think of this. The idiom "love the house and the crow" should be very suitable to be used in the life of couples. Competing with your husband's close family members may eventually overturn the balance of his love.

5. Don’t let yourself become a bitch

Some wives wait for their husbands to come back and stare at him. Sometimes they dislike him for not washing the dishes, sometimes they dislike him for throwing socks around, and they become more and more nagging. The husband feels that home is a place to relax, and as a result he becomes more nervous than at work, so he dislikes going home less and less, and his wife complains more and more, forming a vicious cycle.

In fact, the wife did a lot of housework, but her achievements were offset by her nagging. Instead of being grateful, the husband was disgusted. The smart choice is: 1. Do it without saying it; 2. Do it together; 3. Leave him alone and let him do it by himself. In short, you can't be too demanding about perfection in everything, and you have to turn a blind eye. This way, neither of you will feel tired.

To keep your husband from cheating, it is more important to warm up the relationship between the couple during pregnancy. This requires all expectant mothers to do:

1. Before pregnancy: Debugging a harmonious psychology

Husband and wife should be good at actively adjusting the psychological balance between each other. When one party loses his normal psychological state due to temperament or personality reasons, the other party should be good at guiding the other party out of the predicament. In addition, we must be good at arranging appropriate life rhythms to eliminate certain factors that easily lead to psychological disorders. If there is a conflict between husband and wife, you can tolerate it for now, or leave it to be resolved at an appropriate time later, or you can use other methods to digest it naturally. You can also make a conscious emotional investment in preparing for pregnancy. For example, the couple can arrange some commemorative actions, such as taking a group photo when preparing for pregnancy. Do not hide your pregnancy wishes in line with the principles of family planning from relatives and friends around you. Frequently accepting pregnancy-related good wishes and concerns will help to heighten the festive atmosphere of this pregnancy and is also very helpful in improving pregnancy psychology.

In short, a harmonious pre-pregnancy psychology is very important for a healthy pregnancy, and you must make adjustments in these aspects. In addition, the attitude towards having a baby should be based on a solid family and marriage relationship. Both husband and wife are willing to have a baby and are willing to shoulder the responsibilities of being parents. This is the most basic, and only in this way can it be possible to live happily and peacefully. attitude to welcome the arrival of new life, and strive to create the necessary regulations and harmonious family atmosphere.

Intimate words from Lucky Pregnancy Grass: Some couples have unharmonious relationships after marriage and their marriages are on the verge of danger. They want to have children to improve their relationship and use children as the bond of marriage. This can happen in two ways. One is that the marital relationship has indeed improved, and the other is that the arrival of the child does not bring about a turnaround for the shaky marriage, but has no effect on it. This is extremely unfair and irresponsible to the child. of.

2. Second trimester: Moderate sexual life enhances feelings

After 3 months of pregnancy, the placenta gradually forms and the pregnancy enters a stable period; the early pregnancy reaction passes and the pregnant woman begins to feel comfortable. Due to the effects of hormones, pregnant women have increased sexual desire. Coupled with the barrier function of the placenta and amniotic fluid, it can buffer external stimulation and effectively protect the fetus. Therefore, moderate sex life can be carried out in the second trimester of pregnancy, which is also beneficial to the love between husband and wife and the healthy development of the fetus. Domestic and foreign research shows that if couples share love and joy during pregnancy, the children born will be responsive, have early language development and be healthy.

Sexual intercourse in the second trimester is preferably 1-2 times a week. It is worth noting that sexual life during pregnancy should be based on emotional prenatal education. Therefore, a comfortable sex life fully integrates love and sexual desire. During the day, if the husband kisses and touches his wife or the wife gives her husband a kiss, the warmth of love will spread to the other person's heart. This is great for nighttime boudoir love. In turn, considerate sexual life at night promotes the love between husband and wife during the day, making pregnant women happy and full of emotions.

In addition, the husband's semen contains a kind of seminal fluid cytoplasm. It has antibacterial properties comparable to penicillin, can kill Staphylococcus and other pathogenic bacteria, and can clean and protect the vagina of pregnant women.

3. Late pregnancy: Try to meet your wife’s expectations

Understanding the expectations of a pregnant wife from her husband is very beneficial for the husband to help his wife get through the pregnancy smoothly. Here’s what most late-pregnancy wives expect from their husbands:

The third trimester was the final stage of my pregnancy. The increased mental and physical burden will cause me to suffer from various physical and psychological discomforts. When an expectant mother is about to endure the pain of childbirth, she needs her husband's support even more.

Intimate words from Lucky Pregnancy Grass: At this critical moment in the third trimester of pregnancy, expectant fathers should temporarily aggrieve themselves in the spirit of "self-sacrifice". The safe birth of their children is more important than anything else.

The above is all about the most common times when men have affairs. I hope it will be helpful to you.