Every man has had a history of affairs, but in fact, virginity still exists in his heart. So what is the root cause of men’s virginity complex? Find the answer through the content in the article. The four causes of men’s virginity complex are as follows:

1. Many men say to women: "It doesn't matter, I love you as you are now and I don't care about your past."

In fact, this is a completely self-deceiving lie. Men always care about their girlfriend's past. Many men believe that it is their right to explore their girlfriend's past. Therefore, they interrogate women in every possible way without feeling that they are narrow-minded or embarrassed. There are many such men. Women are different. They only pay attention to their boyfriend's present and future. Although they are also interested in their past, they are not the only ones who like to inquire about their past. They may think this way: "Even if he has had some romantic affairs in the past, what will happen if he takes it to heart? It's not a waste of effort!" The reason why women can have this kind of tolerance is mainly because of society's tolerance of men. affected them. Traditional social concepts do not have strict requirements for men. Men can have multiple wives, go to brothels, and play roles, so that women can only turn a blind eye to men's romantic affairs and only want to have sex with them. Be satisfied if you are good to yourself.

Modern women's understanding of men still retains the shadow of the past. To say that there is progress, it means that men are required to be relatively self-sufficient now and in the future, but generally do not investigate men's past. However, traditional society's requirements for women are so strict that even now, a large number of men still believe that they have the right to know all the life experiences of their lovers. Therefore, we can often see this phenomenon: a very good girl can marry a man who was very bad in the past, but a man will not marry a woman who was very bad in the past but is now very good. That is to say, women's "disobedience" or unruliness are not tolerated by men. There is such a socially recognized concept hidden in men's thoughts: the wife a man marries must be pure in the past, present and even in the future. .

2. Men are aggressive and jealous than women.

This promotes a stronger "personal possessiveness" than women - not only wanting to possess this woman's present and future, but also wanting to possess her past. Men have a strong desire for exclusivity. If she is now his girlfriend, but the man is still not satisfied with the exclusivity in front of him, and even wants to take possession of her "past", even if he knows that this is unrealistic, he insists on doing so. This is If this kind of desire reaches evil, it will expand. At this time, a man is only allowed to care about him, and it is best not to care about anyone else except him. The results of this almost abnormal psychology are sometimes terrifying. There are many men like this who are very afraid of having children after starting a family. They think that once they have children, their wives will transfer most of their feelings to the children, which they are unwilling to do. Many men actually think that children are the "third party" that affects the relationship between husband and wife. This shows how possessive men are to an astonishing degree.

Third, it is a universal curiosity-seeking mentality in love.

During this period, men take it for granted that they should know their lover's past. Ask if the woman is a woman from a good family and a beautiful woman from a small family. And I kept asking questions uncontrollably, lest some unpleasant things would bring lifelong regret.

4. Once you find that you are not the first, will you feel like picking up "rags" that others don't want? This is about self-esteem as a man.

Tips for eliminating male virginity complex

Many men seem to be romantic, but in fact many of them have virginity complex. So as a non-virgin, how do you deal with your boyfriend who has this complex? Let’s take a look at the coping strategies introduced in this article.

Some time ago, a netizen opened a thread to discuss the issue of virginity, which received a response from most netizens. Netizens rushed to reply.

Do you have to be a virgin to find a wife?

Some netizens in the forum insisted that a wife must be a virgin: "Aren't we talking about monogamy now? If a woman is not a virgin, it is unfair to the man who loves him. The person who loves him will also feel unhappy. It feels so good... Who can bear the woman he loves so much standing naked in front of another man?” Some netizens made fierce arguments: “If I find out that my wife is not a virgin when I get married, I will give her away.” Kill..."

"Even if a man is good to his wife who is not a virgin, he will always have a shadow in his heart. After all, when he thinks of his wife sleeping with other men in the past, he will definitely feel uncomfortable. Women, you need to understand why men care so much. Are you a virgin? "If you are not a virgin! Don't you have a little shadow in your heart? I am a man! Even if you don't say it on the surface, you will never be happy in your heart! Are we all living in the shadows? ”

For these men with strong virginity complex, what should female friends do? How should we deal with these virginity complexes in men? Tips for relieving male virginity complex are as follows:

It is sad to only require women to be chaste

Female netizens countered that if true love is only for the hymen, it is definitely a man's tragedy. "I really don't know what these men think. When they are not married, they will ask to have sex with their girlfriends. But they also ask that their wives be virgins. Are you? If you are not, what do you have? What right do you have to ask others? Is a woman’s membrane that important to you?”

"It's right to pay attention to chastity, but you can't go too far. How can a virgin's chastity be desecrated? Isn't it caused by so many men? Why don't we hold men accountable? Why don't we care about men's non-virginity? ? Social inequality! Thousands of years of feudal traditional thinking is bullying women! ”

"How many men are willing to listen to that woman tell her that her first time was given to another man before getting her? Do you know white lies? The history that no one knows is innocent. Men have their pasts, and so do women. So there is no need to care about the past, as long as the present and the future are good. Mature people don’t ask about the past, smart people don’t ask about the present, and open-minded people don’t ask about the future.”

Virginity is not important, as long as you have a tacit understanding of your sexual life

Another male netizen hit the nail on the head: "Men, just meet a virgin. I don't care if your wife is a virgin. There is true love, passion, and silent cooperation in bed. That is something that neither virgins nor prostitutes can do." To give you a virgin wife is inhumane if she has a cold personality. Don’t forget, most men have premature ejaculation, and most women are also cold-blooded. Men and women should also pay attention to the matching, and improper matching. Marriage is unlucky. Those who are old-fashioned should find an old-fashioned one. Ideology is also very important."

A male netizen commented: "I am a man, and I think what I care about more is a woman's future, not whether she is a virgin. Not being a virgin is also caused by those shameless men, which itself is a great trauma and harm to women. It’s unfair, don’t let women shoulder all the responsibilities. Women who have been traumatized should be the ones who know how to cherish their feelings best.”